BPD CRITERIA: IDEALIZATION & DEVALUATION

In today’s episode, we explore and break down idealization and devaluation. Our co-hosts, Melanie Jones and Dr. Gregory Serfer, offer their perspectives on both sides of the coin, followed by insights into how these patterns affect relationships. Dr. Serfer examines their connection, causes, and presence in other mental health conditions. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Dr. Gregory Serfer: [email protected] Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-Serfer Melanie Jones: [email protected] In this episode, you will hear: 0:00 Intro (Beginning of Interview) 1:07 Mel’s Perspective: Idealization and Devaluation 4:32 Nicole’s Opening Statement and Beginning Pleasantries 5:49 A Breakdown of Idealization (and Idolization) 12:52 A Breakdown of Devaluation 18:48 Dr. Serfer’s Personal Perspective on Devaluation 24:05 Devaluation in Relationships (Parental, Platonic, Romantic, etc) 33:06 Idealization and Devaluation In Other Mental Conditions 34:14 Causes of Devaluation a.k.a Down the Rabbit Hole 36:04 Does Devaluation Interconnect with Idealization? 38:35 Trusting Your Gut During Idealization 44:38 The Extremes of Idealization and Devaluation 49:32 Preservation of Your Mental Health Through Discarding 52:48 How Permanent Is the Discard and Split? 56:10 Dissociation During A Split or Discard 1:03:29 Dr. Serfer’s and Mel’s Final Words 1:06:16 Meaning Behind the Term, BPD (continued) (End of Interview) 1:13:38 Nicole’s Closing Statement 1:14:00 BPD Daily Mantra 1:14:17 Outro 1:15:37 “When I’m In Your Arms” by Cleo Sol: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=hp0KiJs0S5g Episode Resources: Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/ ❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! ❗ Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Credits: Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr.Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, and Handsome Dan Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle