EPISODE · Jun 5, 2026 · 19 MIN
Desi Couple Conflicts
from Desi Dramas · host Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova
You and your partner love each other. So why does every conversation about money, in-laws, or whose family for the holidays end with someone walking away?In this episode, Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova breaks down the 4 conversation patterns that predict divorce with 90% accuracy, and the 3 tools to change them. These come from decades of couples research, including the work of Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson, translated into something that actually works for Desi and bicultural couples.You'll learn:The 4 "Horsemen" that predict divorce, and how to spot them in your own fightsThe one question to ask yourself before a hard conversation, that changes how the next 40 minutes goThe biggest mistake Desi couples make in conflict (it's not what you think)What you are actually fighting for underneath the surface argumentHow to repair a fight with the "magic ratio" couples research has known about for decades00:44 Outline of Tools03:00 Simran And Raj Example04:57 Predictors of Divorce (The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse)07:44 Tool 1: What’s My Goal?09:13 Soft Startup For Loaded Topics10:02 When Horsemen Show Up11:01 Tool 2: What am I really fighting for?13:31 If you get overwhelmed during the conversation14:39 Tool 3: Appreciate Your Partner15:32 Emotional/Relational Bank Account16:47 Get the Guide on desi-dramas.com17:51 Practice for This WeekBuilt from Dr. Heena's years of clinical work with Desi couples. Therapy skills, packaged for Desi families.
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You and your partner love each other. So why does every conversation about money, in-laws, or whose family for the holidays end with someone walking away?In this episode, Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova breaks down the 4 conversation patterns that predict divorce with 90% accuracy, and the 3 tools to change them. These come from decades of couples research, including the work of Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson, translated into something that actually works for Desi and bicultural couples.You'll learn:The 4 "Horsemen" that predict divorce, and how to spot them in your own fightsThe one question to ask yourself before a hard conversation, that changes how the next 40 minutes goThe biggest mistake Desi couples make in conflict (it's not what you think)What you are actually fighting for underneath the surface argumentHow to repair a fight with the "magic ratio" couples research has known about for decades00:44 Outline of Tools03:00 Simran And Raj Example04:57 Predictors of Divorce (The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse)07:44 Tool 1: What’s My Goal?09:13 Soft Startup For Loaded Topics10:02 When Horsemen Show Up11:01 Tool 2: What am I really fighting for?13:31 If you get overwhelmed during the conversation14:39 Tool 3: Appreciate Your Partner15:32 Emotional/Relational Bank Account16:47 Get the Guide on desi-dramas.com17:51 Practice for This WeekBuilt from Dr. Heena's years of clinical work with Desi couples. Therapy skills, packaged for Desi families.
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