Don’t feed the chaos: how to outsmart a swarmer in your divorce

If every message from your ex or their attorney feels like an ambush, you’re not imagining it—you’re dealing with a swarmer. In this episode, I’ll show you how to spot the tactics that thrive on chaos and keep you stuck in reaction mode. You’ll learn how to stay steady, shut down the noise, and make strategic moves that actually move your case forward. I’m giving you four clear tools—and one mantra—to help you stop feeding the fire and start taking your power back. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.orgNew episodes Thursdays during the season.Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.