第2613期:The joy of missing out

1  "They're all at that party without me… I've got such bad FOMO." The fear of missing out, or 'FOMO', is what you might feel when you aren't present when something exciting or enjoyable is happening. This anxiety is rife in the age of social media, where we're exposed to an avalanche of updates about other people's holidays, social events and achievements. Many find themselves comparing their lives to others', forgetting that social media is often a smokescreen, where we only see the highlight reel and a veneer of perfection. 1“他们在没有我的情况下都在那个聚会上……我有这么糟糕的FOMO。” 当您不存在激动人心或令人愉悦的事情时，您可能会感到害怕错过或“ FOMO”。 在社交媒体时代，这种焦虑盛行，我们接触到有关他人假期，社交活动和成就的雪崩。 许多人发现自己将自己的生活与他人进行比较，而忘记了社交媒体通常是烟幕，我们只能看到精彩片段的卷轴和完美的单板。 2  As an antidote to this constant pressure, many are embracing 'JOMO' – the joy of missing out. According to Svend Brinkmann, author of 'The Joy of Missing Out: The Art of Self-Restraint in an Age of Excess', the difference is that where FOMO gets us to worry about things outside of the present moment, JOMO brings us back to the here and now, encouraging us to enjoy life offline with people we truly care about. Embracing JOMO means switching off outside noise and focusing on what really brings us happiness. So, how can we stop FOMO from rearing its ugly head? 2作为对这种不断压力的解毒剂，许多人拥抱了“ Jomo” - 错过的乐趣。 根据“错过的喜悦：在过度时代的自我遏制的艺术”的作者Svend Brinkmann的说法，不同之处在于，Fomo让我们担心当下之外的事情，Jomo将我们带回这里和现在，鼓励我们与我们真正关心的人一起享受生活。 拥抱Jomo意味着关闭外部噪音，专注于真正带给我们幸福的原因。 那么，我们如何阻止FOMO抬起其丑陋的头？ 3  In her book 'The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less', Tanya Dalton suggests making a list of activities that bring you joy and displaying them somewhere obvious to remind you to include them in your day. She also suggests a regular digital detox and carving out time for self-care, whether that's a warm bath, a solo nature walk or your favourite movie. Kristen Fuller, a physician and mental health writer, says it's about being intentional with your time. This involves scheduling activities which are important to you and practising saying "no" to people if you feel like their request will have a negative impact on you. 3 Tanya Dalton在她的书《错过的喜悦：通过少做更多的生活》中，建议制定一系列活动，使您感到高兴并在某个地方展示它们，以提醒您将它们包括在您的一天中。 她还建议定期进行数字排毒，并为自我保健赚取时间，无论是温暖的浴缸，自然漫步还是您最喜欢的电影。 医师和心理健康作家克里斯汀·富勒（Kristen Fuller）说，这是关于您的时间有意的。 这涉及安排对您很重要的活动，如果您觉得他们的要求会对您产生负面影响，这对您来说很重要。 4  A 2019 article by Ana Jorge, published in Social Media + Society looked into the experiences of people who purposefully disconnect from social media. Some of them felt they were living more mindfully, and that the disconnection allowed them to be more creative and productive. About JOMO, one participant told researchers, "I don't have to be everywhere, I don't have to be with everyone and I don't have to know everything." Perhaps it's time to unplug and try living life in the slow lane. 4 Ana Jorge的2019年文章在社交媒体 +社会上发表，研究了故意与社交媒体断开连接的人们的经历。 他们中的一些人觉得自己的生活更加思考，并且断开连接使他们变得更具创造力和富有成效。 关于乔莫（Jomo），一位参与者告诉研究人员：“我不必到处都是，我不必和所有人在一起，也不需要一切。” 也许是时候解开插头并尝试在慢速道路上生活了。