Bugs and Boundaries

"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." ~Brene Brown Sometimes I think boundaries get a bad wrap. Boundaries actually help us define ownership - who I am, what is my responsibility. Just like a screen door, they keep the good in and the bad out. We are the ones who set the boundary and when we don’t clearly mark our boundary that’s where we can get into trouble. Remember that our boundaries are ours to enforce. It is not the other person’s job to guess or try to read your mind as to your needs and desires. Do we know: how to tell when our boundaries have been violated? when to say yes? How to say no? How to confront someone and draw a boundary with them, or ourselves? The body doesn’t lie: microbes are attracted to emotional states: Invasion of boundaries = vulnerable to parasites. Resentment = fungal invasions (including candida and yeast infections). How to say yes - “I’d love to, or thanks for asking AND Let me check my calendar and get back with you How to say no - “That’s not going to work for me” What might be some reasons you can’t speak up? Broken beliefs or fears. How to create a boundary: confrontation vs conflict resolution. People only respect the boundaries they know are there. We train people how to treat us. Try using the Rule of 3. Speak using "I" messages vs "You" messages. Boundaries are for everyone’s benefit. Healthy boundaries create healthy relationships. Healthy relationships give way to peaceful happy living.