Dear ENM DNM: The calendar is the metamour

In this episode, Adam and Leonie open up the Dear ENM DNM inbox after someone writes in about a very familiar ENM problem: the calendar. They talk through a situation involving nesting, shifting plans, rotating rosters, and what happens when “our time” keeps being moved in the name of flexibility.The conversation gets into quality time, resentment, autonomy, agreements, and the difference between being flexible and quietly feeling like you’re getting the leftovers. Adam and Leonie also talk about what it means to feel prioritised in ENM, why “this is just what non-monogamy looks like” can feel dismissive, and how hard it can be to have a proper conversation before resentment starts setting up camp.It’s a messy, honest and reflective episode about time, care, calendars, and trying to stay connected when everyone’s availability is doing the absolute most.Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos?Support the podcast hereYour support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it.Come say hi: socialsWant to book a counselling session with Adam? HalaxyWe’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. [email protected] Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.