Desi Dramas

Why You Turn Into Your 15-Year-Old Self in Your Parents' Kitchen (and How to Stop)You give yourself the pep talk on the drive over. You're going to stay calm this time. Then your mom mentions that Sunita Auntie's daughter just got engaged to a cardiologist, and within an hour you've stomped off to your childhood bedroom and slammed the door — exactly like you did at 15.If you love your Desi parents but can't seem to be in a room with them without getting pulled into the same old fight, this one's for you.In this episode of Desi Dramas, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova explains why your nervous system reaches for a teenage playbook the moment those familiar comments land — and gives you two tools to break the cycle: one question to set your intention before you walk through the door, and the DBT-based STOP skill to use in real time when your intention slips (because it will).You're not actually 15 anymore. Your body just remembers how to be 15 in your mom's kitchen. Here's how to teach it a new way.🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.💬 Got your own drama? Share it anonymously at desi-dramas.com.

Your Desi parent loves you. You love them. So why does every phone call leave you feeling more distant?This episode gives Desi parents 5 moves to make with their adult children. These are the things your child has likely struggled to say out loud, and the very things they need to hear to feel close to you.If you are the adult child listening, this episode will help you feel seen and give you language to ask for what you actually need.Built from Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova's years of therapy with Desis. Therapy skills, packaged for Desi families.00:52 A message for Desi parents02:55 Amrit and Jaspreet Example05:43 Izzat Respect and Autonomy07:48 Awareness of Your Needs09:29 Acknowledge Two Worlds11:41 Unconditional Positive Regard13:45 Right Kind of Support16:07 Recap and Practice This WeekTo get the guide that goes with this episode, head to Desi-dramas.com. You’ll get the exact questions and phrases to put the tools into practice.

You and your partner love each other. So why does every conversation about money, in-laws, or whose family for the holidays end with someone walking away?In this episode, Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova breaks down the 4 conversation patterns that predict divorce with 90% accuracy, and the 3 tools to change them. These come from decades of couples research, including the work of Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson, translated into something that actually works for Desi and bicultural couples.You'll learn:The 4 "Horsemen" that predict divorce, and how to spot them in your own fightsThe one question to ask yourself before a hard conversation, that changes how the next 40 minutes goThe biggest mistake Desi couples make in conflict (it's not what you think)What you are actually fighting for underneath the surface argumentHow to repair a fight with the "magic ratio" couples research has known about for decades00:44 Outline of Tools03:00 Simran And Raj Example04:57 Predictors of Divorce (The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse)07:44 Tool 1: What’s My Goal?09:13 Soft Startup For Loaded Topics10:02 When Horsemen Show Up11:01 Tool 2: What am I really fighting for?13:31 If you get overwhelmed during the conversation14:39 Tool 3: Appreciate Your Partner15:32 Emotional/Relational Bank Account16:47 Get the Guide on desi-dramas.com17:51 Practice for This WeekBuilt from Dr. Heena's years of clinical work with Desi couples. Therapy skills, packaged for Desi families.

Most boundary advice was built for individualistic cultures. It doesn't work the same way in Desi families.In this episode, Dr. Heena breaks down five common myths about boundaries in the Desi community, defines what a boundary actually is (most people get this part wrong), and gives you a three-tier toolkit for setting boundaries in ways that actually work with your mother, your in-laws, your partner, and your aunties. She also names the single biggest mistake people make after setting a boundary, the one that almost guarantees it won't hold.You'll learn:Why "setting a boundary" the way Instagram taught you can backfire badly with Desi familyThe behavioral, indirect, and direct ways to set boundaries (and when to use each)How to manage the guilt that comes up when you finally stop adjustingWhy your family will push back harder right when the boundary starts to work, and what to do when they doChapters02:02 Five Boundary Myths04:51 What Boundaries Actually Are06:03 Boundary Toolkit09:43 Scripts And Examples11:12 Managing the Desi Guilt12:09 Biggest Mistake After Setting a Boundary12:54 How Your Boundary Will Get Tested15:09 TakeawaysTherapy skills, packaged for Desi families.Want the full guide for this episode? Head to desi-dramas.com.

Desi Dramas is a podcast for Desis navigating the family, relationship, and identity questions that don't have easy answers. Hosted by Dr. Heena Manglani-Terranova, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has spent years working with Desi individuals, couples, and families, the show brings the questions Desis ask in therapy directly to you.Each episode is a window into how a therapist actually thinks. Dr. Heena shares the questions she asks, the patterns she names, and the evidence-based tools she adapts for Desis. Here you will learn how to set boundaries with immigrant parents, break intergenerational guilt, and navigate cultural expectations around marriage. By seeing yourself in these stories and learning practical tools, we hope to empower you to find a new rhythm within the cultures you value.Desi Dramas brings clinical perspectives tailored to Desi lives, written and hosted by someone who lives them, too. This isn't therapy. But we trust it will be therapeutic.