Conditioning: The Things We Never Thought to Question

Episode 8: In this episode, we dive headfirst into the invisible scripts running our lives — the ones we didn’t choose, didn’t question, and in many cases, didn’t even realise were optional.Not just what we’ve been taught to do and think — but the deeper, sneakier layer: What have we been taught is simply not up for debate? The difference between “I chose this” and “it never occurred to me not to.”We walk through the classic checklist:Get married, have a baby, have another baby - because that is an obvious expectation, as Selin knows all too well.The disorienting (and occasionally liberating) moment when you see someone choose differently, and realize, "Wait - you can just...DO THAT?"We also explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) conditioning around what men and women are “supposed” to know and be.  And what happens when you underestimate a woman in a Star Wars trivia contest.This is a midlife reckoning of all the things we sleepwalked into without even thinking about it.Selin's recommendation: Jono Lancaster www.instagram.com/jonolancHeather's recommendation: Slash: The AutobiographyLinks Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites