Child Abduction Prevention #7

Find your voice - Episode 7 - The Way I Changed The World - Mus Jones Yafai #7 Tagline: "They are willing to do this, no matter the circumstances, no matter the time of the day, no matter who you are, they are willing to take your child, no matter what!" Mus Jones Yafai is a wonderful human being who needs your support in raising awareness for his wonderful cause, Child Safe. Having experienced a child abudction attempt on his younger child Mus has made it his lifes purpose to ensure the public are aware of all the ways possible to safe guard their children and other peoples children from abducters. With shocking statistics, it is the first time in my life I felt scared for anyone with children, for my younger siblings, for my own family members. I felt somewhat oblivious to all that was going on, only to really be woken up by this. I urge you all, to listen to this episode or at the very least follow Mus over on his social media outlets and help support this amazing cause to better safeguard the children of our future generations. P.s. it is not everyday you hug a grown bodybuilder the first time you see them! 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Aaron due to another episode of find your voice my name is Aaron and as always I am the host of the show so it's very rare you're gonna see two grown men embrace after an interview in fact you're not gonna see that because I never recorded it but this individual was an amazing person that after this interview we actually we had a moment and I say that because I thought a true connection to this person and I trust my gut feeling I haven't been a social worker in my previous life this is a person who's out there really trying to change the world and more importantly what he's trying to tackle is gonna affect almost every single one of us because it's about children and that's one of the most important things in the world if you ask me so I'm gonna literally jump into the interview you're gonna hear about an amazing person who's doing amazing things but he's also had some incredible experiences something that I don't wish upon anyone so without further ado let's get this interview on the way okay so I am sitting here now with moss so how you doing today man good very good always and yourself very well than the cold yeah thank you for taking time every day I think it's important for listeners to obviously get a story about yourself from you because rather than my kind of narrative yeah so if you wouldn't mind if you could just give us a little bit about your life maybe your upbringing just like key stuff that you think would be important and relevant for this story and then we want to really touch on the word that you're doing today which I'm really excited about but be good to get everyone to just get to know you a little bit okay well I'm a family of 11 Wow okay six reverse two sisters we grew up in a three-bedroom house wasn't easy but we were so it was fun and scary at the same time see living with strict Muslim parents okay no people tend to still really know about it's not about the religion it's about culture the culture is completely different I did about Christmases I do like birthdays but that made me appreciate life even more now especially with my children yeah I mean so I'm very grateful to have the little things with someone tries to give me a gift now I'm not well then so growing up you know growing up I played Lockerbie okay I plan to the playing professional would be the age 80 after playing rugby and then when two universities my degree after doing a sports degree no idea what I was doing constantly searching for it and I always wondered what is it what I'm going to do in life until now I believe we all have a destiny absolutely no matter when it will happen in our life we don't know as we keep searching good surgeon and I found when I stopped searching I think everyone's trying to find the perfect age I suppose yeah or they'll see somebody else next door to finding it that's not necessarily your story people these days well they see was they see the value of money objects as well you know you know I do as well you see someone if I want to do that look well then you realize they put that hard work in I haven't just been handed it to and then this day when their work you know their lives to get those things I always say that I think it's so easy to look at so you see people on Instagram for example or Facebook and they're successful they've got a nice car money and you like it's easy for them well is it really easy for ya do you know what they win through the power sister journey and actually yeah okay that's interesting so you didn't use your degree actually touched on phase of your path so eleven children in your house are you the middle one the older young yes are you the young oh yes he's a pretty one yes we are at the Council of four children okay just before we go into this it was mine of course so you've got your degree you realize you're not gonna do nothing with the degree I can relate to that yeah and you do something now what's happening in between here is this mom argue just be lost the wall no this is all found one supposed to do now this is completely and it took something tragic for me to find it but there's no uncertainty in my mind and now what I have to do and it's for the rest of my life it's there's no doubt it's like I'm finally happy it's it's an amazing feeling to know what you're supposed to be pond why'd you were put on earth for and this is the feeling that we need to give to everyone else to find it it's the most amazing feeling ever you wouldn't you know what you want to do like I said life is not about just going to work every single day to work your well for someone else and then just to go home yeah I'll see you happy kid you're happy then just go work if it's up to me obviously we have that passion to find something we'd love to do absolutely and then spend the time with the people we love that's what loves about I mean you have to do something you love to do in life there's no you can't work just to end your life I suppose it's a shame though society kind of teaches us that that's the norm of course it's go to school get a decent bread innocent that's it retire at 65 make sure you've got pension safe sixty-five no we can do it now of course the white decision is in the right action okay so fantastic so we're gonna jump into the bit that I'm excited about yeah so I just thought of a name you know I want you to elaborate I want you to explain it or it's gonna be the first time I'm listening as well okay so hopefully the listeners will will get excited as much as I am okay what I'm gonna start with the Nana neighbors child safe mm-hm yeah bread more than that well I'll tell you the story and how the story came so basically my three-year-old daughter was almost taken from me the 7th of October 2018 at 1 p.m. and Lidl was doing my supermarket shopping it was the craziest scariest feeling I've ever heard of my life I'm just doing my shopping as normally doing but I noticed this man walking around the shop he had enough fusions constantly not taking any food up no do no shopping so I'm a partner there's something weird happen in the shop he's everything I could just feel it and then he carried on following us around a shop and they just I tried to ignore it but not know at the same time because just when did you involve with children your parents did you're the protector you have to do anything you can't just keep them safe so we get to talk when we're doing put enough into the into the trolley and then Otis joined our queue and he's got nothing any sound so I'm just like okay and then I've put more daughters as both Attilio there's normally an edgy something like that sent them enough food in the toilet and then the exits to our left and with kids it's alright so we're standing and then he just wants to please shut down I said okay something's definitely having no and she's done pause I'm gonna go get ice concert Kim a periphery looking at him and then he walks past in the queue so he's leaving the shop but he doesn't leave the shop he walks then to the right and goes it six six market and I'm like don't tell miles of him whatsoever mom my head's like is he gonna do something is he not am i playing tricks on myself I'm not just reading into this too much is he generally just a normal man just stand in their way but it wasn't that case unfortunately he decided to get close to my daughter close to my daughter and then I said time upon again I said he's about to do something which is like he's not doing anything so I've turned back round give him that chance to see if he does turn back round again he's then about to pick up my daughter and run out the shop with her this is where like I completely froze at first because that was a nut much shock you just like you know a lot of men would say why didn't you do this why didn't you do this and fortunately I reacting the more perfect why you're not even around my kids and I've got both of them put them both behind me and I stared at this man I said you just tried to kidnap my daughter mmm the thing that baffled me them even more he just stood there said to me do you even say anything did you move didn't do anything just the best there and I mean I'm like you just tried to take my daughter turn what are you doing nothing so now I'm standing there I looked at my bond another man comes running through the shop grabs him in a bow the most is that people slamming body doesn't do anything about it I'm shouting this man telling me telling him he's a toy yeah everyone's carrying on with their shopping no this is the thing that I'm trying to get people to realize that we need to stick together into these situations we all need to educate on child abductions mmm I'm chod crimes so we are aware for other people's children I'm just trying to put myself in that situation even as a boy and a girl go apprehend that or what you must have been going through and obviously the whole reaction side and stuff to it people can't see you on this podcast you're a big guy you know a guy they're gonna rob something from like I'm being honest I would go tea yeah it'd be intimidating for me so you just prove she's come out absolutely proved to me they're willing to do this no matter what I mean this is at 1:00 p.m. in the middle of the down I'm doing my shopping you know I mean the taunting you least expect under the times when they're gonna try and strike because we are get so complacent day to day lives we're gonna do my shopping my kids this it was a vigilant there and I'll sometimes done stuff I don't know it's a bit of driving something you drive something you know driving yeah of course do you know your daughter pilots subconsciously yes the scary thing is especially my mom ponder kind of beat yourself up for a because she for a long time she couldn't deal with cuz she knows and even or no and I could say she day she would have been gone if I was in there yeah come on partner didn't see nothing she's very believers in their own world she she wouldn't think there's someone trying to take a dog especially so close to home but this is the thing we're gonna make people realize it does not matter where you are in this country next country is happening people do these things and it's scary that people know people don't know anything about what happens we see the films that's how you 2018 last year was I speak like people don't know there was 1189 actions with almost a hundred thousand attempted a child yeah Manchester being in this country Birmingham's third these every years they're very high and people don't know anything about it yeah I mean I was a social worker in my last life yeah I went back to uni and looking after George was always kind of a my dad I want you to be the best social worker for children yeah wonderful children our hopes and feel your passion in here obviously you just can't do something else that's crazy so did the police did you get the piece about what yeah obviously I'll gone in to speak to them I'm in the shop so I'll talk to the manager I said listen I need the CCTV the finish of the story I've actually ran out to the shop I've got my kids got something and they was they was standing in the middle of the car park they were just basically and I'll run up to them again just to say listen you've tried to take my daughter the police and because I'm stealing that much shock he played in my mind he tricked me he was like no no I didn't take your daughter and I'm just like he's not my wife is in the shop she's got a full trolley she's waiting in the queue okay let's go back in so I've locked the door but other kids I said I'll be back in a second so obviously as I've said that about Deb walked off quite quickly so I walked back into the shop they did have a woman with him but they had no shopping all right so that as I've gone in them three are running out the shelf so this is the thing we need to reload they're working in groups and we can't judge the fuck the male or female a comedy with a female and two groups to try and track a child obviously though maternity think that woman has with children they doing anyone would do it but yeah of course your point he was just scared to know that a woman would be in that group as well so this is the thing that I'm trying to but try to have one that not just for our kids for other people of course as you said we see things how we think we would do it other way oh we gotta realize everyone is different I mean I already grabbed it do you know all these kind of crazy but you don't know well okay so thank God no of course all of that from that what was your process then so then I went to the manager as for the CCTV footage he said there's a code they have to get from the head office the police the police I said okay we're gonna go down and get the head and get the code we'll get the CCTV footage because all I wanted to get that those faces out to the public so they know what they look like and they can be aware from it you know what I blame the police for a while because I kept going obviously every weekend to do my food shopping you do kept telling me the police I'm pinned down you the police station again I said what's going on was when we bend down and we said we have we sent police down there okay what's happening this is the way for the code I've gone down to little again I said they come to get the code it was like no no no one's come down yet and I'm like okay what's this quite strange after three weeks gunned down again anyone in all come to get the code No come down yet four weeks have gone the CCTV footage has rewritten gun this is the thing I've gonna made my social media I make videos about the police saying calm believe what they've done to me then they let me down those foul but this system was fine filed by the police well I wasn't the police went down three times little failed me right they kept lying to the police telling them that the code haven't come down yet the code don't come down yet yes of course it is so they let me down they completely let me down they didn't get the code when they never attempted to get the code in the first place which was their heartbreaking comment which you know it was all never those faces you mean you know I never thought for that was gonna happen I never knew this would be the outcome of my daughter Thomas being taken from me as well so throughout life things are gonna happen we're all gonna go straight faced you going to go through stuff that it's not fair some stuff is out of our control you have in that moment day I suppose and moving forward of course two ways you can either take it or you can take those actions when you're in control yourself control you change the world so could you explain a little bit more about this net so we know it's called Charles Seife yes it's based on the story that obviously you went through that horrific moment there's so firstly I opened up a social media page so how do I reach the people these days it was all social media so my way to reach people with social media told my story which I think are 10 to 15 thousand views share it compared to my videos now I'm not yeah of course suppose I mean how many ever got so many views on it and that's what then enticed everyone else to follow me what I was doing so what can I do to challenge it firstly I just like okay I walk around supermarkets are warriors shops you gotta move it here you get to Birmingham when you see signs everywhere saying criminals in action watch your cars thieves here did nowhere is that a sign telling you that child abductors are nowhere is someone that someone may take your kid I know that people might not want to see that unfortunately this is the life we live in people need to be aware I mean I would let my daughter a world did let more daughters run around the shops let him do what they want you know me no one's gonna tell my kid but that's not the way life is now so sad ya know I'm even going back to when I was young doors are open in the houses cause it was a community yeah I think it is a problem and I'm guilty of this myself I'm sure listeners can resonate with this is like even now I mean I've got lovely neighbors on both sides your house because its head down I'm getting on with my life course and Tokyo yes pose because but the thing is you say we haven't got time but stuff like this we need to make it non negotiable on Jupiter and we have okay bring it sorry sorry trucks yes okay so from there obviously I've got these posters and I'm like I need to get someone designed I've never done anything - where do I go some was like the graphic designer I'm like okay I'll go speak to so that is only he doesn't mean oh I have this image in my head and what my design looks like and then can you do me a poster poster for me and I'm like oh my god this is amazing so I'll get thousands of posters printed I'm using all of my own money I'm better than everything I possibly can into this and then on this social media page I'm telling everyone who was a help who was a help me message of the message after message and I'm like what the hell I didn't understand I didn't realize this is gonna I'm not okay I'm gonna I'm gonna have to take the you count by myself I'm like this but I hate I mean I've had now 3,000 followers among them to free fast follows I'm a group and my page I've got 900 almost hitting the thousand I'm my page and I'm just like messages some parents telling me what an inspiration I am teenagers telling worried about asking me for four posters saying I want to help I want to get your posters out there I want to put them in the shops I want to post your fly for the door and I'm like I wanted to make a difference where I'm noticing that everyone else wants to make it fits as well at least yeah so I spend the first few months ending posters here Thursday and I'm like I'll totally get in around in this area by the hillstar which everyone I'm looking it's up in Yorkshire sucked down south it's it and so from there know what do I do next first we need to raise the awareness so that's the main thing we need to do because people don't know what's happening so the main thing to me was to raise the awareness to everyone mmm-hmm well and I'm like this is good it was not good enough no where do I go from here you know what I went to met this man called Oliver he messaged me and said can I meet up we are because I love what you're doing up and he was an amazing man he's been for a lot of things as well our kids he's weren't in prisons and his scene is but with people and he seen so much of his stuff and he educated me and so much it gave me this knowledge I'm not okay education that's where I'm going education so that's where I got to start and that's why I'm gonna finish we need to educate the country and educate our children on the dangers because ease the children a this is happening to so children don't know what's happening hmm and as parent you know we do as well even if you tell you know what I'll tell my daughter things she won't listen school she's like the best pupil because I thought I'm an authority figure tell them something they were listen and learn so I need to get into the schools designed with the kids because the kids are on the games and there was over a hundred children you know they have no idea about after doing research if you want you're gonna win this country of course but it's just like no one's here police like after getting them up on a loved it because they said we used to go to the schools and do the stranger dangers and things I mean yeah yeah but we don't Lisa V Cohn anymore you ain't got no police we can't send them down you guys we need the police in the streets and because of what's happened in our stabbings or the thefts child abductions or child cards have been pushed to the back you know I mean be this it's absolutely we need to make sure it's gonna be safe for now so I'm gonna dust the plant but that's just the beginning of course so with the school I'm not okay I'm gonna go to my doors prime school I can't go down so promise don't say listen this is what happens when you get this is the tips and you need to know so I had a bear designed cord captain Charlton okay so how can I get two kids what do I do monkeys to teach them are read books to them every single night and you know what they're nuts sometimes they love this in their favorite but they even recite them to me as I'm reading because they beat him so much I'm like I'm gonna make books I'm gonna write books at the moment for books books the first one I've just sent off for editing he's come back and it's amazing I love it which is based on a true story called the supermarket okay so the first story each story will educate the children as well as be fun which will also educate the parents because we need to educate the parents as well because parents don't know this parents understand what's happening so we say to the parents the kids can't stay next to me so I mean I'll where's he gone book we don't but there's no sense of panic when they have gone always probably in the other oil so for me to then show that message that in the supermarkets with he's capturing child safe so he's the hero you know say Whitney got Sly Fox he's the one in every situation we'll try and take the job so in each situation in each book there's always a happy ending right always a happy ending but in happy so that's how I'm targeting the younger age is to to a to the other so through story and because the thing is also okay I'll do a program for the kids at the primary school what kids forget within 10 seconds before going to mention span as well but somebody speaking of course of course so if I went into a smaller I teaching them I'll go in there once I'm not gonna go in everyday online so don't forget as soon as they've forgotten I sit inside their head so if we do it for a story it's gonna be read to them time and time and time again and being Brennan to their brain and they know as they grow up no calm run off in the shop because if I wanna finish shut the slyfox mind getting out that's what I'm trying to do and feed into their brain Wow I mean like you said when you started this you had no idea no idea which way to go goes the books your North in our liver said this is fascinating so you you were talking about raising awareness then you've got a fantastic Facebook page and all this stuff will be in the show notes and I'll share it as much as I possibly can as well okay everyone's life's busy course we're gonna hear this it's gonna touch more people as hearts but some people are gonna touch them for a bit and then they're gonna get on with their lives yeah of course if they could just do one thing that's very very quick that would just help your message whether it's like is it as simple as just sharing your video or these leaflets here you've got available put in one of those oh this I'll have my leaflets these days I'll pay for our print they're all free if anyone wants posters they're more than welcome to us they all have to do is drop a message to my page I will then deliver send it but yet the Flyers and the posters are free I've had caustic has done as well which these are sold and my website is gonna be finished just called child safe okay they're stickers I have t-shirts made it's Ruby sorry right on the page as well where all the money that I'll music space or my own money or the world I've worked for and any profit made it all goes into the chalk on to the police there's something called active citizens fund okay and I'm waiting for the approval of it approval of it because I can't go into the school's intended I can't go to those kids and be like yeah as soon as they listen they need something to read to take the information they need the tips so they concert can keep reading oh and also show the parents because there's tips and there for parents of what they can and can't doing or should or shouldn't do even to let them children be safe yeah and stuff you were getting early and I'm like I I get that because I'm sitting here now midway through this and I just want to help you like yeah I'm gonna help you right now each and Brian this will probably come in I don't know a month's time for weeks time because of the schedule bumbler this needs to be out there now so up until that time offline after this I want you to speak to me as well and let me know of course I've got a couple of friends in the printing industry as well okay and even if it is quite a few favors can you just do the first thousand free listen this is going to stuff that's going to change this world the world hundred percent you don't mean and it's most people are gonna have children in their lives or no children of course find of children to make sure that there was no why even not the people just with children people that don't have children need to know that so they they are aware as well so when they see someone talking to a child and they and the child is acting in the certain behavior that don't look right they can step in and say excuse me little one you okay is this your dad is this your mom I mean so they need to be aware of this is for everyone it ain't just at first I generally thought used to the parent and I'm like you know what the best one that happened to me this girl I want to be waiting just cuz I finally realize what I gotta do if you're like okay this is just this is my mission this is that's my mom this isn't our mission so this is I'm just doing what I'm supposed to be doing so this was built message me tell me one inspiration a man that and I'm like okay well thank you flyer she's messaged me again and I said she just put thank you so much again for doing what you doing you helped me save a life what do you mean I helped you save a lot she goes I was in memory Hill didn't shopping because I've seen a little boy were in on the shop and he's running down there and there's no parents and she said all of a sudden man's grabbed his hand and she said she's lucky that she's run over to this bone and said this dust on your son is it she he's let go I'm enough so she's obviously she said because of what you've done yeah you've educated me to be vigilant and I've saved the boy's life and moms come were in that shock come here my son she's like some manhood and I'm like oh that was the maddest even that was like I'm tingling that was the best feeling Donna my message is gonna buzz it isten it's working that girl is now saved another kids we almost need everyone to know nobody so everyone's singing from the same hymn sheer supposed because there is a tendency are suppose even we're not we're not gonna have for example and you see tail up without us and you see like somebody may have been a bit like overly aggressive speaking to his wife you know Pyrus and suppose you know should I jump yeah should I know it's always that kind of know your limits know your boundaries last thing you want to do is go in and then even she turns around he's like what are you doing I mean no couples all you don't yeah anyway we need to jump in not justify just to stop and profess if you're not jumping into joining the five-year someone because you've hurt him what's the point you're just doing this bad as that privacy really don't make money to join in just to stop before explain this and you guys explain this like the best I suppose intervention methods for the phobia percent I figure of someone who's probably gonna be anxious to do that although we need to do it yes I've said because I had so many messages mmm-hmm when fortunately I reacted in the perfect way of what government my kids and everyone else should do that as well especially if it's someone else doesn't matter if it is that or is mom and you think they're acting the way of just grab that child's hand and ask if they're okay and you're not do nothing bad it's so many people telling me so why didn't you beat him up and you know what I didn't know there was a group I first turned to me there was one man so if I've jumped on this Mannie my doors are never seen that go my children are now panicking I'm on top of this man beating this man oh all of a sudden I look up there my children are gone because the other two in the group of tank in them we can't this again how it's almost like you actually reacted in the yeah it's fortunately that's not me not fortunately I acted in the perfect way and grab much Oh No maybe he was the decoy to get me together you see I think it's plenty of videos where there's somebody who I seen one the other day sorry I'm going a bit yeah there's a piece of delivery driver on a motorbike you know the guys robbed the pizza from the back of the day okay and as he's run off the guys that my pizza he's gonna deliver it so he's chased him to the door of someone's run on his bike yes but it's a similar kind of quality because they saw suppose house Wow did they use our brains again so it's in it's in our interest to act 100% the way you act you children your children is your first priority in life no matter what you were the first thing scrubber Jose Cuban said don't need don't worry about Emma don't worry don't grassy don't jump on him it's if you have your partner with them or someone else get your pond it's a cup of kids and they detain that map you know mean see this is arrest that man that's it you don't you don't wanna stop being an absolute yeah the fault of someone taking your child is that part breaking you will go too far you may kill that man and then you're still not going to see your child anyway okay fantastic I could just speak about this for like a whole day I'm conscious that the show is it in its own yeah of course and so I want to kind of find out more stuff about you yeah a little bit I'm just it's fascinating it takes a certain type of human being to do this like I said I'm in my social life I said a lot of people or moms from like a nursing background I always thought those kind of people with that nature that caring nature the world needs more of it and of course they need more support so if I could support you after this podcast I'll do that thank you so some of these questions now this is more interested I always think it's fascinating when I when I when I sit with people at yourselves you've got such an amazing story so I think routine and daily habits are where we are in life for example so I look at successful people like okay he's doing this I'm gonna just take this from his daily honey I can explain from the moment you wake up to the moment you sleep how is a day that it's all routine I've got a working with you you know what I see most times in my life I never worked in routine and you don't your body is a machine your body is a computer whether you like it or now you need to realize that your body in your brain it all works on repetition so if you do something your body knows the next day it's gonna do the same thing so and even to our motion because I've still never planned out course we don't happen so I have the keys marketed before I leave the house just in case anything does happen to me so that's what I do and then I get up I'm on a routine time I'll just try my so then so I've got my routine food clothes give some love to my dog to work [Music] this is me hundred percent so I'm gonna go to work come back home spend some time with children you know what you all get so focused and forget a lot of things sometimes and sometimes we forget our children and you know I'm she was doing 70 80 hours a week so we just spent fun it's on soon as Tom goes sammartino go to the gym in the morning I tell my kids to school when I'm saying it seem normal because I'm doing the key thing is I just wanna stare is you've got the routine cause this is so important because plan plan plan plan plan like I did before mrs. I never planned anything Moloch was all over the place watch your reactive impulse on the moment live for the day that's all it's one of the things so when I gave up my job I had to get routine in place I'm scatterbrain yeah everyone knows that regimented from the moment I wake up similar to yourself Anderson even stuff like I have to have a liter and a half of water so nutritious in everything is so regimented of course but you get so much more done because because I've got no time I guarantee you've got you probably said no but it's amazing stuff you're doing now you've got three doors as well yeah you're doing all this amazing stuff you're working out as well I know you're in competition prep it's tough I know what it goes through mentee to use that that way in everything so this Lodge we live in this live from when people are going free just doing the easiest things possible just to get through the day no mean there maybe you go to the pub have a drink of a laugh or no but this love you got a challenge yourself man every single day is supposed to be a challenge I mean if you ain't challenge yourself or fluff about no mean cannot do that lets covergirl let's do it I'm scared of that let's do the scariest thing possible man cuz that doli those things will give you those amazing feelings no if nothing else will give you that feeling it's impossible hundred percent I mean I always say at the moment your brain tells you should we do that or no do it do it cause that is something that you need to do yeah of course that's where you're talking yourself know a little bit like we spoke about just before a stylist podcast the reason I'm doing this part I have to do this yeah I have to do this and it's not about me and I keep saying this this podcast is nothing to do with me like my story's not on here but this is about people like yourself yeah because even if I get 5 people to listen to this and to share your story and think child thing's safe enough I love that model stuck in my head lookee what he said it was yeah if we can stop five people that my job is don't do of course that's Michael isn't that 5 or 10 said someone else and then that Forbes or someone else and then the word passes on that that's it that's how the world works it's all gonna do we're gonna change each other's mindset to make positive impact you know what happens to me every day it's just it's no even downpour this is a teenagers well I didn't expect the reaction this is one of them adores fence follows me on Instagram no I've seen his post and he was on his story these poor named neo gliese girl in my class and then the only boy in my class and everyone's going in on it no what is this boy doing so I have to message it no I don't know him personally I saw I saw a young man that's like we can't judge people we smell up to us the judge I said you might affect someone's life really backs people are putting four names on this thing I'm a man I said we need to do someone else we need to change water make it positive let every wheel I said people will love you more if you do something good and tell say who is the prettiest who is the best of football who is the funniest and then you know what I was expecting a little teenager yes he said to six laughs he deleted it people who defeats the funniest and he thinks the face he got so many more comment soon he had so many people he was reported look how many more people commented now because it's a positive message I send you know yes so that was a wicked never write anything like that as a kid because simply we gotta have that emotional intelligence when somebody create new almost constructive criticism AUSA's which is hard to take as hundred are you going stuff but as I've dropped my ego as I've grown through life and personal development it's easier now 100 would I had that intelligence Isaac as a kid so if I see something like I was driving yesterday do you man see people said really does no people think that maybe we may have all bad bad things happen in our lives and he's supposed to choose how we deal with them problems and happy happy or we gonna dwell on it and be set for the rest of our lives this is what I need to teach people we need to teach people a lot of people think they're stuck in the rock yeah I mean they don't know how to get out and this is their life now that's how they'll be with celebrities this is a message to perform coach edge we're all in control of our destiny everyone is in control of it well Easter day tomorrow in a month we are control you say you want to go do that so many time you put the hard work in and it can get done there's notice things are possible kids say I carnate a word in my addiction yeah yeah you know body get rid of that's one of the first Birds I got rid of nano magic screen there told oh man he's powerful you remind me of myself so you'll meet my wife one day yeah hope you have this we hundreds ain't gonna keep in touch I'm sure died for this because I I'm one of the most emotional people like you'll ever see for a guy yeah I like I've done the whole boxing scene may I do that all day but you show me a sad story when I see someone hurt whether I normal not I I don't know what what happens to me but I feel they hurt and you almost want to just say look let me take that away from you know kind of thing like we bless we're looking even better listen people like this yeah we have such big hearts and we came here have that emotion to give to everyone else so I used to so I'm gonna front-engine here I just have this thing where a leopard doesn't change this bus and all we believe people could have changed and I've interview some fascinating people are gonna cook on here and they've changed their life as well yeah so I've almost changed my own beliefs to sort of think everyone's good but we sometimes make bad decisions yeah of course we do and I think if we can try and like you said chain that perception get everyone thinking positively doing good things will it come and I used I used to be scared of saying like I want to change the world right yeah because it's that you change the world you just don't just a normal guy whatever I'm like okay I want to change the world I can't do by myself it's a bit like you say you don't know how you're gonna get there but you just take one step on it I'm gonna get there this is the thing that you don't do though this is why I attempted to do I wanted to know I wanted my boy I did and I'm like completely burned myself out and I was like I even doubted myself there is too much I mean in my Eskimo convict's a picture of my kids there is I was in the paper recently there's an established news of pictures the article to remind me of that day you can even use the analogy so I always talk about how to finish because it's a part of me you want to get to where you want to get to on your date so one thing always trying to do with people is I wanted to get involved in the gym or some sort of activity because that's the transferable skill when you master it you can take it into anywhere it can the next question is about adversity so if you could think of a time where you've been through adversity you've come over it you know more versity my luck was you know I gave my love to so many people for one more friend and it was the hardest seems to be for me to do okay so much love and I generally fought my friend on me back my life and then I remember sitting down watching Bobby Kahn you did a little casting session he was like we need to figure out why you love the people that don't love you back and we know you know I never really figured it out till you Vince it up until now and the main thing I had to do because there were bad people I didn't understand why doing do things like I would call my friends daily ask like they'd go for trial tribulation so I thought I'll be there I mean I know we're doing the stuff that you would have done for this yeah course but I generally thought that's what friendship is yeah you know I mean but a lot of people see friendship as is he got something for me and you know what broke my heart man remember cry my eyes out dedicated to him and never got it back no and then I grew and then I met some other people I'm not are these clothes cool and i'm adjoining with these and then the same thing happened again man I'm like I blamed me I mean I'm like this is something wrong with me when I'm on doing what about done this must be something wrong till I met my partner then we got kids they love me yeah must have never done anything wrong like I've done bad things I never do Bettis to people don't know I've always had people's backs and I never understood Brian and you know what people want to be my friend or he would talk to me and need help I'll never stop change it's not can't change that's this theme I'm never gonna stop changing but I've learned to never expect it back that's my wife sister is something about these at home I'm not gonna call the system their expectations and that's the problem so when you come from a good heart in everything you do you expect the person to reciprocate that in the same way as yourself only did it cause and it doesn't weather and I learned this in solar even in the property game or I've had people reach out and I always take it on face value I'm like I've got no reason not to trust you so I trust you straight away yeah so when they telling me all this amazing fun right this is fantastic then all of a sudden there's a hidden little oh is that one yeah then I used to start thinking is that the reason that you're you're nice to me for you after all this time and I'm here like willing to do anything for you I suppose people sit as a weakness oh yeah so that yet people could see as weakness by Pegasus strength days so powerful what you're gonna go on and do yeah and I think as you go through this like you mentioned a guy earlier Oliver for example yes you're gonna meet Oliver's in the world gym right he was the first same user John who's the first person a person oh wow these people don't know what's going on this is what I want yeah I wanna you are an influencer of the people you around yeah of course you you when you start spreading this you're only gonna trap genuine people yeah because I'm gonna become a millionaire supporting this but I'm gonna change ahead of a lot of lives do and if that's somebody's true purpose lie like it is mine yeah we're gonna back this season mean this is amazing I mean not the fact that I got 3,000 followers in what's it's October November 3 to two months it's just two months man and I'm like that many people want to make a difference as well this is like changing my timezone by a thousand a million because that many people actually want to do it we just need to get it in their eyes get them seen this it's not I didn't even attack a lot of work doesn't take a lot whatsoever all it takes is that little pin on the board this podcast yeah and even it's just them viewing it they are building the knowledge we're not even knowing they're getting the knowledge just by watching the videos I don't know there's I mean I just think it's another social media page okay cuz I've there's so many social media pages and I see so many videos but we tend to get enticed in this board into the funny video when it comes to the serious things people try to forget about it don't want to see the serious book they have to is you can't forget I know what your answer is to the next question right and it is what is your biggest fear you touched on it basically idea I know anything opportunity kids before I had kids a little bit stank's in sports I was the best in the Midlands and even now like you know I guess I felt like a failure to my family as well I still I believed I was gonna change the family my family's lives I still believe that now there's no I'm still going to so that feeling never went without failure okay okay so next question I think you've kind of answered it again it's kind of just about motivation song yeah what motivates you you know I'm still human this is the thing we've got to remember that we are still homeless okay so on the days where you don't feel like getting out of bed and doing the stuff what we mud Smokies everyone says that's something you know before I was my kids was to be the best so if I didn't get up in the morning and go do that run someone else again up in the morning doing that run and then he's gonna be better than me so I don't want to be that loser so mean sob I'm doing it soon as I'm like a cake you know now someone's going to sleep so let them sleep I'm gonna do some more work yeah I mean that's how that's what I was my motivation to be the best I mean its challenges and those sort of things even other people mana motivate me we have to learn more about ourselves well known as why we might abandon ourselves because we want to do this we want to get this far even if it's the motivation to work hard cause you want to go buy a new car I mean for some people that's they think yeah cool it's not necessary my there's nothing wrong with that or I do what you do so I do this thing right and if somebody doesn't understand all going through a person development States gonna think I'm crazy but I do this thing so I'll go to the gym for example not Sam do cardio I hate cardio is because I then start talk to myself who else is doing this at this time that's only I'm doing it I hate it but I'm doing it and I kind of like almost stop digging myself up yeah yeah what happens you start feeling more confident powerful and then it's like then I'll go in for like a gym workout and the lay down but nobody else is doing this while I'm working 16 hours a day what I'm trying to do this one time and it's that self-talk and I suppose the reason we're doing so much done is because a lot of my life I was talking to myself the way the negative people had spoken to me you know you're shy you're anxious you're this you're that and he was always those kind of stories those telling me now it's like the story I tell myself is the story I wanted Thomas yeah that's gonna bring me out into the world in new ways it yeah so so do people don't be scared this is a thing don't be scared if that bus is bigger than you or the challenge is bigger than you you guys think okay then let's tackle this i'ma take you down so now we're at the fun part of show so we're gonna start in three two one the ability to fly or be invisible fly when your fame Netflix our youtube never Coke or Pepsi Pepsi would you rather not how you would die or wake you without love or money no books or movies movie sit with one person in the world who would it be what is your biggest addiction to win summer or winter winter your favorite place in the world speak all languages will be able to speak to animals in the world what would it be you favor some Emma voice the man in the read minds or forget the teacher God have you ever been in a fight okay cool so the next one's about reflection so I believe that how it's a wonderful thing because as we've spoken about already yes so you can always think of ways to get there quicker easier with less heartache I suppose but the journey teaches us a lot of course it does I think the process is so important so if you knew what you knew now unless say you could go back to say before your degree for example yeah and you could whisper something knowing everything you know now to that to most at 17 for example what would you say you know what it's probably tell him it's gonna be okay it's you're still alive it's because you know what when you go through the trials or tribulations in your life those things feel like they last forever don't you just like yeah like a week from then and what's on the menu here from then that won't even matter now this all was I wish I could tell could've talked as I dwell too much on the bad that was happening in my life and whenever someone made a mistake every time someone bad happened to me I'm not boys happening to me again what am I gonna do and if I could've just Thomson don't worry about it yeah don't dwell on it it's okay it's a case no I tell myself this all the time now through everything like we are so lucky to be where we are in this world are you still alive Korso so if you're in that situation and it's that hard but you still know there's nothing than someone no one can take that away any long as you know no one can take that away from you know me so I wish I could have told myself that Wow okay last question okay okay so the last question I always ask my guess is if in 150 years time science doesn't save us right and we're no longer here and there's a book on the table now and I'm gonna and a little bit to this crystal as well so there's a book on the table in it's about your life right so what I want to know is in any order you want firstly what is the title of the of the book and if we turn it on the back you know you've got blueberry there what will that tell us about you okay the book called the world I think it'd be that will be I've always wanted to change the world and like you see so much bad happening there's no way I'm gonna go from bridges and I'm gonna come over and there's gonna be everything that's good this things are gonna tackle me these people that may even go against me no I think now sometimes I would have to save children's lives here but there's still gonna be people out there I never thought I'd have one person at all so - and the one I did I'm like yeah of course in them do something positive is exactly what he went on I'm trying to be nice and said back into this and that wasn't Denise yourself I'm referencing what I've got it from unrest he's doing a quick Google search he got the first thing they said look at this no no no it goes deeper than that and then then I actually said to him in the end I said you got so much energy because look how much I said use that good that energy you got tackle it someone new and tell someone about what I'm doing that's the last thing to do everyone a message it's not just about giving the people the message that want to listen yeah yeah some people will find it at the wrong time but it's in the beginning yeah everyone's journey is different of course the information is there you maybe you just keep you've done your job there long as you've told all those people always gonna come like I said when I release this podcast bless everyone frame even reviews it I've got something like 65 like five-star reviews right you know I look I was overwhelmed but because it's not again like I said like I said to you before this is about touching the people out there and getting people stories heard and I send a 3-star like in there just randomly no comment nothing I'm a Bravo message me actually I'd be upset but I know the way the world really somebody's got the energy there probably has a listen to an episode I understand that person's stories you know what what's he doing it on Facebook three stone because it is the way the room my mission is one person finds this and it changes a life that's going to ripple effect yeah there's always gonna be people trying to bring you down no matter what you're doing in lot just take their energy and then use it to the positive and then we're gonna do more with it you know bring you down just buddy that's the end of the show young man oh what a pleasure what an absolute pleasure but just before we leave yeah I'm gonna put everything in the show notes or all the links and everything to Charles Seife to yourself to your personal page if you don't mind course of course hopefully we get you like thousand friends after this new people if you could just tell us the best places that we could reach you or normally ask my guest to give one yeah but because I'm literally this is touch my heart yeah Facebook and my social media pages child safe so got the both group and the page controls medical choices yes child safe there are other links on their choice at UK they're all different ones but what you're looking for is an orange circle we're the child safe wound across the middle with like cube right in pink blue so that's what your that's the symbol you're looking for so I'm my group and on my page so people on my group opposite the group you can hit a wide you can hit everywhere on pages on our people you can it's on the group the group yes that's the public because with your page your page can only hit the people that Facebook to try and get it out because it doesn't always show of course so cuz yeah I'm a group do I put butt off do bi do both but the group mainly I'll put everything on the group and put it on the page okay like just to make sure because there's some people on the page Instagram child-safe one chance everyone mistook child-safe but you know what this is the thing like when I started doing this you gotta realize there's so many people out there doing it not doing the way I'm doing it there's so many people that have different platforms as people go out there like justice for children hunters for children they're all out there they're doing an amazing job of capturing all these online so props all of you they're doing an amazing job there so and there's people out there do not block my page raising the awareness but no one's doing what I'm doing this is what I believe I'm doing on there on Wednesday next week my website we've finished where there'll be tips and how-to on child abductions in the streets and these tips of what to do and helplines what to call on your online Grumman's things you need to look out for know situations and online gaming clothes we got all the kids online game at the moment every day online so we need to be aware of this and what to do and what they're doing you know I mean you put I've put my mind in there I'm thinking what would I do and the things I've found out how they do it you know so you can then be aware of the things they're doing so Charles Seife online code at UK and there will be my t-shirts or sounds people want to buy any more t-shirts also more cost because they're one pound fifty each so those are the pages now have okay so all that stuff will be in the show notes and as always people thanks for listening and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day