I Can't Even...A Podcast About Borderlines By Borderlines

In this raw and powerful episode, we continue our conversation with Sarah—a fierce BPD warrior who describes emotional hijacking and high-functioning invisibility to the frustration of being mislabeled and misunderstood, this conversation is as honest as it is empowering. Our guest shares personal experiences with misdiagnosis, medication struggles, and the double-edged sword of caring deeply while being denied care in return.We unpack the power of language, the exhaustion of daily emotional regulation, and why DBT has been a game changer. Whether you're living with BPD or loving someone who is, this episode offers insight, validation, and hope—with just enough humor to keep it real.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Guest: Sarah - BPD WarriorMajor Topic Timeline (Approximate)00:00:00 – 00:01:30 Intro & Acknowledgment of Struggles with BPD 00:01:30 – 00:03:00 Impact of Language and Tone in Support 00:03:00 – 00:06:00 Understanding Emotional Hijacking & Dysregulation 00:06:00 – 00:08:30 Invisible Struggles and Stigma of 'High Functioning' 00:08:30 – 00:10:00 Sisyphus Analogy & Burnout in BPD 00:10:00 – 00:12:00 BPD Warriors Supporting Others But Left Unsupported 00:12:00 – 00:14:30 Misunderstood Emotions and Society's Panic Response 00:14:30 – 00:17:00 BPD vs Narcissism & Mislabeling 00:17:00 – 00:20:00 Frustration with Casual Labeling and Stigma 00:20:00 – 00:22:00 Labels vs. Symptoms: Helpful or Harmful? 00:22:00 – 00:24:00 Medication Misunderstandings in BPD Treatment 00:24:00 – 00:27:00 Self-Compassion & Looking Ahead to the Future Self 00:27:00 – 00:30:00 Final Reflections and Importance of DBT & Self-Help 00:30:00 – 00:32:00 Closing Remarks, Affirmations, and Crisis Resources Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Episode SixteenToday's episode features Sarah - BPD Coach & Warrior.In this raw and powerful episode, we meet Sarah—a fierce BPD warrior whose childhood in a quiet Canadian ghost town was anything but calm. From getting kicked out of first grade for saving ladybugs to building a career surrounded by nature and frogs (yes, real ones), Sarah walks us through what it’s like to grow up misunderstood, mislabeled, and still rise with purpose.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Guest: Sarah - BPD WarriorMajor Topic Timeline (Approximate)0:00:00 – 0:01:30: Introduction to BPD Experience 0:01:30 – 0:02:30: Guest Introduction – Meet Sarah 0:02:30 – 0:07:00: Sarah’s Childhood & Early Sensitivities 0:07:00 – 0:09:40: Nature as a Soothing Mechanism 0:09:40 – 0:11:10: Academic Journey and Finding Purpose 0:11:10 – 0:13:00: Early Feelings of Being Different 0:13:00 – 0:15:30: Advocacy, Anger, and Injustice 0:15:30 – 0:22:30: Building and Redefining Support Systems 0:22:30 – 0:25:30: What We'd Tell Our Younger Selves 0:25:30 – 0:29:00: Importance of Skills like STOP & Self-Compassion 0:29:00 – 0:34:15: Family Dynamics, Triggers & Radical Acceptance 0:34:15 – 0:36:45: The Migs Mello Project & Teaching Kids About BPD 0:36:45 – 0:38:13: Final Thoughts on Crisis Planning & Language 0:38:13 – 0:39:49: Closing Messages & Resources Connect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected] Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby

In this episode, we sit down with a bold, brave voice in the BPD community who also goes by the name King Skies. His story is one of pain, poetry, and perseverance. From childhood group homes to emotional misdiagnoses, he takes us on a journey through the chaos and confusion of life with Borderline Personality Disorder — and how the moment one therapist’s encouragement changed everything and music quite literally saved his life.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:King SkyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kingskiesmusic/00:00 – 00:57 | Welcome + Mission of the Show00:58 – 02:29 | Checking In: How Are You, Really?02:30 – 04:55 | Rollercoasters & Peace Protectors04:56 – 06:39 | Early Signs & Life in Group Homes06:40 – 08:45 | Diagnoses Journey: From DID to BPD08:46 – 10:39 | Isolation, Memes, and Finding Community10:40 – 12:23 | If I Could Talk to My 8-Year-Old Self…12:24 – 14:41 | VENOMOUS: The Music, the Message, the AI14:42 – 17:10 | Music as Lifeline & TherapyCredits:Host, Producer & Research: Nicole [email protected] Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

In today’s episode, I sit down with Gabby — a 35-year-old mother of four, who has walked through trauma most people can’t even imagine. From losing her husband in a shocking arrest, to battling substance use, to navigating the emotional wreckage of CPS and custody loss — Gabby’s story is not just about survival, it’s about showing up raw and real even when the world refuses to see your humanity.This episode is not easy. But it’s necessary.If you’ve ever felt like you’re too broken to be loved, too exhausted to keep fighting, or too complicated to explain — Gabby’s story is here to remind you: you’re not alone, and your story isn't over.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. #BPDWarrior,#MentalHealthMatters,#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder,#HealingOutLoud#TraumaSurvivor,#YouAreNotAlone,#UnmaskingBPD,#RawAndReal,#PodcastForHealing#BreakTheStigma,#MentalHealthPodcast,#RecoveryIsPossible,#MotherhoodAndMentalHealth#CPTSDRecovery,#SelfCompassionJourney,#IStillStand,#ShowMeGrace Episode Summary: Total Runtime: ~43 min0:00–1:30 – Opening & Trigger Warning1:31–3:00 – Meet Gabby3:01–6:00 – Trauma Origins6:01–10:00 – The Day Everything Collapsed10:01–14:00 – Seeking Help, Being Punished14:01–17:30 – Messages to Her Younger Self17:31–21:00 – Parenting & Grandparents21:01–24:30 – BPD Mythbusting24:31–28:30 – Love, Triggers & Relationships28:31–32:30 – Therapy & Memory Loss32:31–35:30 – Future Self Letter35:31–38:30 – Society’s Stigma vs. Personal Truth38:31–41:12 – Closing Thoughts & Contact41:13–43:24 – Outro & Crisis ResourcesEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Connect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

“I’m Not a Monster – I’m a Human with BPD”What if the thing you’ve been taught to hide could become your source of healing?In this raw and unfiltered episode, we sit down with a BPD warrior, Alice Hyoung, who gets real about the shame, chaos, and stigma that come with living with borderline personality disorder—and how she's reclaiming her life one radical act of self-ownership at a time. From surviving emotional extremes to discovering Internal Family Systems therapy, she shares how she went from daily despair to powerful, purpose-filled healing.If you’ve ever felt broken, misunderstood, or exhausted from trying to explain yourself to the world… this one is for you.1. Intro + BPD Stigma & Shame 🕒 00:00:00 – 00:01:25 2. Guest’s Story: Discipline vs. Mental Health Struggles 🕒 00:01:25 – 00:04:44 3. Radical Acceptance, Accountability, & Anger Ownership 🕒 00:04:44 – 00:06:02 4. Do the One Thing: Small Steps Toward Healing 🕒 00:06:02 – 00:06:44 5. Cultural Stigma, Language, & Media Representation 🕒 00:06:44 – 00:11:41 6. IFS (Internal Family Systems) Therapy Explained 🕒 00:11:41 – 00:20:45 7. Therapist Fit, Accessibility & Coaching Models 🕒 00:20:45 – 00:26:12 8. Family, Partners & Top 3 Wishes for Better Support 🕒 00:26:12 – 00:32:32 9. Boundaries, Peace Protectors & Relationship Dynamics 🕒 00:32:32 – 00:38:12 10. Surrender, Compassionate Detachment & Alan Watts 🕒 00:38:12 – 00:41:14 11. Future-Self Reflection: Creating from Pain 🕒 00:41:14 – 00:45:10 12. Final Thoughts: Ownership, Shame, & Permission to Create 🕒 00:45:10 – 00:50:57 13. Guest Contact Info + Community Resources 🕒 00:50:57 – 00:54:30 14. Outro + BPD Mantra 🕒 00:54:30 – 00:57:47 Episode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiSupport The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

If you’ve ever felt trapped by the invisible expectation to “save everyone” — even when you’re falling apart inside — this episode was made for you.Today, we welcome the amazing Coach Cassie C. James Weathersby, founder of Black Women Do Heal, for a soul-stirring, truth-telling conversation about the real cost of living like a superhero. Together, we dive deep into why exhaustion is not a badge of honor, why setting Peace Protectors (aka boundaries) is critical, and why resting is a human right, not a weakness. Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest: Cassandra C. James-Weathersby Website: BlackWomenDoHeal.org0:00–1:25 | Welcome + Trigger Warning1:25–2:39 | Meet Our Superhero: Coach Cassie C. James Weathersby2:39–8:50 | The Superhero Complex Explained8:50–13:08 | The Cost of Wearing the Cape13:08–16:45 | Why The Superhero Model Fails16:45–23:07 | First Steps: Removing the Cape23:07–28:07 | You Are Human, Not Superhuman28:07–36:09 | Boundaries Reframed: “Peace Protectors”36:09–43:38 | Permission to Rest43:38–49:57 | Lessons from Hospice Care: Prioritize Living Fully49:57–54:25 | Healing Events & Black Women Do Heal Initiatives54:25–1:03:02 | Real Talk: Entrepreneurship, Social Media, and Letting Go1:03:02–1:07:10 | Closing + Final Mic Drop Moments

Alice Hyoung, who shares her deeply personal journey through trauma, loneliness, medication, and identity healing. From childhood dissociation to sacred rage, Alice unpacks what it means to live with borderline personality disorder and still find joy, purpose, and peace. This episode dives into spiritual shifts, medication without shame, the power of safe spaces, and the radical truth that you are not your diagnosis. If you’ve ever felt unseen, unhealed, or misunderstood—this episode will remind you that your story isn’t over.#BPDWarrior #MentalHealthMatters #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #SacredAnger #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthPodcast #ShowMeGraceDisclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• AliceMain Topics & Time Stamps🔹 00:00:00–00:01:30 | Opening & Trigger Warning🔹 00:01:35–00:04:10 | Meet Alice Yang🔹 00:04:10–00:06:30 | Mental Health Check-In & Daily Intentions🔹 00:06:30–00:10:00 | Childhood Experiences & Internalized Shame🔹 00:10:00–00:13:00 | Unexpressed Anger & Internalization🔹 00:13:00–00:15:00 | Rage Rooms & Releasing Anger Safely🔹 00:15:00–00:17:50 | Therapy Barriers for People with BPD🔹 00:17:50–00:20:05 | The Power of Compassionate Presence🔹 00:20:05–00:24:50 | Letter to 8-Year-Old Self & Religious Trauma🔹 00:24:50–00:30:00 | Medication, Shame & Breakthroughs🔹 00:30:00–00:32:47 | Workbook & Anger as Sacred🔹 00:32:47–00:41:00 | Healing Is Wholeness, Not a Destination🔹 00:41:00–00:45:00 | Remission vs. Recovery + Final Thoughts🔹 00:45:00–00:48:36 | Closing Messages & ResourcesWebsites:showmegrace.orgBPD resources and crisis supportcareercafe.info/migsmelloGet your copy of Migs Mello book - the Emotional Learning Friend every kid and grown up kid should have!careercafe.info/soulletterSign up for weekly letters that lift your soul

Episode Twenty-Two:In today’s episode, we’re joined by Lauren Rosier, a passionate advocate and writer who opens up about her journey living with borderline personality disorder — from early signs in childhood to the life-saving role of DBT, music, and meaningful friendships.This conversation is raw, validating, and filled with the kind of insights you don’t hear enough about. So whether you're in the middle of your own storm or standing beside someone who is, you’ll find connection and hope right here.Let’s dive in. Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: LaurenInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenxlee1Email: [email protected] Podcast Episode Outline:00:00:44 – Podcast introduction: 'I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right' 00:01:30 – Guest intro: Lauren shares her background and diagnosis 00:02:30 – Lauren discusses current projects (memoir and BPD resource book) 00:03:38 – Lauren's motivation for sharing her story – friendship with Tony 00:05:11 – First signs of being ‘different’ in childhood – obsessive crush 00:08:03 – Reflections on adolescence – introversion, lack of diagnosis 00:09:59 – Deeper discussion on introversion – innate or protective 00:12:15 – Advice Lauren would give to her 8-year-old self 00:13:23 – Using music and playlists for emotional regulation 00:16:30 – The role of sports and teamwork in recovery 00:19:27 – Importance of outlets for managing BPD symptoms 00:22:10 – What Lauren wishes loved ones understood about BPD 00:25:59 – Advice to 88-year-old self: radical acceptance and growth 00:32:14 – Final message: DBT is key, medication alone isn’t enough 00:33:14 – How to contact Lauren 00:34:10 – Closing mantra + mental health reminder 00:35:03 – Encouragement to stay connected and submit stories Episode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Credits:Host, Producer & Research: Nicole [email protected] Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Tune in to part 3 of a most riveting and raw interview with a woman of color and BPD Warrior. From crisis action plans to disability battles, and the quiet heroism of choosing to stay alive one day at a time—this episode goes beyond surface-level mental health talk. You’ll hear about the healing power of deep house music, the bittersweet joy of love with BPD, and the fire it takes to fight for your life while the world tells you you're “too much” and the healthcare system says you’re “not enough” to be disabled?Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Podcast Episode Breakdown: "I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right"00:00–01:07 Intro01:07–01:30 Trigger Warning & Resources:01:30–03:02 Art as a Lifeline:03:02–04:23 Loss of Creative Outlets:04:23–05:54 Support System & Love:05:54–07:03 Misplaced Blame & Accountability:07:03–08:27 In-the-Moment Struggles:08:27–09:57 Hopelessness & Survival Fears:09:57–11:53 Reframing Self-Worth:11:53–12:35 Summary of Key Lessons:12:35–14:18 Shame & Blame:14:18–16:47 Disability as a Lens:16:47–18:16 Applying for Disability:18:16–20:01 Systemic Challenges:20:01–22:02 Being "Too Much":22:02–23:31 Trauma Roots of BPD23:31–25:31 Survival & Resilience: .25:31–26:54 Vision Boards & Healing Rituals:26:54–28:45 The Power of Choice:28:45–30:40 Misguided Crisis Responses:30:40–32:21 Judgment vs. Compassion:32:21–34:54 Staying Anonymous & Promoting BPD Melanin:34:54–35:59 Wrap-Up & Affirmations:35:59–36:43 OutroCredits:Press Pause, Inc. website: www.showmegrace.orgHost and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

What does it really feel like to live with Borderline Personality Disorder—especially as a Black woman in a world that doesn’t always see you, hear you, or believe you?In this second part of this raw and unfiltered episode, we go deep into the inner world of a BPD warrior. From hyper-intuition and emotional whiplash in relationships, to the aching loneliness of being unseen in mental health spaces, this conversation is brutally honest, unexpectedly funny, and deeply human.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• A BPD Warrior - A Woman of Color In this episode, you will hear:• 00:00:00 – 00:01:20 Opening Message & Trigger Warning(Beginning of Interview)•00:01:30 – 00:04:00 Hyper-intuition and Emotional Triggers00:04:00 – 00:06:10 Validation of Intuition00:06:20 – 00:09:20 BPD and the Intersectionality of Race00:09:20 – 00:11:00 Relationship Challenges & Internal Conflict00:11:00 – 00:13:00 Lighter Moment – Pet Cameo00:13:00 – 00:14:30 Viola Davis Quote & 8-Year-Old Self00:14:30 – 00:19:30 Creative Outlets as Healing Tools00:19:30 – 00:21:19 Closing Encouragement & ResourcesEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Episode SevenIn this deeply honest and unexpectedly hilarious episode, a courageous (and anonymous) Black woman shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). From feeling “too much” as a teen to navigating abandonment in therapy, she holds nothing back—and proves that being emotionally intense doesn’t make you broken, it makes you powerful.We explore early signs, misdiagnoses, codependency, attachment, impulsive coping, and the deep empathy that often gets overlooked in people with BPD. Oh—and we laugh a LOT along the way.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest:Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bpdmelanin/Episode Topic Timeline (Approximate)00:00 – 01:00 — Opening statement about the fear and stigma of BPD; introduction and trigger warning01:00 – 03:00 — What it’s like to feel “different” from a young age04:00 – 06:30 — Emotional intensity and being told "you're too sensitive"06:45 – 08:30 — Diagnosis story: Being diagnosed at 22 and the rarity of early recognition08:30 – 10:30 — Misdiagnoses, PTSD, and feeling like “too much” for therapists10:30 – 12:30 — Abandonment by a therapist and the emotional fallout12:30 – 15:00 — Discussion on broken mental health systems and trying to trust again15:00 – 18:30 — Coping mechanisms: impulsivity, codependency, fear of rejection18:30 – 21:30 — Romantic attachment patterns, rage episodes, and self-awareness21:30 – 24:00 — Hypersexuality, emotional regulation, and what's misunderstood in BPD24:00 – 27:00 — Reclaiming BPD as a superpower: deep empathy, intuition, and resilience27:00 – 29:00 — Affirmation mantra + invitation to visit showmegrace.org for supportEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected] Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby

Today's episode features Jade Stanton - BPD Coach & Warrior. In this uplifting and educational episode, BPD Coach Jade Stanton joins the conversation to share her powerful story of early diagnosis, navigating recovery, and turning her pain into purpose. Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at just 16, Jade opens up about the emotional intensity of adolescence, the science behind the BPD brain, and why remission—not perfection—is the goal.Listeners will learn why DBT is powerful but not the only path, how access to the right support can be life-changing, and why BPD recovery must be person-centered. Jade’s insights are honest, encouraging, and deeply validating for anyone navigating life with BPD—or supporting someone who is.Major Topic Timeline (Approximate)00:00 – 01:15 — Welcome message and trigger warning01:30 – 03:00 — Meet Jade Stanton: BPD coach, warrior, and advocate04:00 – 06:30 — Diagnosed at 16: What led to an early BPD diagnosis06:30 – 08:00 — Importance of a comprehensive psychiatric evaluation08:00 – 11:00 — What’s happening in the BPD brain during an episode (in layman’s terms)11:00 – 13:00 — The power of being understood by an expert (Okeechobee, FL shoutout!)14:00 – 16:00 — Is DBT the only effective treatment for BPD? Debunking the myth16:00 – 19:00 — Individualized care + Recovery as a lifelong journey19:00 – 22:00 — Jade’s path to coaching: Filling the resource gap with compassion22:00 – 24:30 — The global reach of her BPD community and online support25:00 – 26:30 — Jade’s letter to her 8-year-old self: “Your brain will lie to you.”27:00 – 29:00 — Jade's message to her 88-year-old self: “I hope you're having fun.”31:00 – 33:00 — Final reflections: Recovery is about your life, not just a diagnosis33:00 – 35:00 — How to connect with Jade & join her thriving online community35:00 – End — Podcast mantra, closing thoughts, and support resourcesConnect with the Host:Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected] Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby

In a compelling episode of Nicole's podcast, licensed clinical social worker Sarah Abbott opens up about her unique perspective as both a mental health professional and someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Their conversation reveals valuable insights about therapy approaches, finding proper support, and redefining identity beyond diagnosis.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• Sara Abbott, MSW, LCSW, LICSW https://www.thewellnesswayllc.com/home• Sarah hosts the "Bold Beautiful Borderlands" podcast and can be found on Instagram at @borderlinefromhell, with her podcast at @boldbeautifulborderlineIn this episode, you will hear:• 0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)• 1:28 Sara’s Introduction• 4:09 11 Years of Pre-Suicide and Post-Suicide Behavior?• 11:21 How Trauma Informs Her Perspective?• 12:08 Not Being in Therapy as a Therapist• 13:26 What in the World is Holistic Bio Psychosocial Approach to Therapy?• 16:56 Why Aren’t All Medical and Mental Health Providers Using Cross Systems Planning?• 23:39 Why It’s Okay Sometimes for Both the Therapist and the Client to Say the Wrong Thing?• 27:57 Why Borderlines Need to Bring the “Fun” Back?• 34:56 Be Clear About Your Deal Breakers and Must Haves Before Finding a Therapist• 41:01 Permission to Not See Yourself Through the Lense of Having Borderline• 43:37 Closing(End of Interview)• 43:57 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra• 44:15 OutroEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Today’s episode brings us the final part of what has been a most exciting and informative interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. She shares a Call to Action, determined that change will come with more involvement in conferences and BPD presentations. And we definitely need to promote BPD research..Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• Valerie Porr• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//• Episode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiSupport The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

Today’s episode brings us the second part of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. She highlights the need to increase funding and resources for personality disorder research and treatment. She also suggests implementing research domain criteria instead of DSM for better diagnosis and treatment.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• Valerie Porr• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//• LINK FOR VALERIE'S AWARD-WINNING BOOK: "Overcoming Borderline Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and ChangeIn this episode, you will hear:• 0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)• 1:30 Funding Disparities in Mental Health Treatment• 3:54 Diagnostic Challenges and Comorbidity• 7:52 Limitations of DSM and New Research Approaches• 11:59 Statistics and Treatment Implications• 15:23 Advocacy and Professional Stigma• 21:45 Conclusion and Call to Action• 27:20 Closing(End of Interview)• 28:40 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra• 29:40 OutroEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiSupport The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

Today’s episode brings us the first of three parts of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. We unpack why BPD, after 30+ years of research, is still so stigmatized by psychiatrists, clinicians, and mental health providers. You don’t want to miss her breakdown of how BPD differences are not recognized as advantages in today’s world.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: • Valerie Porr• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//• LINK FOR VALERIE'S AWARD-WINNING BOOK: "Overcoming Borderline Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and ChangeIn this episode, you will hear:• 0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)• 3:45 How She Unpacked Patterns in How PwBPD Respond to Their Loved Ones?• 7:35 Is it BPD Manipulation or Survival? • 11:21 Why Everyone Should Take A Closer Look at BPD Hypervigilance?• 15:30 Why BPD Differences Are Not Recognized as Advantages in Today's World?• 19:29 Are You Having A BPD Reaction or A Human Reaction?• 23:39 How to Connect with Valerie• 27:20 Closing(End of Interview)• 28:40 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra• 29:40 OutroEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org ❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole [email protected] Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi Support The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

Today’s episode brings us an exciting interview with Dr. Courtney Tracy (known as 'the truth doctor'), a licensed clinical social worker and doctor of clinical psychology with over 2 million followers worldwide. Dr. Tracy shares her personal journey with substance abuse and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD),Dr. Tracy emphasizes the importance of psychoeducation and understanding the brain's functioning in BPD treatment. She also mentions her upcoming book 'Your Unconscious is Showing,' which adapts the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous into 12 Steps of Consciousness for mental health struggles. Tune in for wisdom, healing strategies, and an empowering approach to overcoming emotional challenges.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Dr. Courtney Tracy, Website: https://www.thetruthdoctor.com/In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)3:36 What Led You to This Type of Work?7:25 How Do You Define Recovery?7:12 Is BPD Recovery Possible? 10:56 The Blurred Lines Between Being Borderline and Being Human17:51 The Importance of Psychoeducation About The Body & The Brain21:14 Messages to Dr. Tracy’s Younger and Older Selves27:16 How to Connect with Dr. Tracy30:22 Closing(End of Interview)30:51 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra31:28 OutroEpisode Resources:Dr. Courtney Tracy: https://www.thetruthdoctor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the.truth.doctor Link to her book: Dr. Courtney's BookPress Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Host: Nicole: [email protected]: Music Producer: DJtheIII, Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

In this special episode, we’re celebrating the season by bringing you a seamless playlist featuring all the incredible songs from past episodes of Press Pause! Whether relaxing at home, taking a winter stroll, or just needing a moment to unwind, this music compilation is designed to provide comfort, inspiration, and joy.Sit back, press play, and let the melodies take you on a reflective journey through Season 1. It’s the perfect way to revisit the musical highlights from the show and create meaningful moments during the holiday season.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. (Beginning of Playlist)• 1:07 Intro to The Holiday Playlist• 1:50 “Free Mind” – Tems: • 3:02 “Healing” by Computer Data: • 4:23 “Ion Like That” by Jane Handcock: • 5:46 “Wasn’t Looking” by Eliza: • 7:07 “[Who?] Keeps Changing Your Mind (Daniel Bowie and Roy Rox Mix)” by South Street Player: • 8:30 ‘What You Afraid Of (DJ Spen & Thommy Davis Disco Phobia Mix)” - Ziggy Funk feat. Taliwa: • 9:56 “Who Am I” by Boddhi Satva Feat. Athenai & C.Robert Walker: • 11:23 “Free” by Stephanie Mills: • 12:45 “Lonely Days” by CocoSA: • 14:05 “Little Things” (Remix) by Jorja Smith ft MayDay: • 15:29 “Gold” by Austin Millz: • 16:51 “Every Word” – Temika Moore: • 18:14 “I Might Do Something Wrong” (Osunlade Lonely Mix) by Tortured Soul: • 19:36 “Acceptance” by Synkro: • 21:00 “When I’m In Your Arms” by Cleo Sol: • 22:22 “Keep Going” (Chosen) by Sevena - • 23:42 “Breathe” by Timi: • 25:08 “Northface” by Sinazza x Kagan: • 26:28 “Stressed’ - Doechii: • 27:50 “Self Love” - Ari Lennox Bas & Baby Rose: • 29:11 Closer by Goapele: • 30:35 “Surely Slowly” by Jill Scott: • 31:57 “FREQUENCY” by Stella: • 33:19 “Thinking Less” by Sinead Harnett Music: • 34:40 “Xorberax”- I Know: • 36:02 “Get Dressed” by NXTLVL4L: • 37:25 “I Am” by Beautiful Chorus featuring India.Arie: • 38:47 “Find Me Here” by Sherwin Gardner: • 40:11 “Forgive Them” by Jane Handcock, Harry Simmons: • 41:33 “Deep End” by Fousheé: • “Say Something (A Great Big World)” - Jacob Banks: (End of Playlist)44:18 Nicole’s Closing Statement 44:42 BPD Daily Mantra44:58 OutroConnect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected] BPD Support Resources : https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby sheds light on co-morbidities and their impact on mental health. She explains the significance of the term and explores how understanding co-morbidities can lead to better self-awareness and informed care decisions. Next she discusses using audio and video journaling to help regulate emotions.Following Tool Time, relax with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided meditation on manifesting your future self. This reflective practice encourages clarity, intention, and personal growth, helping you envision the life you aspire to create.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)1:07 Intro to Tool Time1:45 Term of The Day: Co-Morbidities(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)3:00 Intro to Tool Time - Audio and Video Journaling(Beginning of Mindful Moment)5:16 Intro to a Mindful Moment5:32 Beginning of Meditation on Manifesting Your Future Self(End of Mindful Moment)19:33 Nicole’s Closing Statement19:55 BPD Daily Mantra20:11 Outro21:31 “Say Something (A Great Big World)” - Jacob Banks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqbqY_YiyysEpisode Resources:Grow With Guri’s 15-Minute Manifestation Meditation: Manifest Your Future Self”: https://youtu.be/H3TqC60UGoU?si=JF4IJuchQmh-rFiHWebsite: https://www.showmegrace.org/Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.“I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTConnect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby introduces Tool Time, focusing on radical acceptance and its role in understanding self-perception. She provides actionable advice for finding the right therapist and shares a helpful checklist of 10 essential questions to guide your search for the best therapeutic fit.Following Tool Time, unwind with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided meditation on accepting uncomfortable feelings, fostering self-awareness, and emotional growth.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Intro to Tool Time1:45 Term of The Day: Radical Acceptance4:27 Find the Right Therapist5:45 Checklist: 10 Questions to Use (End of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)(Beginning of Mindful Moment)8:00 Intro to a Mindful Moment8:16 Beginning of Meditation on Accepting Uncomfortable Feelings(End of Mindful Moment)19:10 Nicole’s Closing Statement19:31 BPD Daily Mantra19:48 Outro21:06 “Lonely Days” by CocoSA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNPLKvVXVqUEpisode Resources:Soothing Pod’s Mindfulness Meditation on Accepting Uncomfortable Feelings: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_k2y6EQoBkWebsite: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Connect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle:

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby, Melanie Jones, and Dr. Gregory Serfer delve into affective instability, a core symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Dr. Serfer defines affective instability, explores its traits, and distinguishes it from moodiness and bipolar disorder. Nicole and Mel share personal experiences with instability, shedding light on common triggers and the challenges they face. Dr. Serfer also highlights the importance of accurate diagnosis and how medical professionals can improve evaluations to reduce misdiagnosis.The episode concludes with practical strategies, treatments, and therapies to help manage affective instability, offering actionable steps for recovery and emotional regulation.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guests:Dr. Gregory Serfer: [email protected] Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTQuora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-SerferMelanie Jones: [email protected] DanIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Beginning Pleasantries and Dr. Serfer’s New Introduction 3:52 The Definition of Affective Instability and Its Traits/Attributes8:15 Difference Between Affective Instability and Moodiness11:35 Difficulty of Affective Instability 13:56 What is the Reason Behind It? 20:03 Mel’s Experience with Instability 21:59 Nicole’s Experience with Instability and Certain Triggers38:43 How Does Instability Differ From Bipolar Disorder?48:59 Misdiagnosis & How Should Medical Professionals Conduct Evaluation?52:45 Mel and Nicole’s Experience with the Cycles with Instability 1:00:56 Useful Strategies, Treatments, Therapies, Steps Towards Recovery (End of Interview)1:08:38 Nicole’s Closing Statement1:09:00 BPD Daily Mantra1:09:16 Outro1:10:36 “Wasn’t Looking” by Eliza: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nplzEY0IXA&list=RDMM&index=29Episode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Connect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby presents Tool Time, exploring schema therapy and unpacking BPD’s four dysfunctional modes; The Abandoned Child, Angry Child, Punitive Parent, and Detached Protector, while emphasizing the goal of a balanced Adult Mode. Then, Nicole also discusses the impact of support systems on managing BPD, offering actionable tips for building a community through “BPD Buddies.”Following Tool Time, immerse yourself and unwind with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided gratitude meditation for self-compassion and inner peace.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)1:07 Intro to Tool Time1:45 Term of The Day: Schema Therapy2:24 BPD’s Four Dysfunctional Modes and Adult Mode3:42 The Abandoned Child Mode4:24 The Angry Child Mode5:04 The Punitive Parent Mode5:49 The Detached Protector Mode6:30 The Goal: Adult Mode6:55 True or False: Support Increases Improvement In Synonyms of BPD7:44 Tool & Techniques: BPD Buddies & Ways for Success(End of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)(Beginning of Mindful Moment)10:16 Intro to a Mindful Moment10:44 Beginning of Gratitude Guided Meditation(End of Mindful Moment)19:27 Nicole’s Closing Statement19:50 BPD Daily Mantra20:06 Outro21:23 “I Am” by Beautiful Chorus featuring India.Arie: https://youtu.be/4gUY9QshcVQ?si=U1UVrfBsMprgc6-vEpisode Resources:Gratitude Guided Meditation - Female Voice by YaleUniversity: https://on.soundcloud.com/cSAsMux6cCexg5yi7Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTConnect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole, along with Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones, dives into the true meaning of impulsivity in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its impact on those affected and their supporters. They explore what impulsivity means for people with BPD (pwBPD), how to differentiate it from ADHD, and whether it can be destructive. Also, they examine theories behind impulsive behavior, discussing how it often manifests in those with BPD and the underlying drivers behind it. They discuss coping mechanisms, the impact on daily functionality, and how impulsivity often affects friends and family. Finally, they highlight how impulsivity connects to many defining traits of BPD, offering insights and support strategies throughout.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Dr. Gregory Serfer: [email protected] Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTMelanie JonesEmail: [email protected] this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Beginning Pleasantries with Gregory, Handsome Dan, Melanie, and Nicole3:48 Impulsivity From Mel & Nicole’s Perspective6:30 The True Meaning of Impulsivity and Its Impact on People with BPD (pwBPD)13:48 Theories Behind Impulsivity Behavior Occurs for pwBPD 16:19 Clarifying Question: How Do I Know If I Have BPD or ADHD?21:00 Is Impulsivity Destructive? Coping Mechanisms and Masking Impulsivity 31:28 Does Different Coping Methods Lead to Low or High Functionality?44:04 How Impulsive Behavior Impacts the Supporting Individuals Around pwBPD48:46 Many Definitive Criteria of BPD Are Connected Through Impulsivity53:09 Mel’s Final Words and Nicole’s Perspective on Impulsivity57:17 Dr.Gregory’s Final Words: The Effect of Alcohol on Impulsivity(End of Interview)1:02:31 Nicole’s Closing Statement1:02:52 BPD Daily Mantra1:03:09 Outro1:04:25 “Little Things” (Remix) by Jorja Smith ft MayDay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xA9byN3fzksEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Connect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbySound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby presents a special “Tool Time” segment, diving into practical mental health tools and strategies for managing BPD and life’s daily stressors. Starting with an introduction to Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT), Nicole explains the key differences between traditional DBT and RO-DBT. She follows this with a series of helpful techniques, to assist you in planning before you go.After “Tool Time,” Nicole transitions into a relaxing “Mindful Moment,” guiding listeners through a meditation aimed at improving productivity, focus, and prioritization skills. This segment is perfect for those looking to boost mental clarity and feel more grounded throughout the day.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)1:07 Intro to Tool Time1:45 Term of The Day: Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT)2:42 The Key Differences Between DBT and RO-DBT4:03 Tool & Techniques: Plan Before You Go, Outfit of Armor, Music, Etc7:44 Tool & Techniques: Three, Three, Three Grounding Technique(End of Tool Time with Nicole Darby)(Beginning of Mindful Moment)8:30 Intro to a Mindful Moment8:47 Beginning of Meditation To Boost Your Productivity, Focus & Prioritization Skills(End of Mindful Moment)26:18 Nicole’s Closing Statement26:40 BPD Daily Mantra26:57 Outro28:17 “Surely Slowly” by Jill Scott: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gu_zgEKCC1QEpisode Resources:Meditation to Boost Your Productivity, Focus & Prioritization Skills + Hypnosis and Affirmations by Meditable Goal Meditations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1JOIOWOld0Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Host: Nicole Darbyl: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole sits down with Kim Beavers to discuss all things disability; exploring the challenges, the commitment, and the low success rate that often comes with filing disability claims. Kim shares her journey, starting with what led her down the path of disability and what it takes to qualify for a claim.She delves into the importance of detailed logs, the role of referrals, and how she managed to balance work and life during the process. They tackle the stigma surrounding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in disability claims and the lengthy process of approval. Kim offers insight into the impact of Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI), and what needs to change for the government, clinicians, and employers to move beyond traditional evaluations.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest:Kim BeaversKim’s Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Kimbriana-BeaversIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Intro to Kim Beavers’ Interview and Beginning Pleasantries3:21 What Leads You to The Path of Disability?7:02 The Success of a Disability Claim7:28 What Does It Take to Qualify?10:10 How Detailed Were You With The Logs for Your Claim?13:04 Who Were Your Referrals for Your Claim?14:54 How Did You Balance Work and Life During This Time?22:22 Medical Stigma at BPD In Disability Claims25:39 How Long Is The Process for Approval? 31:35 Limitations on Work and Partial Degree of Disability 34:01 How Has The Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) Affected You? 38:22 What Needs to Change For The Government, Clinicians, and Employers to Move Beyond From Traditional Evaluations?(End of Interview)49:10 Nicole’s Closing Statement49:32 BPD Daily Mantra49:49 Outro51:07 “Deep End” by Fousheé: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yEgilud6tRUConnect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.orgCredits:Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In this episode, Nicole is joined by Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones to discuss the stigmatization of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its impact on personal identity. They delve into how certain words contribute to the stigmatization of BPD. The conversation expands to explore Dissociative Identity Disorder, BPD-related identity disturbances, and whether there’s a connection between self-awareness and a more stable sense of identity. Melanie shares her personal experience with a shifting sense of self, followed by Nicole’s reflections on this idea. The episode wraps up with insights into the conscious and unconscious nature of mirroring behavior, and Dr. Gregory offers some final words of wisdom.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest:Dr. Gregory Serfer: [email protected] Melanie Jones: [email protected] this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Beginning Pleasantries with Nicole, Dr, Gregory Serfer, and Melanie Jones3:30 Mel’s Perspective: Do Certain Words Increase The Stigmatization of BPD?7:08 Gregory’s Perspective: Do Certain Words Increase The Stigmatization of BPD?9:30 What Is Dissociative Identity Disorder?13:27 BPD-Related Identity Disturbances 16:09 Is There A Link Between BPD-Related Identity Disturbances and Self-Awareness?19:14 Does Developing/Practicing Self-Awareness Help Your Identity Become More Stable?21:58 The Hot Seat: Mel’s Experience With A Shifting Sense of Self28:03 Nicole’s Experience With A Shifting Sense of Self33:36 Is Mirroring Conscious, Self-Conscious, or Both?42:07 Gregory’s Final Words(End of Interview)52:06 Nicole’s Closing Statement52:29 BPD Daily Mantra52:45 Outro54:02 “Who Am I” by Boddhi Satva Feat. Athenai & C.Robert Walker: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iu8PTI-iwpQEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle:

In this episode, Nicole interviews Jenn Reddy, a life coach and story transformer, about how to navigate deep trauma and reshape personal narratives. Jenn offers practical tools like self-check-ins, challenging negative thoughts, and using resources to stay grounded. She shares key questions to ask when facing trauma and emphasizes self-compassion in the healing process. Jenn wraps up with a powerful metaphor of seeing ourselves as resilient trees.Tune in for wisdom, healing strategies, and an empowering approach to overcoming emotional challenges.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Jenn Reddy Website: https://transformationcoaching.lifeIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Intro to Jenn Reddy’s Interview2:56 The Process of Being a Story Transformer7:12 What If My Trauma Is Too Deep? 12:04 Key Questions to Ask Yourself18:52 Check In: Is It true? What Happens When I Believe This Thought? Who Would I Be Without This Thought?20:07 What Are Some Things You Can Do to Stay the Course27:04 Reliving the Shame, Resources, and Checklist To Tackle the Day32:14 Jenn’s Final Words: See Ourselves as Trees(End of Interview)37:06 Nicole’s Closing Statement 37:27 BPD Daily Mantra37:43 Outro39:03 “Healing” by Computer Data: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bi7lK10U18cEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgJenn’s Recommendation: The Work of Bryon Katie: https://thework.com ❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Connect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole has an insightful conversation with author Emi Nietfeld about her journey, mental health advocacy, and her book Acceptance. She shares her experience living with mental health challenges, including having features of BPD, discussing how labels impacted her work and recovery. We also explore her thoughts on mental health tools, societal shame, and the changes needed for greater acceptance of mental health struggles.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Emi Nietfeld Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eminietfeld/Substack: https://substack.com/@eminietfeldBook: “Acceptance”: https://tr.ee/ajpdA_8hZb (provides all links)Website: https://www.eminietfeld.comLinktree: https://linktr.ee/eminietfeldIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Intro to Emi Nietfeld’s Interview1:32 Beginning Pleasantries and Emma's Introduction 3:06 Emily's Journey and Her Motivation for Her Book5:20 Did You Have Any Advocates For Mental Health at That Time?7:09 Were You Open to The Recovery Process? (Tools, Medication, etc)11:07 Emi’s Experience with Features of BPD14:54 How Did The Labels Affect Your Work Environment?18:43 Where Are You Now In Your Journey?23:57 Emi’s Perspective: What Needs To Change For Acceptance and Decrease Shame In Society?27:44 Emi’s Final Words(End of Interview)28:33 Nicole’s Closing Statement28:55 BPD Daily Mantra29:12 Outro30:29 “Acceptance” by Synkro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_dNht9Zr0CEEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Credits:Sound Engineer: Stefan MitroiProduction & Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, we explore and break down idealization and devaluation. Our co-hosts, Melanie Jones and Dr. Gregory Serfer, offer their perspectives on both sides of the coin, followed by insights into how these patterns affect relationships. Dr. Serfer examines their connection, causes, and presence in other mental health conditions. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Dr. Gregory Serfer: [email protected] Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTQuora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-SerferMelanie Jones: [email protected] this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Mel’s Perspective: Idealization and Devaluation4:32 Nicole’s Opening Statement and Beginning Pleasantries5:49 A Breakdown of Idealization (and Idolization)12:52 A Breakdown of Devaluation18:48 Dr. Serfer’s Personal Perspective on Devaluation24:05 Devaluation in Relationships (Parental, Platonic, Romantic, etc)33:06 Idealization and Devaluation In Other Mental Conditions34:14 Causes of Devaluation a.k.a Down the Rabbit Hole36:04 Does Devaluation Interconnect with Idealization?38:35 Trusting Your Gut During Idealization44:38 The Extremes of Idealization and Devaluation49:32 Preservation of Your Mental Health Through Discarding52:48 How Permanent Is the Discard and Split?56:10 Dissociation During A Split or Discard1:03:29 Dr. Serfer’s and Mel’s Final Words1:06:16 Meaning Behind the Term, BPD (continued)(End of Interview)1:13:38 Nicole’s Closing Statement1:14:00 BPD Daily Mantra1:14:17 Outro1:15:37 “When I’m In Your Arms” by Cleo Sol: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=hp0KiJs0S5gEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr.Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, and Handsome DanSound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In this episode, Nicole and Aseelah explore the complex topic of forgiveness, reflecting on personal experiences and discussing why it's so challenging. They also touch on how spirituality and beliefs influence the ability to forgive. Nicole shares her perspective on navigating forgiveness in her own life. Aseelah also shares her professional insights on the role of forgiveness in our lives and its impact on mental and physical well-being. Whether you have BPD or not, this conversation offers valuable perspectives and tools for reaching a place of healing. Tune in for an insightful exploration of this essential emotional journey.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis LifelineHere is the episode breakdown: Guest: Aseelah El-Amin: https://www.instagram.com/talkptwithseesee/In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:08 Nicole’s Opening Statement and Beginning Pleasantries3:53 What Does Forgiveness Mean?7:11 Why is It Difficult to Forgive?10:23 Is It Easier to Hold A Grudge?12:08 Nicole’s POV: A Time Where You Struggled with Forgiveness19:31 Aseelah’s POV: A Time Where You Struggled with Forgiveness23:38 Did Your Spirituality Affect How You Affect Your Choice to Forgive?28:18 The Philosophy of Forgiveness 30:31 Navigating Forgiveness as a pwBPD or A Person Without BPD34:47 Other Strengths To Consider To Get to A Place of Forgiveness37:07 What Would Aseelah’s Clients Think?39:33 More On Spirituality, The Physicality, and The Science of Forgiveness48:31 Aseelah’s Final Words(End of Interview)50:48 Nicole Closing Statement51:12 BPD Daily Mantra51:28 Outro52:49 “Forgive Them” by Jane Handcock, Harry Simmons: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arhT2OSTGlAEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/ ❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTConnect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Hosts: Aseelah El-Amin and Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Nineteen: [Miik Wells – Inner Equity]In this episode, Miik shares his connection with his work with the audience through Nicole's testimonial, offering a glimpse into his approach to mental wellness. He provides strategies for key areas where individuals with BPD often struggle. The episode also features interactive "Game Time" segments, where he discusses the importance of untangling personal patterns, rewriting your story, and embracing authenticity. He concludes with powerful closing thoughts that resonate with anyone on a mental health journey. Tune in for an engaging and transformative discussion aimed at supporting your mental wellness journey.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest:Miik WellsLinktree: https://linktr.ee/insiit.miikIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement1:57 Introduction to Miik Wells3:23 Self-Attunement and Inner Equity8:14 Nicole’s Session Testimonial with Miik10:07 Miik’s Connection With His Work16:13 Strategies for the Five Key Areas Where Individuals Struggle with BPD26:01 Game Time: Untangling Your Patterns28:29 Game Time: Rewriting Your Story30:32 Game Time: Free To Be Me32:43 Miik’s Final Words(End of Interview)34:45 Nicole Closing Statement35:08 BPD Daily Mantra35:24 Outro36:43 “FREQUENCY” by Stella: https://youtu.be/p2BpRCBnx-I?si=cLiifYtOLEoeWQdq Episode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Connect with the Host:Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In this episode, Nicole, Dr. Gregory Serfer, and Melanie Jones explore the fear of abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They discuss how this fear affects relationships and daily life, sharing personal experiences, insights, and strategies for managing this challenging aspect of BPD. Whether you're looking to understand BPD better or seeking practical advice, this episode offers valuable guidance on navigating fear and abandonment.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown: Guest:Dr. Gregory SerferEmail: [email protected] Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTQuora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-SerferMelanie Jones: [email protected] this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement2:24 Introduction to Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones (and Handsome Dan)8:00 The Importance of Fear of Abandonment Concerning BPD13:22 Follow up: Can Fear of Abandonment Play into Other Emotions/Thoughts18:36 Mel’s Perspective: Fear of Abandonment23:30 Relationships with a Person with BPD (pwBPD)29:06 Advice For Confronting Discards32:07 Mel’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment35:20 Nicole’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment38:44 More Strategies (Continued) 39:58 Testing, Self-Awareness, and More Perspectives47:15 Resources, Solutions, Planning, and Support 49:08 Mel and Gregory’s Final Words(End of Interview)49:52 Nicole’s Closing Statement50:15 BPD Daily Mantra50:31 Outro51:50 Ion Like That by Jane Handcock: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=j5oo3U0QeLQEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/ Connect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.orgCredits:Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr. Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, "Handsome Dan" -Yeti microphoneMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Seventeen: [Movement with Marcia]Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In today’s episode, Nicole talks with Marcia Jones, a counselor who combines fitness with her therapy sessions. They discuss why Marcia chose to blend fitness with counseling, how it helps her clients, and ways to work with those who might be hesitant. Marcia also offers advice on overcoming shame and joins in a "Myth or Truth" game to clear up common misconceptions about fitness and mental health. Guest: Marcia JonesWebsite: https://www.psycorefit.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/psycorefitIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:05 Nicole’s Opening Statement(Beginning of Interview)2:04 Introduction to Marcia Jones3:38 What Was the Motivation for the Integration of Fitness into Counseling? 7:59 How Was Fitness Integrated for the Clients?11:12 How Do You Approach a Resistant Client?15:35 A Different Approach and Tips Against Shame 20:24 A Game: Myth or Truth30:17 Marcia’s Final Words(End of Interview)34:33 Nicole’s Closing Statement34:56 BPD Daily Mantra35:11 Outro“Keep Going” (Chosen) by Sevena - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQ4dqv4Wx_0Episode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Connect with the Host: Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Sixteen: Eating Disorders with Tatum CarterIn this episode, Nicole is joined by Tatum Carter, a Community Outreach Liaison at the Eating Recovery Center, to explore the intricate connection between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and eating disorders, with a focus on marginalized communities. Tatum offers valuable insights into common myths, challenges, and key triggers related to eating disorders. The discussion also delves into crucial advocacy steps and initial steps toward wellness for those impacted. Tune in for practical guidance and Tatum's inspiring final words on mental wellness.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest:Tatum CarterEating Recovery Center: https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.comAsessment Line 1-877-756-4832Email: [email protected] this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:09 Opening Statement2:08 A BPD Statistic3:28 Introduction of Tatum Carter4:38 What Led You to Work of Mental Wellness?5:43 Common Myths Amongst Eating Disorders (ED)9:21 Eating Disorder Challenges in Marginalized Communities12:24 What Are Some Challenges of ED We Need to Address?14:06 What Are Some High-Level Triggers?18:15 Advocacy Steps for Marginalized Communities23:18 First Steps to Wellness24:46 Tatum’s Final Words(End of Interview)25:55 Closing Statement from Nicole26:17 BPD Daily Mantra26:34 Outro27:51 “[Who?] Keeps Changing Your Mind (Daniel Bowie and Roy Rox Mix)” by South Street Player: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=-xNkReWoAZwEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Connect with the Host: Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Host: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Fifteen: [Eve’s In-Between Diagnosis] In today’s episode, Nicole sits down with a mental health warrior, Eve to have a conversation about her journey with mental health from adolescence to now. They cover the impacts of mental health, and misdiagnosis, and reflect on their communities and influences on how they perceive their mental health.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest:EveIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:07 Introduction to Eve’s Interview(Beginning of Interview)1:46 Eve’s Introduction and Opening Conversation 3:42 How Are You Doing?4:36 Early Symptoms of BPD in Adolescence6:52 Early Diagnosis 12:19 Knowledge about BPD Before Diagnosis14:40 Misdiagnosis and Medical Stigma on BPD 15:55 Quiet BPD 17:46 Steps to Recovery and Thoughts on Diagnosis20:59 The Impact of Mental Health 22:05 Eve’s Thoughts on Her Journey24:55 Love Letter to BPD(End of Interview) 26:18 Closing Statement from Nicole26:38 BPD Daily Mantra26:55 Outro28:12 “Northface” by Sinazza x Kagan: https://tinyurl.com/Sinazza-x-KaganEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Connect with the Host:Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Fourteen: Mel Jones & Dr. Serfer In this episode, Dr. Gregory Serfer, author of "I Am Still Right Here," and Melanie Jones explore the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) through real-life experiences. Dr. Serfer narrates Mel's crisis story - which provides insightful perspective on how people see pwBPD. Mel resides in South Africa and the conversation aptly sets the stage for a raw, honest discussion on BPD's ups and downs, the lack of available support and it's impact, and common misunderstandings. They share clinical and firsthand insights on BPD misinterpretations, stress tolerance, and necessary healthcare changes for better diagnosis and support.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guests:Dr. Gregory Serfer & Melanie JonesMel's Email: [email protected]'s Email: [email protected]: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:07 Trigger Warning1:31 Introduction to Melanie Jones (Mel) & Dr. Gregory Serfer2:06 Mel’s Crisis Story narrated by Dr. Serfer(Beginning of Interview)7:35 Beginning of the Interview10:06 Who Is Mel Jones?11:13 Who is Dr. Serfer and What Is This Book?14:20 Mel’s Journey: The Ups and Downs of BPD17:53 The Lack of a Support System or Tribe and The BPD Monster Amongst Friends, Family, and Partners 22:22 Common Misunderstanding Amongst BPD 29:54 The Misreading of pwBPD by Others 37:31 Stress Tolerance for pwBPD 45:52 BPD Buddies 53:55 What needs to change in healthcare for BPD? 1:01:24 The Misunderstanding of BPD Diagnosis 1:03:25 Final Thoughts(End of Interview)1:12:07 Closing Statement from Nicole1:12:28 BPD Daily Mantra1:12:45 Outro1:14:02 “Gold” by Austin Millz: https://open.spotify.com/track/5Dz6wdHlI45KAOBAfMSJRSEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group & Career CoachingConnect with the Host: Nicole Darby: [email protected]:Host & Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, we introduce our crisis story, Kimbriana’s Story read by herself. Nicole sits down with a mental health warrior, Kim, and her son Ian to reflect on her experience as a person with BPD and how it affects her motherhood and relationship with her son, Ian. They share an insightful first and second perspective of parenting with bpd and look into how their relationship has evolved.Disclaimer: Please forgive some of the audio issues with this episode. We tried our best to resolve and chose to release the episode anyway because the content is so important!The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Guest:Kim & Ian BeaversKim’s Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Kimbriana-BeaversIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:30 Intro to Kim Story and Interview2:19 Kim’s Story read by Bella (Crisis Story)(Beginning of Interview)9:53 A Introduction to Kim & Ian Beavers11:43 Heredity of BPD14:28 The Concerns of Being a Mother as a pwBPD16:30 The Experience of a Childhood Raised By a pwBPD18:06 The Age of Awareness of BPD19:55 The Fear of Inheriting BPD23:09 Recovery and Treatment of BPD26:39 Controlling Crises while Raising A Child29:21 Crises while Raising A Child (From Ian’s Perspective)33:00 Kim & Ian’s Relationship In the Present33:58 Final Thoughts from Ian38:36 Final Thoughts from Kim41:30 Love Letter to BPD(End of Interview)46:18 Closing Statement from Nicole46:35 BPD Daily Mantra46:58 Outro48:15 Find Me Here by Sherwin Gardner: https://tinyurl.com/Blessings-Find-MeEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Hosts:Bella Zimmerman: [email protected] Darby: [email protected]:Hosts: Bella Zimmerman and Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today's podcast, we dive deep into powerful tools for mental wellness. Join us as we explore the transformative inquiry questions by Byron Katie, understand the concept of Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT), and engage in a guided meditation for better time management, productivity, and focus.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:45 Term of the Day: MBT (Mentalization-Based Therapy)(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)4:15 Nicole & Sasha Fearce and the Effects of BPD5:49 The 4 Inquiry Key Questions6:14 Turnaround Statements and Mental Yoga(End of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)(Beginning of Meditation for Time Management, Productivity, and Focus)6:49 Opening Statement to Meditation7:06 Beginning of Meditation21:10 Closing Statement of Meditation(End of Mindfulness and Meditation) 23:16 Closing Statement from Nicole23:39 BPD Daily Mantra23:55 Outro25:13 Closer by Goapele: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=Tb9fkGCCV1oEpisode Resources:- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org- Meditable Goal Meditations: Meditation for Excellent Time Management, Productivity & Focus + Hypnosis and Affirmations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bf7iCt980TAConnect With Host:Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected]: https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Nicole DarbySound Engineer: Stefan Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJ ErvinEditor: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Tamar Brignolle

In today’s enlightening episode, Dr. Stephanie Vaughn discusses various important topics related to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She provides expert insights into BPD criteria and treatments, client advocacy in therapy, Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT), and therapy's true length and effectiveness. The episode also highlights the power of client autonomy in their mental health journey, covering aspects such as medication, therapy, and more. Join us as Dr. Vaughn shares her knowledge and experience, offering valuable tools and perspectives for those navigating the complexities of BPD.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest: Dr. Stephanie VaughnWebsite: https://www.psychepllc.comIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:59 Introduction of Dr. Stephanie Vaughn6:45 Intro to True or False/ How Do You Feel About…7:46 How Do You Feel About… 260 Ways of BPD and Criteria?11:05 Specific Treatments for BPD Criteria14:05 How Can Clients Advocate for Therapy?21:40 What is Radically Open DBT?28:45 What is the True Length of Therapy?32:21 Does Your Therapist Need Therapy? 35:00 Other Questions For Your Therapist…43:00 After Effects of Medication, Multiple Opinions, and Doctor Shopping46:22 True or False: Psychiatrists Should Be Focused on Only Medication, Not Personal Life51:21 Client Invalidation from Psychiatrists and the Power of Autonomy54:32 Dr. Stephanie Vaughn's Final Words(End of Interview)1:02:59 Closing Statement from Nicole1:03:21 BPD Daily Mantra1:03:38 Outro1:04:54 “Stressed’ - Doechii: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29mk5rz3m7QEpisode Resources:- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org Connect With HostNicole DarbyEmail: [email protected]: https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Nicole DarbySound Engineer: Stefa MitroiMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJ ErvinEditor: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Tamar Brignolle

In today’s enlightening episode, we are joined by David Toback, a mentor and trainer in Person-Centered Therapy (PCT). David shares his extensive knowledge and personal journey towards embracing PCT, offering valuable insights into how this therapeutic approach can benefit individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest: David TobackWebsite: https://replacingrisk.com/In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:07 Person-Centered Therapy/Intro to Guest(Beginning of Interview)2:21 Introduction of David Toback4:33 More Insight Into Person-Centered Therapy (PCT)7:14 The Personal Journey Towards PCT13:14 How Can PCT Help A Person With BPD (pwBPD)21:28 How Can Someone Advocate for PCT In Their Recovery Plan30:46 What Is The Best Approach To Discuss PCT With Your Provider? 39:02 David Toback’s Final Words(End of Interview)51:56 Closing Statement from Nicole52:18 BPD Daily Mantra52:33 Outro53:52 Ziggy Funk feat. Taliwa - What You Afraid Of (DJ Spen & Thommy Davis Disco Phobia Mix) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhDVKAEHPGgEpisode Resources:- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.orgCredits:Hosts: Nicole DarbySound Engineer: Stefa MitroiMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJ ErvinEditor: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Tamar Brignolle

In today's episode, we continue our "Tool Time with Kim Beavers" segment, focusing on reflection and overcoming the stereotypes surrounding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Kim provides insightful tools for self-management, emphasizes clarity over vanity, and encourages listeners to take genuine action toward self-improvement. We also introduce the "Term of the Day," Somatic Experiencing Therapy, and end with a self-love meditation to foster mindfulness and emotional well-being.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:08 Term of the Day: Somatic Experiencing Therapy(Beginning of Tool Time With Kim Beavers)2:13 Intro 2:41 Stereotypes of Borderlines3:44 Looking at Oneself5:28 Clarity over Vanity7:05 Taking Action: Act of Being Genuine7:58 Outro (End of Tool Time With Kim Beavers)(Beginning of Self-Love Meditation)9:08 Intro 10:42 Beginning of Self-Love Meditation18:15 Closing Statement(End of Mindfulness and Meditation) 18:48 Closing Statement from Nicole19:42 BPD Daily Mantra19:27 Outro20:45 “Self Love” - Ari Lennox Bas & Baby Rose: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=isItUUKPAT8&si=XyoJv2BEMr8T93G1Episode Resources:Bi-Weekly Support Group & Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect With Hosts:Kim Beavers:[email protected]: https://www.quora.com/profile/Kimbriana-BeaversBlog: https://invisiblelines.quora.com/Bella Zimmerman: bellagzimmerman@outlook.comholistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.meNicole Darby: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Bi-weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.orgCredits:Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today's gripping episode, join Nicole and Bella on a coaching session, delving deep into the complexities of emotional turmoil, the quest for validation, grappling with shame, and navigating lingering feelings that affect both self and relationships. They explore the profound interplay between spirituality and holistic approaches and uncover invaluable insights and strategies for personal growth and emotional well-being.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of The Discussion Between Nicole and Bella)2:05 Conversation Opener: Reflection of The Last Session7:11 What Are Your Greatest Strengths and Why? (and Past Lives)29:43 The Appreciation of Spirituality35:45 The First Time I Remember Feeling Shame…46:01 Follow-Up: Shame or Residual Feelings Related to Past Memories1:02:27 A Proud Moment Where You Stood Up For Yourself1:25:04 A Check-In/ Final Thoughts on Session(End of The Discussion Between Nicole and Bella)1:33:49 Closing Statement from Bella and Nicole1:35:36 BPD Daily Mantra1:35:59 Outro1:37:15 “Every Word” – Temika Moore: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1no2UOJ2YMgEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Bi-Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Hosts:Bella ZimmermanEmail: [email protected]: holistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.meNicole DarbyEmail: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Bi-weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.orgCredits:Hosts: Bella Zimmerman and Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today's podcast, we start with a powerful moment as Isaiah Allen/NXTLVL4L shares a crisis song, delving into his inner emotions, faith, and journey from past struggles to future evolution, striving for the next level of growth. Following this, we delve into an enlightening interview with Zay, also known as NXTLVL4L, uncovering the significance behind his name. Lastly, we explore the fusion of music and spirituality and the profound connections to mental health and self-discovery.Guest:Isaiah Allen/NXTLVL4LYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@NXTLVL4LInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/nxtlvl4l/Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/nxtlvl4l/16104811960:00 Intro1:08 Trigger Warning1:30 Introduction To NXTLVL4L’s Crisis Song2:16 Crisis Song by NXTLVL4L (Narrated by himself)3:50 Opening Dialogue: Nicole and Isaiah4:24 Who is NXTLVL4L?5:32 The Importance of Music10:14 The Transition from Music Escapism to the Creation of Music 12:41 The Story behind NXTLVL4L17:06 Art of Conversation18:04 How do you Describe Your Music?20:41 Intermission: A Listen Into “Isolation” by NXTLVL4L23:13 Over Isolation, The Effects, and How to Overcome 28:42 How Did You Know You Had BPD?33:09 The Benefits of The Roller Coaster (Up and Downs of BPD) and The Plan Building36:43 The Healing Powers of Music38:23 The Introduction of Spirituality42:48 Intermission: “Hurry Back” by NXTLVL4L45:38 After Thoughts: “Hurry Back” by NXTLVL4L46:43 Mental Health and Hip-Hop 47:54 How do You Improve Your Mental Health?49:42 How Have You Built Your Tribe and Support?53:08 Intermission: “In My Sleep” by NXTLVL4L55:59 After Thoughts: “In My Sleep” by NXTLVL4L57:25 Zay’s Final Words: Self-Recovery, Healing, and Unpacking Real Shit59:33 Lover Letter To BPD1:02:41 Closing Statement from Nicole1:02:56 BPD Daily Mantra1:03:19 Outro 1:04:39 “Get Dressed” by NXTLVL4LEpisode Resources:MHA’s Article about “Mental Health and Hip-Hop”: https://mhanational.org/blog/mental-health-and-hip-hop-undeniable-super-team-healing-wellnessAPA‘s Article about “The Transformative Power of Music in Mental Well-Being”: https://tinyurl.com/Transformative-Power-of-Musichttps://www.showmegrace.org/, [email protected] Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgCredits: Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi , Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today's podcast, we carry on with our new segment, "Tool Time with Kim Beavers," delving into the challenges of conversation pressure, whether face-to-face or over the phone. Kim offers valuable tools and tips for those striving for recovery. Additionally, we introduce our "Term Of The Day," DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), and initiate a meditation to foster release and acceptance of change.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:07 Term of the Day: DBT (Beginning of Tool Time With Kim Beavers)2:12 Intro to Tool Time2:41 Tools for Self-Management3:14 Phone Calls and the Pressures of Conversations4:40 Active Listening 7:18 Goal for Recovery(End of Tool Time With Kim Beavers)(Beginning of Change Meditation)8:22 Open Statement9:40 Beginning of Change Meditation17:29 Closing Statement(End of Mindfulness and Meditation) 18:45 Closing Statement from Nicole19:08 BPD Daily Mantra19:25 Outro20:42 “Xorberax”- I Know: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7p7DFGheqkEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Bi-Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Connect With Hosts:Kim’s Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Kimbriana-BeaversKim’s Blog: https://invisiblelines.quora.com/Kim’s Email: [email protected] Zimmermanbellagzimmerman@outlook.comholistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.meNicole [email protected]:Hosts: Kim Beavers, Bella Zimmerman, and Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, we introduce a crisis story: Josef's personal experience, narrated by himself. Nicole and Bella talked to another mental health warrior, Josef, and they had a healthy and open conversation about his diagnosis, support as a POC and member of the LGBTQIA+ community, and how mental health affects incarceration and relationships. Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest:JosefInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theantisocialborderlineEmail: [email protected]:https://www.quora.com/profile/The-Antisocial-Borderline?ch=17&oid=1115749301&share=bf6a6dd7&srid=u2KZkC&target_type=userIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:07 Trigger Warning1:30 Intro to Josef & Crisis His Story1:59 Josef's Personal Crisis Story (Narrated by Himself)(Beginning of Interview)4:48 A Introduction to Josef7:27 The Backstory: Support for BPD on Quora and The Antisocial Borderline10:51 The Stigma of BPD and The Challenges17:03 Acceptance of BPD Amongst Communities21:15 Advice to Younger Self23:54 Dating as a pwBPD (Person with BPD)30:42 Safe Spaces as a POC and Member of the LGBTQIA+ community36:42 Mental Health and Incarceration, and How They Affect One Another50:30 Love Letter to BPD55:15 Josef’s Last Words(End of Interview)57:15 Closing Statement from Bella and Nicole58:07 BPD Daily Mantra58:24 Outro59:41“Breathe” by Timi: https://youtu.be/QLvYE1ZBru8?si=LmYqAVIwvh2VJEybEpisode Resources:APA‘s Article about “Decriminalizing Mental Illness and Promoting Mental Health Equity”: https://tinyurl.com/DecriminalizingMentalIllnessWebsite, support group, free career coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Hosts:Bella Zimmerman [email protected] Nicole [email protected]:Music Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s deeply insightful and thought-provoking episode, engage in a deeply reflective coaching session where they explore the intricate layers of childhood trauma, the intricate interplay of cultural influences, the complexities of conditional love, and the profound ways in which these elements shape and influence their mental well-being and daily experiences.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of The Discussion Between Nicole and Bella)2:00 A Conversation How Trauma Affects Everyday Life9:02 I Wish my Family Understood This About Me...14:03 An Outside Perspective on Different Families15:55 A Child’s Responsibilities, Mistakes, Feelings, and Wants31:20 Culture: Mental Health, Shame, and Outside Perspectives 34:27 Relationships and Connection Between Children and their Parents48:44 Conditional Love and New Experiences1:00:42 Childhood Healing and Pleasant Memories1:15:06 Last Word(End of The Discussion Between Nicole and Bella) 1:13:02 Closing Statement from Bella and Nicole1:15:10 Outro 1:16:28 “I Might Do Something Wrong” (Osunlade Lonely Mix) by Tortured Soul: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YGtiD9iLYoYEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Bi-Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Connect with the Host:Bella ZimmermanEmail: [email protected]: holistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.me Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Bi-weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Bella Zimmerman and Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In today's enlightening episode, we introduce a new segment, Tool Time featuring BPD Warrior Kim Beavers, where we provide tools to navigate and process your emotions. We explore the term of the day, mindfulness, and delve into its transformative benefits. Stay tuned for soul-soothing meditation led by Bella, crafted to harmonize your body, spirit, soul, and mind, helping you gain insights into your emotions. Join us for an enriching journey of self-discovery and inner peace!In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Tool Time With Kim Beavers)1:35 Tool Time With Kim Beavers3:36 What’s Today's Tool?4:26 Mind-ful-ness and Gratitude10:20 Review: The Me Test(End of Tool Time With Kim Beavers)12:32 Term of The Day: Mindfulness(Beginning of Mindfulness and Meditation)13:37 Mindfulness and Its Benefits18:25 The Mindful Moment/Meditation(End of Mindfulness and Meditation) 24:51 Closing Statement from Nicole25:13 Daily Mantra25:29 Outro26:42 “Free Mind” – Tems: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=tQiNQL-FEgU&si=h3oAXYLrfQR1SK3jEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Bi-Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Connect With HostsKim’ Beavershttps://invisiblelines.quora.com/[email protected] Zimmermanbellagzimmerman@outlook.comholistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.meNicole [email protected] BPD Support Resources and Bi-weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Kim Beavers, Bella Zimmerman, and Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, we begin with a compelling excerpt from Dr. Gregory Serfer’s book, "I Am Still Right Here". Nicole and Bella sit down with Dr. Serfer to have a healthy conversation about his book and his experience of being in a relationship with a person with BPD (pwBPD). They reflect on ways to destigmatize BPD and provide advice and encouraging words to a pwBPD and their partners, friends, and family.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Guest:Dr. Gregory SerferEmail: [email protected]: I Am Still Right Here: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTQoura: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-SerferIn this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro0:58 Trigger Warning1:21 Excerpt of Chapter 1 of I Am Still Right Here(Beginning of Interview)6:38 Introduction of Dr. Gregory Serfer11:04 The Creation of I Am Still Right Here15:30 Qualities/Traits of BPD in Relationships23:09 Practitioners' Attitude towards BPD and Personality Disorders24:38 BPD Doesn't Define a Person26:03 Idolization, Invalidation, and Disregard in BPD37:03 Understanding Transient Feelings45:08 Resilience in BPD51:06 Suggestions for Stressful Medical Environments1:04:16 Love Letter to BPD1:06:40 Final ThoughtsDr. Serfer's Final Words(End of Interview)1:14:33 Outro1:18:03 "Thinking Less" by Sinead Harnett Music: https://tinyurl.com/SineadHarnettMusicConnect with the Hosts:Bella ZimmermanEmail: [email protected]: holistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.meNicoleEmail: [email protected]: https://www.showmegrace.orgCredits:Hosts: Bella Zimmerman and NicoleMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiPodcast Producer: NicoleResearch Team: Nicole & Tamar BrignolleWebsite Resources:Bi-weekly Support Group (Wed): https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainSupport The Show:Pandora, Amazon Music, Samsung Podcasts, iHeartRadio, Listen Notes

In this episode, we discuss the inception of our podcast title, "I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right," and feature an interview with our host, Nicole (AKA Sasha Fearce), conducted by her friend of 35 years Aseelah El-Amin. Nicole shares her journey as a BPD warrior, shedding light on the stigmas surrounding BPD, and how the diagnosis can impact personal journeys and relationships.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro1:11 Sensitive Content Warning1:21 BPD Episode: Crying in the Parking Lot(Beginning of Interview)IntroHow Did You Come Up with the Title, I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right?Who is Sasha Fearce?Misdiagnosis and Confirmation of BPDThe Origin of BPD Diagnosis Does the Diagnosis Matter?Is There a Way to Prevent BPD?How Can You Decipher Between BPD Episodes and Everyday Emotions?When Do You Disclose BPD in New Relationships?Once You Disclose, What is the Ideal Response?(End of Interview)BPD Daily MantraPodcast OutroMusic feature “Free” by Stephanie Mills: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QF4k5qPy-eMEpisode Resources:- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org Connect with the Host:Nicole DarbyEmail: [email protected]: https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Hosts: Aseelah El-Amin and Nicole DarbySound Engineer: Stefan MitroiMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIIEditor: Nicole DarbyResearch Team: Tamar Brignolle Support The Show:Spotify: Apple Podcast:YouTube: Coming SoonWebsite: ​​https://www.showmegrace.org/coming-soon-01Topic keywords: mental health podcast, mental health awareness, my mental health journey, mental health journey stories, bpd, bpd podcast, bpd disorder, borderline personality disorder, bpd in relationships, bpd diagnosis, bpd support

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