Decoded: The First Year | Episode 44 | Your Child Isn’t Giving You a Hard Time | Dr SCL

One of the hardest parts of parenting… and a moment many parents don’t talk about is trying to stay calm when your child’s behaviour feels big. The meltdowns. The screaming. The constant movement. The emotional explosions that seem to arrive out of nowhere. You’re trying to stay calm… You’re trying harder… yet things feel worse.And eventually, after much self doubt, a quiet thought starts to form: “What am I missing?” “Am I doing something wrong?”Now, this isn’t intended to be a parenting podcast. Rather, like always, this is a podcast of asking questions. Questions like - “what if behaviour at this age is less about discipline and more about communication from an overloaded nervous system?”Because children do not wake up each morning trying to manipulate their parents. They wake up trying to adapt to the world with the nervous system they currently have.And when we understand that… we stop seeing children as difficult. And start seeing them as dysregulated. And that changes everything.