Does it Matter Which Direction One’s Bed Faces?

The Gemara in Masechet Berachot (5b) teaches that it is praiseworthy to position one's bed to the north or south, and one who makes a point of doing so is rewarded. Rashi explains that the Shechina's presence is to the east and west, and thus it would be disrespectful for a bed, where marital relations take place, to face either of these two directions. Talmideh Rabbenu Yona (commentary by the disciples of Rabbenu Yona, Spain, 1200-1263) offer a different explanation, noting that inside the Bet Ha'mikdash, the Menorah was situated along the southern wall, whereas the Shulhan (table) was to the north. The light of the Menorah symbolizes Torah wisdom, whereas the Shulhan, upon which bread was placed, represents Parnasa (material sustenance). For this reason, the Gemara elsewhere (Baba Batra 25b) teaches that one who seeks Torah wisdom should tilt slightly to the south while praying, whereas one who seeks wealth should tilt to the north. Similarly, Talmideh Rabbenu Yona write, a bed should be positioned to the south and north to express the prayer that the children produced by the couple should be blessed with both Torah wisdom and wealth. Interestingly, however, the Zohar teaches that to the contrary, the head of the bed should be positioned to the east, and the end of the bed to the west. The Vilna Gaon (cited by the Mishna Berura, 3:11) suggested reinterpreting the Zohar's comments such that it is not in disagreement with the Gemara, but others, including the Arizal, understood that the Zohar indeed disputed the Gemara's teaching. The Kaf Ha'haim (Rav Yaakob Haim Sofer, Baghdad-Israel, 1870-1939) writes that one should follow the Zohar's view – which was accepted also by the Arizal – and position the bed with the head to the east. Numerous other Poskim, however, ruled that since this issue remains unresolved, one can position the bed in whichever direction he prefers. Indeed, the Shiyureh Ha'kenesset Ha'gedola (Rav Haim Benvenisti, Turkey, 1603-1673) writes that in his day, the custom was to pay no attention whatsoever to the position of beds. This is the ruling followed by the Aruch Ha'shulhan (Rav Yechiel Michel Epstein, 1829-1908) and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (Jerusalem, 1910-1995). Hacham Bension Abba Shaul (Jerusalem, 1924-1998) writes that it is preferable to follow the Arizal's view, but if this would cause any sort of inconvenience, one may position the bed north to south. On the occasions when I have been asked this question, I responded by noting to the questioner that this issue is many times less consequential than far more critical issues, such as the proper observance of the laws of family purity. As we saw, most Poskim conclude that the position of the bed does not matter. One's priority must be adherence to the more difficult but also far more consequential laws governing the relationship between husband and wife.