EPISODE · Feb 9, 2026 · 17 MIN
Do Your Kids Love You or Manage You?
from Fathering Our Future · host Anthony Vandagriff
Are your kids doing things for you because they love you… or because they feel like they have to manage your emotions?In this episode, I unpack a powerful conversation that forced me to look in the mirror as a father. Using Micah 6 as a backdrop, we explore the difference between how pagan cultures tried to appease their unstable gods versus how our Heavenly Father actually relates to His children.Then we bring it home.Because the real question is not theological. It is practical.Do your kids feel safe around you… or do they feel like they have to keep you happy to keep peace in the house?I share personal childhood stories that highlight the difference between affection and appeasement, and why that distinction matters more than most dads realize.If you want your kids to love you out of connection, not fear, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.NEW PRODUCT! Grow your connection with your kids through communication with Talk Time, a digital set of 50 question cards designed to spark meaningful and memorable conversation. https://fatheringourfuture.com/talk-time/
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Are your kids doing things for you because they love you… or because they feel like they have to manage your emotions?In this episode, I unpack a powerful conversation that forced me to look in the mirror as a father. Using Micah 6 as a backdrop, we explore the difference between how pagan cultures tried to appease their unstable gods versus how our Heavenly Father actually relates to His children.Then we bring it home.Because the real question is not theological. It is practical.Do your kids feel safe around you… or do they feel like they have to keep you happy to keep peace in the house?I share personal childhood stories that highlight the difference between affection and appeasement, and why that distinction matters more than most dads realize.If you want your kids to love you out of connection, not fear, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.NEW PRODUCT! Grow your connection with your kids through communication with Talk Time, a digital set of 50 question cards designed to spark meaningful and memorable conversation. https://fatheringourfuture.com/talk-time/
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