Only Gets Better

Episode 6: This one is exactly what it says on the tin. We are certain that it only gets better, and we discuss what we're looking forward to in life - after a brief (and on-brand) detour into Heather's latest head injury.We share what we're finding about the next stage so far: that it's knowing yourself, deeper friendships, more freedom, and far less worrying about what other people think (especially once you realise they’re not thinking about you at all).We talk about moving past our own conditioning and being constantly needed to uncover the creativity, hobbies, travel, and independence that are waiting for us. If you’re getting through the days one coffee at a time, this episode is proof that the fun part is still ahead — and yes, it only gets better.Selin's recommendation: Mel Robbins book, The Let Them Theory.Heather's recommendation: Thomas Sainsbury on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thomassainsburyLinks Podcast Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast⁠ Selin’s Insta: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens⁠ Heather’s Insta: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab⁠ Heather’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites⁠

Episode 5: This week we dive into the Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere and explore the bizarre, bleak, and unintentionally comedic world of manosphere influencers - the self‑proclaimed “alphas” shouting into ring lights, and the grifters selling confidence in 12 easy payments. We give the topic the seriousness it deserves while still keeping our sense of humour intact, because if you can’t laugh at a man roasting in a tight suit, performing dominance theatre beside a leased sports car, then really… why are we here. We break down how this ecosystem works — all while laughing just enough to keep from screaming into the void.Then we cleanse our palates with men who actually deserve attention, including everyone's favourite, Robert Irwin. We discuss our plan to clone him (ethically… probably) and share some recent encounters with genuinely good young men that left us feeling surprisingly hopeful about the future.If you’re curious about toxic masculinity, influencer culture, or just want to hear us roast the manosphere while finding reasons to believe humanity isn’t doomed, this episode is for you.Selin's recommendations: Jordan Stephens podcast: WHOLE TRUTH with Jordan Stephens | Podcast on SpotifyWill Hitchins:  www.instagram.com/willhitchinsHeather's recommendation: Watch The Last Kingdom | Netflix Official Site Links Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites

Episode 4: We tackle the mother of all mother issues: mental load — the invisible, relentless cognitive labour that keeps families, households, and lives running smoothly… and that women somehow still carry almost entirely alone.We go beyond the tired “men just don’t notice things” explanation (though yes, that too), and dig into the deeper systems that make mental load so stubbornly gendered.We talk about:- Why women end up carrying the mental load even in loving, progressive relationships- The difference between the default parent and the opt‑in parent (and why that single distinction explains so much)- How astonishingly successful most women would be if they had partners who managed life the way they do- Why the problem isn’t individual men so much as a culture that quietly assigns responsibility without consent- And the single, surprisingly radical thing we can do to bring down the patriarchy.Yes, we’re serious. And yes, we’re laughing.This conversation is part therapy session, part sociological deep‑dive, and part love letter to the women holding twenty tabs open in their heads at all times.Come for the validation. Stay for the jokes. Leave feeling seen, slightly furious, and maybe just a little freer.Selin's rec: Yumi Stynes Ladies, We Need To Talk | Podcast on SpotifyLinks Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites

Episode 3: Heather and Selin dive straight into the stuff no one tells you - but should - about parenting.  We take a nostalgic (and slightly incredulous) walk down memory lane, back to a time when Gen X kids roamed the neighbourhood with a hilariously questionable level of freedom — and then pivot to the very real challenge of giving our own kids the space to grow without hovering and clutching our pearls.It’s an episode full of laughs, nostalgia, and genuine honesty about trying to parent well when the rulebook is…unhelpfully vague.Whether you're wondering how you made it out of childhood intact, or you’re deep in the trenches of modern parenting, this one’s for you. Real talk, real laughs, and a gentle reminder that we’re all just winging it and doing our best.Selin’s reco:https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-rachel-hollis-podcast/id1245763628?i=1000673972819Or https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/game-changers-with-molly-fletcher/id1210452428?i=1000702961255Heather’s reco:gimpy https://www.instagram.com/gimpy?igsh=c2Q0djBmenZ0cTdqLinks Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites 

Episode 2: We recorded this as the year wrapped up (remember 2025? Us neither), which means if you’re marking the Lunar New Year, this episode is actually right on time. Please consider this a culturally aligned release strategy… not procrastination.In this episode, we cozy up and reflect on the endings and beginnings. Selin insists she doesn’t have a New Year ritual—only to immediately realise she absolutely does—while Heather proudly resurrects the beloved year-in-a-jar, because we think we will remember stuff and we absolutely won't.We also look back on what we’re proud of from 2025. Selin opens up about a tough year navigating her daughter’s first year of school as a parent to a child with visible differences and a disability—honest, brave, and deeply human stuff. Heather shares how she stayed grounded in her values through a personally challenging year. And through it all, one truth keeps tapping us on the shoulder: friendship and community carry us further than anything else.Tune in for some real talk and a few laughs and remember - no matter how chaotic a year gets - it only gets better from here.Links Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites 

Episode 1: Welcome to our very first episode - the one where we press record, hope for the best, and end up laughing far more than we planned. We’re two women in midlife, coming from different ages, different backgrounds, and different levels of certainty about how old our children are (looking at you, Selin). But we share one big belief: the best years aren’t behind us. They’re right now, and it only gets better. In this episode, we introduce ourselves properly - who we are, how we met, and the magic of female friendship.  It’s the reason we started this podcast in the first place; to build community where women can show up exactly as they are, laugh, listen, and feel less alone. And because we don’t do small talk, we get into the big midlife stuff — letting go of people-pleasing, and insecurities, and celebrating women in their 60s who look like they have it all figured out. Pull up a chair - let’s kick this thing off together. Links Podcast InstagramSelin’s InstaHeather’s InstaHeather’s Substack