Decoded: The First Year | Episode 29 | Milestones Are Not Skills | Dr SCL

If you’ve ever found yourself staring at a milestone chartwondering “Are we behind?”or quietly panicking because your baby isn’t ticking boxesin the order the internet promised…This episode is for you.Because milestone charts were never designed to explain development.They were designed to record outcomes.And somewhere along the way, those outcomes started being treated like goals. Like skills your baby has to achieve —rather than expressions of what’s already organised underneath.In practice, this is where I see parents carry unnecessary pressure. And babies carry unnecessary compensation.Today, we’re going to reframe milestones completely — not to lower standards,but to bring clarity, accuracy,and a nervous-system lens back into the conversation. Because when you understand what milestones actually represent,you stop chasing timelines…and you start watching quality.Let’s DECODE it together.