BPD CRITERIA: IDEALIZATION & DEVALUATION

In today’s episode, we explore and break down idealization and devaluation. Our co-hosts, Melanie Jones and Dr. Gregory Serfer, offer their perspectives on both sides of the coin, followed by insights into how these patterns affect relationships. Dr. Serfer examines their connection, causes, and presence in other mental health conditions. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Dr. Gregory Serfer: [email protected] Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTQuora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-SerferMelanie Jones: [email protected] this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Mel’s Perspective: Idealization and Devaluation4:32 Nicole’s Opening Statement and Beginning Pleasantries5:49 A Breakdown of Idealization (and Idolization)12:52 A Breakdown of Devaluation18:48 Dr. Serfer’s Personal Perspective on Devaluation24:05 Devaluation in Relationships (Parental, Platonic, Romantic, etc)33:06 Idealization and Devaluation In Other Mental Conditions34:14 Causes of Devaluation a.k.a Down the Rabbit Hole36:04 Does Devaluation Interconnect with Idealization?38:35 Trusting Your Gut During Idealization44:38 The Extremes of Idealization and Devaluation49:32 Preservation of Your Mental Health Through Discarding52:48 How Permanent Is the Discard and Split?56:10 Dissociation During A Split or Discard1:03:29 Dr. Serfer’s and Mel’s Final Words1:06:16 Meaning Behind the Term, BPD (continued)(End of Interview)1:13:38 Nicole’s Closing Statement1:14:00 BPD Daily Mantra1:14:17 Outro1:15:37 “When I’m In Your Arms” by Cleo Sol: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=hp0KiJs0S5gEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr.Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, and Handsome DanSound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle