Butterfly Love From Infatuation to Real Love

Send us Fan MailButterflies don’t build marriages—choices do. We open up about the rush of infatuation, the friction of the fight for power, and the quiet strength of mature love, weaving our 26-year story through the science, the pitfalls, and the simple practices that help couples grow. You’ll hear why dopamine and oxytocin make those early days feel like a dream, how cortisol and stress twist small annoyances into big battles, and what it takes to move from me-versus-you to us-versus-the-problem.We break down the three stages of love with honesty and hope. From late-night balcony confessions to the seven-year itch, we name what changes, what hurts, and what actually heals. Along the way, we offer concrete tools you can use tonight: summarize-before-you-respond listening, ground rules for hard talks, the three-to-one affirmation rule, and a pause, pray, plan approach for high-stakes decisions. We also tackle comparison, stonewalling, and scorekeeping, and we share how weekly family meetings, shared values, and small, daily touches restore trust and affection.If you’ve wondered where the spark went, or feared you’ve fallen out of love, this conversation reframes conflict as the classroom where love grows up. Mature love isn’t less passionate; it’s more secure, more generous, and far more sustainable. And yes, the butterflies can return in moments—when your habits make space for them. Want more? Our new book, Butterfly Love, tells the whole story and hands you the tools we use. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review so others can find the show. Then tell us: which stage are you in, and what tool will you try this week?GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: i...