Come Close, Stay Back: Making Sense of Fearful Avoidant Attachment

Have you ever felt torn between craving closeness and wanting to run the moment someone gets too close? Or maybe you’ve loved someone who’s hot and cold—chasing connection one minute and pulling away the next? In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking the fearful avoidant attachment style, where the need for connection and the fear of being hurt exist side by side.We’re diving into:⚡ How fearful avoidant attachment forms💔 The inner push-pull that can feel like emotional whiplash👣 How trauma and betrayal shape this style🔄 Why relationships feel intense, unstable, and hard to trust🌱 And what healing looks like when you’ve never felt truly safe—either with others or with yourselfLet’s talk about it. Because it’s not about being “too much” or “too broken”—it’s about survival patterns that can be unlearned.Books on Attachment: Attached by Dr. Amir Levine The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy HoAnxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHCThe Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys**You can find these books on Amazon**Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.comMack (on TikTok)Jbirdfit (On all platforms)Natashavctoria (TikTok)Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)