Daddy Issues ft. Patty Schemel: Hole, Punk's Gender Dysphoria and Kurt Cobain's Queerness

Patty Schemel, whose drumming was the driving force of Hole’s seminal 1994 album Live Through This–and whose influence on women and queer rock musicians is immeasurable–joins us this week for a special Pride edition of Daddy Issues! Patty, who is the subject of the powerful 2011 documentary Hit So Hard about her friendship with Kurt Cobain, her struggle with substance abuse and the breakup with Hole, and recovery from the entire decade of the 90s. She also released a memoir by the same name in 2017, co-written by our very own Erin Hosier. Patty talks to us about coming out, Kurt’s alleged queerness, Courtney Love’s refusal to accept that he hooked up with a less-is-more hippie girl from Olympia before they were together, and covers topics ranging from Florida governor Ron DeSantis’ ghoulish transgender girls sports ban, to the world’s most currently deranged LGBTQ-themed commerical, to the supernaturally avuncular Tom Hanks and his confounding wayward son, Chet Haze. There’s talk of time management and crafting with felted wool, and Courtney’s portable sculptures. Patty also plays a game with Elizabeth called “That’s the Wrong Hole,” in which she has to guess between real and fake Hole lyrics, and it’s a doozie. Courtney and Brett Ratner, please don’t sue us! Get full access to Tell Me About Your Father at tellmeaboutyourfather.substack.com/subscribe