Ditch the People Pleasing to Fuel Business Growth

Are you ready to break free from the people-pleasing trap that has you constantly saying "yes" to clients who drain your energy? If so, join me for this empowering episode where you'll learn how to market with integrity and set healthy boundaries that honor your worth and fuel business growth. Show Notes | Transcript "No is a complete sentence. You are allowed to say no gracefully." - Gloria Grace Rand As a recovering people-pleaser myself, I understand the challenges of setting limits in business. I open up about my own journey, including how life transitions can sometimes knock us off course and reignite old patterns. But I've learned that boundaries are not just self-care – they're essential for attracting aligned clients and preventing burnout. Discover how to: Recognize the signs of people-pleasing in your marketing and client relationships Implement practical boundaries to protect your time and energy Attract aligned clients who respect your worth and value your services Market authentically from a place of confidence and self-respect Key insights include: Why your life experience is actually your competitive advantage How to handle objections without desperation or compromising your value The importance of creating content from a high-vibe state Why it's okay to pause your marketing during major life transitions I also introduce you to the transformative power of light language, a unique sound healing modality that can help clear blocks and strengthen your "boundary muscles." You'll experience a brief light language transmission designed to boost your confidence and self-worth. Whether you're struggling with undercharging, over-explaining your value, or simply feeling drained by misaligned clients, this episode offers compassionate guidance and practical strategies. Tune in to start setting healthy boundaries, honoring your value, and attracting the clients you're truly meant to serve! Resources: *I apologize, but the bit.ly link I mentioned in the podcast for a free 15 minute light language session doesn't work. This is the correct one: Schedule a free Light Language session: bit.ly/lightlanguage15 Join the Soulful Women's Network here Receive daily inspirational email messages: bit.ly/LoveLightNotes Need support? Go to engagewithgloria.com to schedule a call. Connect with Live Love Engage: Send Gloria Grace a message ☕ Support the podcast ❤ Love this episode? Leave us a review and rating LinkedIn: Gloria Grace Rand Facebook: Gloria Grace Rand YouTube: Gloria Grace Rand TRANSCRIPT Namaste. If you've ever found yourself saying yes to clients who drain your energy, this episode is your permission slip to do things differently because I'm going to be sharing some practical tools to help you to market authentically, as well as sharing some light language with you to strengthen your boundary muscles and help you develop renewed confidence in your own own innate worthiness. But first, I do want to officially welcome you to Live Love Engage. I am Gloria Grace, founder of align to Shine Academy, and I empower women over 50 to overcome life's challenges so they can embrace who they are, lead boldly, and shine their light in the world. And I hope that you are one of those lovely women who are listening or watching this podcast on YouTube right now. And I'm just going to even put in an early plug if not subscribed already. Make sure that you subscribe on your favorite podcast platform or on YouTube so you'll be connected with us. So yeah, this is, you know, boundaries. Sometimes we don't set boundaries because we are trying to please people and instead of pleasing ourselves. And I know that I've definitely experienced this in the past where I have been that people pleaser. And it even came up again, you know, I thought I sort of was having it handled and then, you know, when life throws you new challenges, it can come up again. And so I think the last time that I was really involved in this was shortly after my sister passed. I was in a coaching program at the time and you know, lovely, lovely coaches that were, they were helping me and, and they were really focusing at the time and helping me to choose a niche for. At the time it was really, I was still focused on doing copywriting and I, you know, went along with these recommendations even though my heart really wasn't in it. And I just felt like I was just throwing darts at a wall, you know, and nothing, nothing was sticking. And as a result, you know, for me and certainly for lots of other people who are people pleasers in business, then I was attracting clients that didn't really, they were misaligned, frankly. And I also, and was undercharging for my services and I'd been doing that for a very long time, frankly. And it just, I wasn't really sharing my authentic voice. And also being a people pleaser can really lead to a lot of resentment and burnout if you're not careful. So let's, let's talk about how this shows up in your marketing in particular, so it can be where you are over explaining what your value is and As I mentioned, undercharging for services for sure, and even apologizing for them, you know, when you are, let's say someone, you know, wants to, wants to hire you, but they feel that you were too expensive, then you might say, well, you know, yeah, I'm sorry. Or, you know, you, you might actually wind up lowering your prices in order to get that client when you need to be standing your ground and saying, no, this is my price. And if, you know, and, and there's other ways that you can handle someone who comes at you with, with that, you know, saying, oh, you're too expensive, well, you can offer them maybe something else of value and say, well, you know, maybe throw in a bonus, for instance, and also explain to them that the cost of not taking action, you know, could actually wind up costing them more in the long run. And so it's actually, your service might be really very affordable when they look, when they look at it from that perspective. So it's, you know, also part of it is maybe you're posting content that again, doesn't really align with you. And I know I have been guilty of that in the past where I was trying too hard to follow other people's examples and not really own the truth of who I am and to speak from the heart. And I've definitely do that now. I much prefer speaking from the heart and I encourage you to do that. And that's what I work with my clients on doing as well. So, speaking of clients, how does people pleasing and not having boundaries show up there? Well, I tell you, it's accepting boundary pushes, like, for instance, not, not establishing criteria of, say, okay, I'm going to be available between X and Y time and I'm not going to be available on the weekends. Let's say, you know, unless it's a, you know, a really dire emergency. And, you know, and then you could say, okay, well, you could, you could text me then, but it's really got to be an emergency. So not setting those boundaries can have you working all the time, you know, and, you know, these wonderful phones of ours, they're, they're great, but sometimes we just become really too tied to them and that can be a problem. And I, and I actually have, I've got a lovely testimonial I think I've got on my YouTube channel from, from a client. And this was when I was still doing mainly copywriting and that she, she raved about how I was always available to her. Yeah. Because I wasn't setting clear boundaries. I didn't set that at the outset of our relationship to say, okay, you can contact me. You know, I'll be available to you on these days, between these hours and you know, so you're, you're welcome to contact me then. Otherwise, you know, if it's not an emergency, you know, if it's after hours, I'll get back to you the next day. And I didn't do that. And in my efforts to be, you know, to please my client, I was putting too much stress on myself. So that's, that can happen. You know, again, maybe it's, it can also show up where you're doing. Yeah, you're doing like extra work maybe beyond the scope of what you originally signed up to do without charging extra for that. I, I had a quote in, or I had a little clause in my contract when I would, when I was working with copywriting clients, I did put that in to say, if this goes beyond the, the scope, then we're going to have to, I'm going to have to charge you extra. So I did learn that lesson also. It's avoiding difficult conversations, perhaps not even, you know, realizing that you've got a client that is just not a joy to work with, let's put it that way. A client who is draining your energy and, and it's just not worth it. And, and I'll again, I'll share an example from when I was a copyright. Well, I'll do copywriting and also coaching. So. But early on in my copywriting career, I had a lovely gentleman who wanted my help to help him website to be able to up there on Google, who wanted me to help him promote his business. And I get. And he would, you know, ask me to meet in person over coffee and we would strategize and then he wouldn't implement what I recommended. And it really started to be extremely frustrating with me, for me, I should say, because, you know, I was trying to be a nice person and trying to help him, you know, and give him all these great ideas. And then he was taking me away from other clients because I had to go. I had to drive somewhere and meet him in person. And so finally I just had to let him go. And then I've also had in coaching options or situations where I was, I was working with a client who again, just rejected everything that I was. Every recommendation, she's like, oh, I've tried that. Oh, no, that doesn't work. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. And as I was on, and this was, I was on a phone call with Her. And even just now I'm remembering this, it was like my stomach started to like really tighten up in