Don't Disregard the Disregard | Ep 56 w/James Johnson #fatherhood #masculine #thoughtleader

Enjoy the visual experience: https://youtu.be/udmv7aIX9ScIt’s a safe assumption that nobody likes to feel disregarded. Unfortunately, many of us have or will experience this in various phases of life. As a child, perhaps a classmate shared his candy with everyone in the class except you. Maybe as a teenager, the girl of your dreams rejected your invite to homecoming and laughed it off with her friends. Over time, we essentially become numb to it, or at least we put up a good front as if being disregarded doesn’t bother us. Don’t disregard the disregard.In this episode we address how being disregarded is viewed through the lens of fatherhood. This isn’t a grip session by any stretch, but rather an ‘aha’ moment of sorts when realize that we can be guilt of disregarding what’s important to our children. Many of us have shewed a child away while on a work call, preparing dinner, or watching something meaningless on tv. I’d also bet that many of us experienced that as a child as well. So…is it just our turn to be the givers in this cycle of carelessness? The ends don’t always justify the means. We shouldn’t take for granted that our children will simply get over things in time. Be mindful that our journey of “just getting over a hurt” may have taken months, years, or even decades. Let’s not try to condense the healing process for our children as a careless convenience. We don’t want them to arrive at adulthood as masters of disregarding the disregard. How does this play out in your home?We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #accountable #blackfathers #fatherandson #blackexcellence #theblackfamilyexperience #Mali #ghana #tanzania #malawi #bahamasThree tips to ensure your children feel heard: 1.     Make sure to set aside undisturbed time each day to talk to your children. This helps them feel like you are truly listening to them and hearing their needs.2.     Ask open-ended questions that encourage your children to think and express themselves. This will help you understand their perspective and make them feel like their opinions are valued.3.     Show your children that you are listening by giving them your full attention. Make eye contact, take time to think before responding, and avoid distractions like cell phones or television. This will make them feel like their thoughts and feelings are being taken seriously.Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give this podcast a 5-star rating, 4. leave a positive written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Man. Better Father.”Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy