Building Resilience: How Architecture and Landscape Can Assist With the Process of Grieving

Ever wondered how architecture and landscape can turn contested land into a living tribute to lives lost and those affected by family violence? In this episode, I chat with Amy Muir, director of Muir Architecture, about designing Victoria's Family Violence Memorial located next to the Parliament Precinct in East Melbourne. It's a reminder that memorials aren't relics, but rather spaces for reflection, gathering and support that advocate for societal and political change.Amy's journey began with her passion for architecture and landscape when studying at RMIT. Through her education and research, memorialisation within the context of our cities has been a key focus for the practice. Partnering with Mark Jacques from Openwork, they worked with Indigenous advisor Sarah Lynn Rees from JCB Architects and in close consultation with the City of Melbourne, the Department of Premier and Cabinet Office for Women, the Victims Survivors' Advisory Council, Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung Cultural Heritage Aboriginal Corporation, Boon Wurrung Foundation and Bunurong Land Council Aboriginal Corporation.We explore the core design: a purple-flowering 'landscape in motion' around a gentle 800mm high steel wall, forming an outdoor room for reflection and gatherings with an Indigenous smoking vessel for ceremonies. No names etched, an ethical nod to the 'immeasurable' condition of family violence.Amy shares that it has recently been reported by Women's Agenda that in NSW police are called to a domestic violence incident every three minutes. She discusses survivor grace, design's fragility-to-strength shift, and Fitzroy Gardens sightlines for healing. Memorials evolve, advocating education, bias-breaking on gender and shame, and compassion for all.What you'll hear in this episode:Amy's path from interior design to architecture and her love of cemeteries as 'in-between' spacesConsultation with Victim Survivors Advisory Council, Indigenous wisdom like 'The law of the land is to keep people safe' in Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung, and ethical dilemmas of a 'memorial in motion' without namesDesign details: Purple plantings, a cocooning steel wall balancing strength and safety, and embedded ashes from the site's first smoking ceremonyLearnings on coercive control, grief's non-linear nature, and architecture's role in societal changeResources & links: City of Melbourne's Family Violence Memorial: https://citycollection.melbourne.vic.gov.au/family-violence-memorial/ Office for Women Victoria: https://www.vic.gov.au/gender-equality-and-womens-leadership Women's Agenda: https://womensagenda.com.au/latest/woman-killed-in-alleged-assault-at-hunter-valley-home-30-year-old-man-arrested/ Muir Architecture: https://muirarchitecture.com/ Openwork: https://openwork.info/Remember: You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.Take care, CatherineWe'd love to hear from you. Send us a text :-)Death is hard, make death admin easy with the Critical Info Platform. It’s a simple, secure system that helps you prepare and share your legacy, wishes and personal paperwork.It’s packed with prompts, guides and even a To Do List to help you easily gather critical information for a complete end-of-life plan.Leave behind a legacy, not a mess.Sign up now to your free trial at critical info.com.auNo credit card needed. Every Tuesday at 7pm, I host Critical Chat Tuesdays — free, online conversations where you can ask questions or just listen.No pressure. No expectation.Because this isn’t about planning for “someday” — it’s about being ready for whatever life throws your way.Join anytime at criticalinfo.com.au/events MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?Our guide, ‘My Loved One Has Died, What Do I Do Now?’ provides practical steps for the hours and days after a loved one's death. Download it here.SUPPORT SERVICESIf you're feeling overwhelmed by grief, find support through our resources and bereavement services here.Support the showSupport the 'Don’t Be Caught Dead' podcast with a one-off or regular donation to help Critical Info, a certified social enterprise, keep creating free, high-impact conversations about death, grief and planning—every contribution fuels our mission to reduce the burden on families and build a more death-literate, compassionate community. Donate here now.Learn more: https://criticalinfo.com.au/Connect with Don't Be Caught Dead podcast host Catherine Ashton & Critical info on socials:https://linktr.ee/catherine_critical_info?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=c1879300-84db-4c70-9270-18d17d3ec22aMusic composer: Ania Reynolds - https://www.aniareynolds.com/