Day 78 - See Beyond the Grievance

After enough irritation, we can stop meeting the person and start meeting our conclusion about them.Every mistake becomes proof.Every difficult moment confirms the old story.Lesson 78 asks for something smaller than forced forgiveness:a willingness to see beyond the grievance.“Let miracles replace all grievances.”The miracle is not that the other person suddenly changes.It may begin with one moment in which our judgement is no longer the only thing we can see.Practice for TodayChoose one person you find difficult.Acknowledge honestly what has been painful or frustrating.Then become quiet and say:“Help me see this person beyond my grievance.Let me see what fear has hidden from me.”During the day, return to:“Let miracles replace all grievances.”Do not force warmth or forgiveness.Notice whether there is simply:less certainty,less tension,or one moment in which you can see more than the grievance. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit farheenn.substack.com