Fathering Our Future

Every dad knows the pressure of a child acting out in public. The restaurant gets loud. The store gets uncomfortable. People start looking. And suddenly, you are not just dealing with your child’s behavior, you are dealing with your own reaction too.In this episode, I talk about one of the most important responsibilities we have as fathers: training our children at home for the real world. Our homes are not just places where our kids eat, sleep, and play. They are training grounds where they learn character, self-control, respect, consideration, and how to live around other people.The added twist is that home is also a place where we train ourselves.If you want your children to know how to live well in public, and you want to be prepared for the hard moments when they come, you have to faithfully train at home. Fatherhood does not pause when you get home. That is where some of the most important work begins.

Your kids may trust you completely when they are little, but will they still trust you when they grow up?In this episode, I talk about a simple moment with my youngest daughter that hit me hard. She was tired, I picked her up, and she completely relaxed in my arms. In that moment, I realized I was a safe harbor for her. But I do not want to only be that while my kids are young. I want to remain a safe place as they grow, ask harder questions, face real struggles, and need a father they can trust.This episode is a direct challenge for Christian fathers to become more stable, present, disciplined, and spiritually grounded. I talk about guarding your heart, stepping back from social media, getting outside, working with your hands, and building simple routines that reflect what matters most.In this episode you will learnWhy your children need you to be emotionally and spiritually safe.How social media can quietly steal your presence at home.Why guarding your heart matters for biblical fatherhood.How simple routines help dads lead with consistency.Why integrity, discipline, and faithfulness build long-term trust with your children.If you want your kids to keep running to you as they grow older, this episode will help you think honestly about the kind of father you are becoming.

Every dad gets angry. The question is not whether anger will show up, but what we do when it does.In this episode, I talk honestly about anger in fatherhood, why it can rise so quickly, and how Christian dads can respond without damaging their children. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin,” and that verse gives fathers both permission to recognize anger and a warning not to let it control us.I share why delay matters, why angry words can leave wounds in our kids, and why the first response of a father should not just be taking a breath, but submitting to the Holy Spirit. This is not a complicated 15 step plan. It is a simple biblical parenting practice for moments when tension rises: pause, pray, and act.If you are a dad trying to lead your family well, this episode will help you slow down, seek God, and respond to your children with wisdom instead of regret.

As fathers, we cannot rely on a "been there, done that" mindset. Our children are growing up in a world shaped by smartphones, artificial intelligence, and cultural changes that many of us never experienced. If we want to lead our families well, we must keep learning.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Tim Elmore, author, and leadership and generational expert, for one of the most insightful conversations I have ever had about fatherhood. We discuss how dads can better understand Gen Z and Gen Alpha, adapt their parenting without compromising biblical values, and build strong relationships that last into adulthood.In this episode you will learn:• Why great fathers are both timely and timeless• How to ask, listen, empathize, and guide your children• The three personality types of children and how to lead each one• Why dads should risk more, rescue less, and praise wisely• Five experiences that help children grow into mature adults• How to connect with your children so they still want to call you years from nowIf you want practical fatherhood advice rooted in biblical parenting and real-world wisdom, this is an episode you will want to revisit again and again.Check out Tim's newest book, The Future Begins with Z. https://amzn.to/4wwuxsR (Amazon)

If you want to become a better father, one of the most important questions you can ask is this: Does the fruit of the Spirit show up in the way I treat my children?In this episode, I challenge Christian dads to examine whether their parenting reflects the character of God. Too often, we justify impatience, anger, harshness, and control in the name of discipline. But biblical parenting should be marked by love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness, and self-control.This episode provides a litmus test to whether or not your parenting style is Spirit led or self led. You need to know how you are parenting because your children are the ones most impacted by that.If you are ready to father more like our Father in Heaven, grab a copy of my devotional here: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Why don’t my kids listen? If you’ve ever asked that question as a dad, you’re not alone. Every father reaches a point where he wonders how to get his kids to listen, obey, and follow direction without constant frustration.In this episode, I break down what actually works when it comes to getting your kids to listen. This is not about yelling louder or repeating yourself more. It is about learning how to lead your children in a way that builds trust, respect, and long-term obedience.I walk through the two things that make the biggest difference in Christian fatherhood: modeling the behavior you expect and having the patience to teach it over time.In this episode you will learnHow to get your kids to listen without yellingWhy children follow your actions more than your wordsThe mistake many dads make when trying to disciplineHow to lead your home with patience and consistencyBiblical principles for raising obedient and respectful childrenIf you want to grow as a father, strengthen your relationship with your kids, and lead your family well, this episode will give you practical fatherhood advice you can start using today.

A couple of weeks ago I shared the best idea for Mother’s Day, but some moms did not agree. So I found out what the issue was.The problem was not with the moms or with my idea. The problem was with their husbands.This week on the podcast, I am addressing something Christian dads seem to miss when it comes to parenting. We are quick to define ourselves as protectors and providers, but we miss the fact that we are partners.I want to help you understand what it looks like for you to be a partner in parenting and provide tips for you to faithful serve your wife as Ephesians 5 instructs.If you are ready to dedicate yourself to your identity as a dad and better serve your home, grab a digital copy of my devotional (discounted) here: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Many fathers want to help their children succeed, but sometimes our help can quietly become control. If we are not careful, we can do so much for our kids that we never teach them how to do things for themselves.In this episode, I talk about why healthy fatherhood includes preparing our children for independence. I share how dads can raise capable, confident kids by giving them responsibility, teaching practical life skills, and allowing them to grow through mistakes. From cooking in the kitchen to packing lunches to handling chores, small daily moments can become powerful discipleship opportunities.As Christian fathers, our goal is not to create children who always depend on us. Our goal is to raise children who can walk with wisdom, responsibility, and faith long after they leave our home. This is biblical parenting that builds strength, maturity, and confidence.Items mentioned in the podcast that help you empower your child’s autonomy:Kitchen Knife Set for Kids - https://amzn.to/4vAEfdj (Amazon)Clothes Folding Board - https://amzn.to/3ODK20K (Amazon)

Most dads think the key to leading their home is having the right answers. But sometimes what we really need is to ask better questions and listen.In this episode, I share a simple conversation I had with my five-year-old daughter (thanks to my digital question cards - link below) that caught me off guard. I asked what she thought was most important to our family. Her answer was not what I expected, and it challenged me in the best way.That moment reminded me that our kids do not always see things the way we do. If we slow down and listen, they can reveal what matters to them, where they feel safe, and where we may need to grow as fathers.If you want help having conversation with your young kids, grab my digital deck of question cards that you can access on your mobile device anytime, anywhere. Get yours here: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/talk-time-dads-kids-50-simple-quest?step=checkout

When it comes to being a great husband, there are a few days we need to remember: her birthday, Valentine’s Day, your wedding anniversary, and of course, Mother’s Day.I grew up watching my dad spend lots of money on purses, perfumes, and other luxuries for my mom on Mother’s Day, while simply sharing the credit with me and my sister. That’s what I thought I was supposed to do… until I cracked the code.Mother’s Day will be here sooner than you realize, and I want you to be ready. This week, I’m sharing the formula for giving your wife the perfect Mother’s Day gift every year. I’ll keep it simple and walk you through exactly what I did last year with my three oldest kids, who were between 4 and 8 years old.Being a great dad is tied to being a great husband. Now you’ll be able to show your kids just how much their mom means to you by working together with them to give her the perfect Mother’s Day gift.

Some dads think being present means just being around but your kids can feel the difference between being there and being close.In this episode, I talk about something simple that has a massive impact on your relationship with your children. Proximity. Not just physical presence, but intentional closeness. As fathers, we are called to model our lives after our Heavenly Father, and one of the most powerful things He offers us is nearness. He draws close to us, and we should be doing the same with our kids.I break down three practical ways you can pursue proximity in your everyday life. These are not complicated strategies. They are simple, intentional choices that can change how your kids experience you as their dad.In this episode you will learnWhy proximity matters more than you think in fatherhoodHow doing what your kids love builds connectionThe power of bringing your kids into your everyday lifeHow physical touch creates lasting emotional securityIf you want to be a father your kids feel close to, not just one who provides from a distance, this episode will challenge you and give you clear direction on how to start.Ready to be like our Heavenly Father? Get Following Our Father today. https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

If our kids don’t take our words seriously, it’s not because they’re stubborn. It’s because something is broken in how we communicate as dads.In this episode, I talk about what it really means to be a father of your word. Not just saying the right things, but actually following through in a way that builds trust, respect, and strong relationships with your children. I walk through a real story with my son and how one simple opportunity revealed a powerful lesson about discipline, consistency, and grace.Too many dads either enforce rules without compassion or offer grace without structure. Neither works. Your kids need both.In this episode you will learn:How to enforce discipline without damaging your relationshipWhat it looks like to include a “window of grace” in parentingWhy consistency matters more than intensity in disciplineIf you want to lead your family well, you must value your words. This episode will challenge you to slow down, think before you speak, and become the kind of dad your kids can trust.

Every father has faced it. The meltdown in public. The tears. The frustration. The moment when you feel your patience slipping and you just want the behavior to stop.In this episode, I share a moment I witnessed between a dad and his little daughter at Chick-fil-A that stuck with me. Watching that interaction reminded me how easy it is for fathers to react out of frustration instead of leading with patience, wisdom, and relationship.Tantrums are part of childhood. They are not solved with threats, labels, or intimidation. As fathers, our job is not simply to control behavior. Our job is to guide our children, build trust, and help them grow through those difficult moments.I talk about the mistakes many dads make when emotions run high and the simple but powerful approach that has helped me walk my own children through those difficult moments.In this episode you will learn• Why threatening your kids damages trust and rarely works• The danger of labeling children as “good” or “bad”• Why tantrums take time and patience to tame• How relationship always matters more than control• Why a simple hug can completely change a meltdown• How fathers build long-term trust during emotional momentsIf you are a dad trying to lead your children with wisdom, patience, and faith, this episode will challenge you to rethink how you respond in the hardest parenting moments.

Every dad would say, "I would die for my kid."It sounds powerful. It sounds noble. And in many ways it is true. Most dads would step in front of danger without hesitation.But what about the everyday moments?The challenge is not simply being willing to die for our kids in one dramatic moment. The real challenge is choosing to live for them every single day.In this episode you will learn:• The difference between dying for your kids and living for them• Why personal success alone does not automatically benefit your children• How intentional sacrifice builds generational impact• What it truly means to give yourself for your childrenIf you are ready to live for your kids, take a good step forward and get a copy of Following Our Father: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Have you ever poured yourself out for your family and wondered if anyone even noticed?As fathers, we work hard. We sacrifice. We provide. We protect. And if we are honest, there are days when we wish someone would simply say thank you. In this episode, I talk about what I believe is the true heart of fatherhood, and it is not easy.A comment on one of my reels inspired this episode. A dad shared how he had given over 20 years to his family and felt like there was no appreciation in return. That struck something deep. Because many Christian fathers wrestle with the same thing. We want respect. We want gratitude. But what if biblical fatherhood calls us to something deeper?I walk through what Scripture teaches about love, respect, sacrifice, and what it really means to follow Jesus as a dad. This episode is about fatherhood advice rooted in the character of God, not in our feelings. It is about trusting Him when appreciation is absent. It is about leading your home the way Christ leads us.In this episode you will learnWhy respect from your children is earned, not demandedHow biblical love gives without seeking something in returnWhat Jesus models for fathers through sacrificeHow to respond when you feel unappreciated at homeWhy trusting God matters more than trusting your emotionsIf you are a Christian father trying to lead well, grow spiritually, and raise children with integrity and strength, this conversation will challenge and steady you. Keep following Jesus. Even when it feels unnoticed.If you feel and believe this is a step you need to take and are ready to take, start by getting a copy of Following Our Father today. https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Most dads want to be a good dad. But what if that’s the wrong goal?In this episode, I challenge one of the most common and most misleading pursuits in fatherhood. Because being a “good dad” isn’t determined by how much we provide, how hard we work, or how many things we do right.It’s determined by our relationship with our child.Using biblical insight and real-life fatherhood perspective, we unpack:Why “good dad” is a status you don’t get to assign yourselfThe danger of doing all the right things while missing what your kids actually needHow provision, protection, and presence can still fall shortYou can give your kids the world, but if they needed your shoulder and didn’t get it, you missed the point.This conversation will challenge you to stop chasing fatherhood checklists and start building the kind of relationship your kids will one day thank God for.If you are ready to be the dad your kid needs you to be and the dad God has created you to be, grab a copy of Following Our Father today: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Fatherhood changes everything, especially our expectations.Many dads step into parenting with ambition, personal standards, and a vision for what excellence looks like, only to feel frustrated when they cannot seem to measure up once children enter the picture.In this episode, we revisit expectations and why so many fathers quietly wrestle with feeling like they are falling short.Looking at Luke 14 and the principle of counting the cost, we talk about what it means to see the full scope of fatherhood. This includes not only the daily responsibilities, but also the long term calling of raising and discipling children.You will hear:Why unrealistic expectations create frustrationThe shift from individual success to family leadershipHow fatherhood reshapes priorities and convenienceWhy you do not have to win every daily battleThe importance of seeing the long term vision for your childrenIf you have ever felt overwhelmed, behind, or inadequate as a dad, this conversation will help you reframe your expectations and lead your family with clarity and patience.NEW PRODUCTS!Check out my new digital question card sets, Talk Time.  There’s one for dads and kids and one for husbands and wives and right now they are BOGO 50% off. https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/talk-time-dads-kids-50-simple-quest?step=checkout My devotional for dads, Following Our Father, is now available in a digital format and it is only $6! https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Are your kids doing things for you because they love you… or because they feel like they have to manage your emotions?In this episode, I unpack a powerful conversation that forced me to look in the mirror as a father. Using Micah 6 as a backdrop, we explore the difference between how pagan cultures tried to appease their unstable gods versus how our Heavenly Father actually relates to His children.Then we bring it home.Because the real question is not theological. It is practical.Do your kids feel safe around you… or do they feel like they have to keep you happy to keep peace in the house?I share personal childhood stories that highlight the difference between affection and appeasement, and why that distinction matters more than most dads realize.If you want your kids to love you out of connection, not fear, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.NEW PRODUCT! Grow your connection with your kids through communication with Talk Time, a digital set of 50 question cards designed to spark meaningful and memorable conversation. https://fatheringourfuture.com/talk-time/

Many parents say it without thinking: “Go to your room.”But biblically, psychologically, and developmentally it’s a mistake.In this episode, I explain why isolating children during discipline does more harm than good. Scripture shows us that isolation erodes identity, value, and hope. Add modern research on loneliness and child brain development, and the conclusion is unavoidable: connection, not isolation, is how kids learn, grow, and heal.If we discipline our kids without connection, we aren’t teaching reflection, we’re teaching shame. And shame doesn’t produce wisdom; it produces withdrawal.I am challenging a deeply ingrained parenting tactic and offering a better way. A way that more closely mirrors how our Heavenly Father disciplines us.If you are ready to become a dad aligned with our Father in heaven, grab a copy of my devotion, Following Our Father: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

I was raised to believe backtalk was disrespectful and had to be shut down immediately.But when I started looking at Scripture, especially the psalms of lament, I realized something uncomfortable: God invites questions, frustration, and hard conversations from His children.So why don’t we?In this episode, I explain why silencing your kids may be damaging trust, weakening your influence, and working against real discipleship, and what to do instead.If you’re a dad who wants strong relationships, not silent obedience, this conversation matters.–Grab a copy of my digital devotional if you are ready to align yourself with our heavenly Father. Click here.

You’re a Christian dad. You want to teach your kids about the Bible but the Old Testament makes you uncomfortable because it can feel intense with the bloody stories, tough questions, and a God who seems “angry.” That’s ok. I’ve got you.This episode I connect with Chad Bird, Scholar in Residence at 1517, who specializes in the Old Testament. He helps clear up some misconceptions about the Old Testament and provides guidance on how to talk about the Old Testament to our children. You’ll learn:The Bible is one unified salvation storyMoralism is not the point of the ScripturesHow to see Jesus in the Old Testament storiesHow to answer questions like, “Why does God kill so many people?”If you want to learn more about Chad, follow him and check out some of his resources below.Facebook: @writingsofchadbirdInstagram: @chadlbirdYouTube: @chadbird1517https://www.1517.org/articles/is-your-sunday-school-training-good-little-phariseeswww.1517.org/oneyearHitchhiking with Prophets (Book): https://amzn.to/4b24YHN (Amazon)Untamed Prayers (Book): https://amzn.to/3ZkY7C2 (Amazon)—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldR (Amazon)Get your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

You’re getting a double dose of boundaries this week because boundaries aren’t “nice to have,” they’re protection.In this episode, my friend and life coach Tom Lyman, shares boundaries that helped rebuild his life after years of addiction, and how those same boundaries can help you become a stronger man, husband, and father.Tom walks through five key areas every man needs boundaries:• Spiritual boundaries• Digital boundaries• Time boundaries• Relationship boundaries• Emotional boundariesIf you’re tired of drifting, tired of hiding, tired of “white-knuckling” it, this episode is for you.Connect with Tom:www.Tom-Lyman.comInstagram: @TomTheJoyHourGuy—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your digital copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-faGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Most dads think freedom comes from removing limits.That mindset quietly creates dissatisfaction, broken priorities, and strained families.In this episode of Fathering Our Future, Anthony Vandagriff explains why boundaries do not confine dads. They define what matters and protect what God has already given.Using Proverbs 4:23, real life stories, and practical examples, this episode unpacks:Why chasing more without boundaries never satisfiesHow boundaries actually create freedom for dads and kidsWhat fathers need to intentionally keep out and keep inHow guarding your heart reshapes ambition, gratitude, and purposeIf you want to grow without losing your marriage, your integrity, or your relationship with your kids, this episode will reset your thinking.–Be sure to get your copy of Following Our Father (Digital Version) for just $6 HERE.

As we head into a new year, I know how easy it is for dads to feel pressure to change everything at once. I don’t want to give you a list of resolutions. I want you to focus on one fatherhood discipline that actually matters and is worth protecting.In this episode, I explain why prioritizing time around the table with your family is far more formative than most dads realize. Research shows that children who regularly share meals with their family tend to thrive academically, emotionally, and socially. This research also connects to a powerful biblical picture from Psalm 23 that reshaped the way I think about presence, provision, and leadership in the home.I will talk about what it really looks like to be present at the table, how to protect that time in a busy household, and how simple, intentional moments can strengthen your relationship with your kids over time.If you’re going to commit to one discipline as a father in 2026, this is the one that deserves your attention.—I also have a new special offer where you can get my devotional, Following Our Father, in a digital format. Check the link for details: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

As we head into 2026, I want to challenge you to think seriously about the kind of husband you are becoming because being a good husband directly impacts the kind of father you are.This week I want to revisit my most popular blog where I detail 10 things husbands can do to improve their marriages. In addition to things like:* Hugging your wife* Doing what you say* Listening before you attempt to fixI share 4 new points that I believe every husband should focus on. So if you value your marriage, and your family, make sure to take notes.Here is a link to the original blog post: https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/01/10/10-marriage-tips-after-10-years-of-marriage/—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Most New Year resolutions fail because we start with the wrong definition of success.As Christian dads, we are quick to set goals, chase improvement, and measure progress by outcomes we never stopped to question. But before we decide what to pursue in 2026, we need to ask a better question:What does excellence actually look like from God’s perspective?In this episode, I walk through what it means to approach resolutions as a disciple first, not as a man driven by comparison, envy, or cultural pressure. Drawing from Joshua 1:8 and Deuteronomy 6, I challenge dads to rethink success, commit to Scripture, and lead their families with intentional faith rather than unchecked ambition.If you want to grow as a disciple, lead your home with clarity, and pursue the kind of excellence God actually calls us to, this conversation will give you a clear starting point for the year ahead.Faith Resolutions for Christian Dads in 2026:• Commit to reading the Bible from Genesis to Revelation• Talk weekly with another man about what you are reading• Read Scripture or a Bible-based devotional with your children most days of the weekResources mentions:Tiny Truths - https://amzn.to/4iUZYqa (amazon)God's Big Picture Bible Storybook - https://amzn.to/4oYvN2O (amazon)–Get your FREE 7-day devotional to realign your identity as a dad:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your free eBook, Cut the Crap: Direct Tips for Becoming a Dad:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/Get your copy of Following Our Father: A Devotional for Dads on Amazon:https://amzn.to/48jD9sHSupport Fathering Our Future and help equip dads who want to lead well:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

As we approach 2026, most of us start drafting resolutions. We look at 2025, measure our wins and losses, and try to map out ways to be better. But Christian dads are called to a deeper starting point. Before we write a single resolution, we should first ask God to define what excellence actually looks like in our lives.In this episode, I share a simple but life-altering shift:Pray first. Ask God to reveal His definition of excellence for you as a disciple, a husband, and a father.When our goals begin with God’s perspective, not comparison or envy, we pursue what actually matters.Resources:Free 7-Day Devotional → https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Following Our Father (Devotional for Dads) → https://amzn.to/48jD9sHFree eBook for New Dads (Cut the Crap) → https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/Merch → https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/productsSupport Fathering Our Future → https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

You’re a Christian dad trying to raise kind Christian children when all of a sudden you find out that your child has stolen something from the store you visited. What do you do?This happened to my wife and I recently and I am going to honest with you, we handled things great. I want to give you four tips to handle situations like this great as well. I will elaborate on:Keeping your coolLeading them to confessionReminding them of your motiveEmbracing them—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Throughout the month of November we attempt to be thankful. We devote each day to something different to be thankful for. But if we are honest, sometimes it can be a challenge to stay thankful.I want to open up and share some of the difficulty around constant gratitude and offer a key scripture that helps reframe the way we think.https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/11/24/the-key-to-staying-thankful/—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

I came across an article that would catch the attention of any parent with young children about 7 ‘magic phrases’ that can calm tantrums instantly. While that sounds too good to be true, something like this is worth checking out just in case there is truth to it.This week we sift through this article to determine what actually works and what you should not waste your time on. I will also provide some wisdom for tantrums that is so counterintuitive and unnatural but it’s Bible.Here is the article we are looking at: https://www.cnbc.com/2025/11/02/ive-studied-over-200-kidsthese-7-magic-phrases-can-calm-any-tantrum-instantly.html—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

We live in a world where several voices claim to have the formula to being a good dad. While I understand fatherhood to be an ever-changing complexity that is unique to every dad, I want to offer guidance on how you can be a good dad by focusing on two things.I want to break down what it means to be the dad your children need you to be and how you can ensure your kids know they are abundantly loved by you.—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

We all enter into fatherhood with influences and voices that shape our approach. Maybe your dad was truly the man, or maybe you were inspired by an uncle, coach, pastor, or social influencer. But have you taken time to consider if you approach fatherhood in a way that honors God?One of the clearest ways we can be God honoring dads is to imitate our Heavenly Father. I want to focus on just two qualities of God that we need to mimic as dads to both bless our kids and honor God — pursuing our kids and always showing up. https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/11/03/are-you-a-god-honoring-dad/—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

The Bible indicates that we know people by their fruits. Have you ever wondered what your kids know about you based on your fruit?In Galatians 5:22-23 we are introduced to the fruit of the Spirit. Good stuff but often misunderstood. I remember growing up and learning that these were characteristics and behaviors I had to practice and work on, but now I know that is not the case.I want to help you better understand the fruit of the Spirit and how it relates to you as a dad. I’ll explain:What the fruit of the Spirit isWho the fruit is forHow you can identify the fruit in your life—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Has your kid ever been down because of an issue with friendship? Of course you deal with it in the moment but there’s more you can do to help your kids. This week I want to give you some advice on teaching your kids about friendships. Four reminders to tell them:There are lots of people in the worldFriendship takes timeFocus on being friendlyBest friends find each otherPlus a couple of other things you can focus on to help them make friends and see what friendship should truly look like. —Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

If you are a dad with a younger son and you find yourself wondering if your son actually likes you – you are not alone. In fact, a dad reach out to me with his concerns regarding his relationship with his 4-year old son and I think my advice will benefit you too.I will give you my timeless piece of advice that will be critical for your relationship with your son but I will specifically address:Why does my son only like his mom?Why does he not want to play with me?Why does he ignore me?What do I do if he never wants to talk?If YOU have specific questions about fatherhood, please send me an email at [email protected].—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff. 

Time and love are a couple of things we think about a lot as dads. So I’ve got a fresh perspective to share on time and 4 tips to help you succeed at loving your children.With kids we find ourselves not having enough time, wishing we had more time, and running out of time.When it comes to loving our kids we that’s what we are supposed to do but that doesn’t always come natural.After being separated from my family for a few weeks, I started to see time differently. There’s nothing profound here, just a fresh perspective. When it comes to loving your kids, I’ve got four things for you to do that will make this easier—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff. 

Just a few weeks ago I was alone and isolated from my family. I thought this may have been a time where I would be ultra-productive but I was wrong. The isolation was painful but one simple thing made the difference.We live in a world where we are constantly told to look forward and to stop looking back. This week I share how looking back helped me during my period of loneliness and brought happiness to my soul. We should look forward but we should never stop looking back.—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Last week I talked about things to avoid when it comes to disciplining your kids. This week I want to share one thing you should incorporate in your discipline approach that you maybe haven’t considered. Disciplining kids seems like a serious thing, and it is, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use humor in the process. I want to share a silly simple way I utilize humor in disciplining my kids that’s surprisingly effective and beneficial to both myself and my kids. —Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Disciplining our children is our greatest responsibility as fathers and unfortunately too many think about discipline in terms of punishment and correction. That is a part of discipline, but there is a whole lot more to it.This week I focus on what it means to discipline your kids and I cover three things you need to be careful of or rethink entirely. We are talking about:SpankingSending your kid to their roomReacting—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

When it comes to AI, there are people who love it and people who hate it. Personally, I see it as an incredible tool and resource with amazing potential. However, apparently it possesses the potential to do things I never imagined.I recently read an article about people and their feelings toward romantic companions created by AI, some pornographic. I’ll share that with you and provide:Tips around communityHow you can help your kids with real friendships and relationshipsAdvice surrounding limits to screen time and social media usageHere’s the newsletter referenced in the episode: https://www.morningbrew.com/issues/colder-model?mbcid=41145762.43963&mid=a23d85b97ba2308274ab1869c147ae26&utm_campaign=mb&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_source=header_signupHere’s my referral link if you want to subscribe to the newsletter: morningbrew.com/daily/r/?kid=754260—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Integrity is a word that we all like to use. We know it is good. We know we want to have it. But the truth is, we sometimes struggle to actually define what integrity is.My goal is to help you understand what integrity is and what it should look like in your life. On this week’s episode, I will:Provide a biblical definition of integrityGive you an analogy that will help you understand integrityOffer some do’s and don’t’s that will help you have greater integrity—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

As dads we want our kids to accomplish great things but we also want it to be perpetually known that we are the greatest. That’s a problem because both things cannot be true.Our mission is to equip and disciple our kids to be a part of God’s mission in a greater capacity than ourselves. We need to keep that desire for our kids to accomplish great things while accepting that we will not always be the greatest. This episode will:Justify why we should want our kids to surpass ourselvesHelp you understand how you can accomplish thatExplain that your value as a dad is not predicated on your performance—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Sometimes life doesn’t pan out the way you expected it to. Sometimes life throws you curveballs when everything appears to be going great. Life is unpredictable and brings change.Things are changing for me personally. Our family is making a move across the country. While I have been processing this change, I have observed a few things that I think can serve dads when big changes present themselves. I want to offer you:Advice for decision makingA reminder about timeA perspective on taking things for granted—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Becoming a dad is one of the greatest things that happens to men but with this change often comes fear and discomfort. I want to help take off the edge a bit and offer some advice as a father of four.I share tips from my book, Cut the Crap, that dads need to focus on, as well as some items that are must have when you have kids. You’ll get:My recommended itemsThe right perspective on having kids5 focuses for fathersEncouragement for the journey aheadIf you would like a physical copy of Cut the Crap, get it here: https://amzn.to/40BZgWXFor a list of the recommended items visit: https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/08/03/items-you-actually-should-buy-when-you-have-kids/ —Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Over the last decade a term has been popularized in Christian circles: deconstruction. The premise is essentially dismantling one’s faith one brick at a time. For Christian dads, this should propel us to focus on properly teaching and living out biblical truths to our kids. I’m joined today by Pastor Nicholas McDonald, author of The Light in Our Eyes, to talk more about deconstruction. You’ll learn:How to think about deconstruction 4 phases of deconstructionAncient practices that can help establish a strong faithCheck the link to get your copy of The Light in Our Eyes: https://amzn.to/4lpNJSD—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Have you ever said:• You should be ashamed of yourself• Stop acting like a baby• It’s my way or the highway• Because I said soIf you have not used these, you have probably used something similar. While there are wonderful things we can learn from our parents and glean from previous generation, there are particular phrases that we can think back on that no parent should ever say.I want to help you identify these phrases and provide a more Christ-honoring approach. We are going to focus on 10 phrases that have been commonly used by parents that are wrong for any parent to use.—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

A few weeks back I was joined by Dr. Meg Meeker to talk about the necessity of a dad for daughters. This week I want to take things a step further and help you see that your daughters do not just need you but they truly want you.I came across a letter from my wife’s grandmother where she wrote about her testimony. Much of the emptiness and distress she mentions was due to her relationship with her dad. I want to share this reflective insight to help you realize the desire your daughters have for you and the need for you to turn your attention to them as well.Be sure to check out my interview with Dr. Meg Meeker if you missed it here: https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/06/02/the-undeniable-influence-dads-have-on-their-daughters-with-dr-meg-meeker/ —Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

I grew up with teachers and leaders telling me that video games were a waste of time and that they offered no benefit to me. The truth is, video games can offer benefits. And yes, they can also come with some terribly negative effects. What’s important for us as dads is that we understand the benefits and dangers.I am joined by Scott Novis, creator of GameTruck. With over 30 years in the gaming industry, Scott reveals some things about the gaming industry that we must be aware. We talk about:* What games are designed to accomplish* The impact they have on our brains* How video games can be used for goodLearn more about Scott by visiting: www.scottnovis.comBook recommendation: The Anxious Generation - https://amzn.to/3IahGYw—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/anthony-vandagriff

Loving your children seems like a universally understood idea but there is a correct way to love them. How do we do that? We observe and experience love and then we replicate it.1 John 4:19 tells us that “We love because He first loved us.” This verse not only explains why we are to love but how we are able to love. I want to focus on the how and ask you one question that will determine if you are loving your kids the way you need to.—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/

We live in a busy culture. There is the hustle to obtain financial security. There are all of the long distance trip to make family gatherings. There are all of the practices, games, concerts, performances, and extracurricular activities that our kids are involved in. Add on to that all of the personal efforts to stay physically healthy and mentally sharp. And don’t forget about your marriage. It’s no wonder why time is one of the greatest struggles dads contend with.If this sounds like you, you probably feel like your home is hemorrhaging and relationships are suffering. You are doing all of the stuff you think you are supposed to be doing at the expense of the one thing you are supposed to be doing it all for. Things have to change.I want to offer some advice to you on how to prosper your family by protecting your time. We are talking about:Overcoming FOMO (Fear of missing out)Saying “No”How many activities your kids need to be involved inHow much time you realistically have with your kids—Get your FREE 7-day devotional download:https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/Get your copy of my devotional for dads, Following Our Father:https://amzn.to/45m9ldRGet your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book):https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/MERCH:https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads:https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/