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BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull

from Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups · host A.J. Mahari

BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles - "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/PullBPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD - It's the push-pull "get-away closer" that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each person with BPD has 8-16 years of successful treatment.Without that treatment Borderlines have no hope of learning object constancy and object permanence. Borderline Approach/Avoid (push/pull) is the absence of object constancy. This relational deficit in people with BPD is at the very core of what makes relating to them impossible and oh, so, painful that you can lose yourself in the process.Sessions with A.J. Mahari - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

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BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles - "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/PullBPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD - It's the push-pull "get-away closer" that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each person with BPD has 8-16 years of successful treatment.Without that treatment Borderlines have no hope of learning object constancy and object permanence. Borderline Approach/Avoid (push/pull) is the absence of object constancy. This relational deficit in people with BPD is at the very core of what makes relating to them impossible and oh, so, painful that you can lose yourself in the process.Sessions with A.J. Mahari - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

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BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles - "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/PullBPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD - It's the push-pull "get-away closer"...

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