Chaos to Clarity: Michelle Spexarth on Embracing Self-Validation

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Michelle Spexarth, a trauma-informed coach, about the pivotal moment when she realized she needed to stop seeking external validation and focus on her self-worth. Michelle opens up about her journey of self-discovery, influenced by the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay, and shares actionable advice on how to reconnect with and value oneself.Guest Information:Michelle Spexarth is a trauma-informed coach specializing in helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. She is dedicated to guiding others towards healing and self-discovery, helping them to own their actions and resilience. Michelle runs a free Facebook group called "Soul Survivors," where she conducts weekly classes.Main Topics Covered:Michelle’s background and family lifeThe catalyst moment that led to her journey of self-discoveryThe role of external validation in her life and the shift towards internal validationThe impact of the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, and othersPractices and techniques Michelle used to reconnect with herselfThe importance of owning one’s actions and choicesSpecific examples of how Michelle's perspective has changed through this journeyQuote from the Episode:"Because I was just like this, I have got to find a place where I am not so vulnerable to others, also to where I feel okay within myself, no matter what’s going on outside of me." – Michelle SpexarthTimestamps:00:00:04– Introduction and welcome00:00:28– Michelle shares her current location and weather in Kansas00:00:45– Michelle's personal background and family details00:03:22– Introduction to the topic: Seeking validation00:03:44– Michelle’s realization journey about needing internal validation00:05:02– The state of Michelle's life during the time she began this transition00:07:00– The specific event with homeschool sports that triggered awareness00:12:23– How Michelle felt and handled the situation at that time00:13:44– Discussion on ways to own one's actions and control one's life00:20:00– Tools and resources Michelle used for self-discovery00:23:00– Practical exercises Michelle used to learn more about herself00:26:27– Changes in perspective and handling situations today00:30:10– Reflection if younger version of Michelle could have made this shift00:34:05– Rapid fire questions00:36:23– Closing remarks and final thank youHow to connect with Michelle Spexarth:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/soulsurvivorshealingSpecial offer from the show guest: Course called Heal you, Heal Your Kids that is free when you use this link.https://www.udemy.com/course/heal-you-heal-your-kids-breaking-the-cycle-of-abuse/?couponCode=7B85A974B5D61C2FE971Note from the show: sometimes offers from guests are limited quantity or time-sensitive offers. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Before you go: Be sure to join the Imperfect Adulting Email community where you’ll get information about new episodes and special offers directly in your email inbox. www.imperfectadulting.com