Changeology Clinic: The Silent Saboteurs: How "Shoulds" Derail Your Growth

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of the Changeology podcast, I’m walking you through one of the most persistent—and insidious—roadblocks I see in my work with women navigating big life or career changes: the SHOULDs.These aren’t just annoying expectations or to-do list items. They’re internalized stories that dictate how we think, behave, and make decisions—without our conscious consent. In this solo episode, I unpack what Shoulds really are, where they come from, and why they hold so much power over us. I also walk you through a three-step coaching exercise to help you identify, explore, and reclaim your authority over the SHOULDs running your life on autopilot.Whether you’re stuck in a job that no longer fits, people-pleasing your way through burnout, or second-guessing every decision you make as a parent, this episode offers both insight and action steps to help you start clearing the weeds.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:🌟 Why “I should…” statements are often a sign of unconscious programming, not actual values 🌟 The three types of SHOULDs—and how they quietly influence your choices 🌟 How to identify the weeds in your mental garden (and what it takes to clear them out) 🌟 A journaling-based coaching exercise to help you keep the shoulds that serve you—and ditch the ones that don’tIf you want support dismantling the stories that no longer serve you—and designing a life that actually does—check the show notes for info about working together 1:1.