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Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind Podcast

Every time you cooperate, they escalate. Every time you're fair, they take more.This podcast is for the coparent who keeps trying to be reasonable with someone who isn't negotiating. Each episode gives you one concrete tool to stop reacting and start choosing.I'm Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. Based on my book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

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  1. 60

    You Did Everything Right. They Still Won't Settle.

    You took the pause, stayed flexible, made every deposit, and the other side still refuses to move. This episode breaks down the three kinds of divorce trials, which one you are walking into, and how to know if your attorney is truly committed to fighting it with you. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  2. 59

    Why Do I Have to Take the High Road?

    The other side just sent something obnoxious, and your reply is sitting there ready to go. Before you hit send, hear what the judge is actually watching for, and why every choice you make is either a deposit or a withdrawal. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  3. 58

    The Three Unspoken Rules of Divorce Court

    Mediation fell apart, a court date is on the calendar, and your mind keeps jumping to courtroom scenes from the movies. This episode gives you the real lay of the land, the three unspoken rules no attorney explains, and why a judge pushing you toward settlement is a window, not a warning. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  4. 57

    Mediation Is Not Giving Up

    You have already decided your spouse is too difficult for mediation, and court feels like the only road left. This episode walks you through the front door and the back door to mediation, the three types you will actually encounter, and why choosing resolution now is not the same as giving up. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  5. 56

    Is This Attorney Actually on Your Side?

    You have consultations booked and no idea how to tell the attorney who will actually protect you from the one who just tells you what you want to hear. This episode gives you the three questions that reveal the difference before you hand over a retainer. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  6. 55

    Can They Afford the Four Seasons for a Year?

    You looked up the firm your spouse hired, saw the fancy address and the wall of attorney bios, and felt your stomach drop. Before you assume the worst, this episode gives you the one question that tells you whether their expensive lawyer actually changes anything: can they afford to keep paying for it? You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  7. 54

    Refusing To Give An Inch Feels Like Strength

    You're done being the reasonable one, because being reasonable is what got you here. Before you lock in the position that finally feels like fighting back, here's what it does to your case. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  8. 53

    You Told Yourself It Wouldn't Come Up

    You've told yourself it probably won't come up, so you haven't mentioned it to anyone, including your lawyer. This is what it costs if you're wrong, and why handing it over now is what keeps it from being used against you later. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  9. 52

    Every Issue Feels Like an Emergency

    The emails and requests keep coming, and each one feels like it needs an answer right now. Most of it is built to drain you, not to win, and this is how you spot the few that actually matter. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  10. 51

    You Keep Being Reasonable. It Keeps Not Working.

    You keep sending reasonable proposals and they keep getting brushed aside, and you cannot figure out why. What looks like chaos is usually a strategy, and this episode names the four you are most likely up against. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  11. 50

    Nobody explained how any of this works

    You are about to hand your case to a lawyer, and no one ever laid out how the system works. This is the scouting report, so you walk in knowing your job and who to trust with the rest. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  12. 49

    Reply Like a Judge Is Reading Every Word

    A last-minute request blows up your plans with the kids, and you have about ten seconds before you respond badly. Watch how to handle it in real time so the calm answer is also the smart one. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  13. 48

    Stop Telling. Start Asking.

    When they tune you out, saying it louder won't get through. Step four of the CLEAR Method, and the one move that shifts a conversation from reactive to real. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  14. 47

    What to Say Instead of "That's Ridiculous"

    When your spouse demands 50/50 and you know it isn't really about the kids, your instinct is to push back. That instinct will cost you. Here's the move that actually works. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  15. 46

    Build Momentum Without Caving

    When you're dug in on the big issue and nothing's moving, the answer isn't to push harder. Find the smallest place you actually agree and start there. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  16. 45

    What to Say Instead of "Where Have You Been?"

    When your spouse demands 50/50 after years of barely parenting, the urge to set them straight is overwhelming. That instinct is the trap. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  17. 44

    Your Reaction Is Right. Your Response Cannot Be.

    The offer is outrageous. Your reaction is valid. Saying it out loud is the mistake. Here's the method that keeps you persuasive instead. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  18. 43

    The Secret Weapon That Makes You More Persuasive in Your Divorce

    You're not going to get what you want by pushing harder. The strategic shift shows you how to listen for what's really driving their position, so you can move them without a fight. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  19. 42

    You Think Winning Changes Everything. You're Wrong.

    That custody win or perfect settlement you're fixated on may not deliver what you think it will. Before you commit to the fight, make sure you can stomach what it takes to get there. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  20. 41

    Divorce Settlement Proposal: This Can't Be Real

    You open a settlement offer on Friday afternoon and it's outrageous. Before you fire back, this episode gives you the Perspective Check: a way to borrow wisdom from your future self by asking how this will play out in 10 hours, 10 days, and 10 years. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  21. 40

    Why Your First Instinct Is Ruining Your Divorce

    The two traps people fall into when divorce hits their inbox: freezing and doing nothing, or retaliating with everything you've got. Corey breaks down why both backfire and walks through the strategic response that keeps you in control. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  22. 39

    The Checkpoint You Can't Skip

    A checkpoint before we move forward. How far you've come since episode one, and what's next. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  23. 38

    The Divorce Trap Parents Fall Into: Harming Kids Mentally

    The 4 levels of a contested custody case and why only one of them protects your child's mental health. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  24. 37

    Triggered by His Text? Here's What to Do

    What to do when you're spiraling at 2am over a text from your ex. A scenario lab walking through the 3 shifts: boundaries, the 24-hour pause, and mental distancing.    You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  25. 36

    Your Spouse Hiding Documents? This is How It Backfires

    Why fighting every issue in your divorce will cost you the ones that matter most. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  26. 35

    Your Battery Is Low. Not Broken.

    You knew better. You responded anyway. Now you're spiraling. This episode isn't about being perfect. It's about three small changes that give you more capacity when you're running on fumes. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  27. 34

    You Raised Them Alone. Now the Court Wants 50/50.

    You've been the primary parent their whole lives. Now your ex wants 50/50 and won't budge. You're awake at 2 AM, replaying the injustice on a loop. This episode gives you a 5-step process to break that cycle so you can stop spiraling and start thinking clearly again. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  28. 33

    That Text Hits Different When You're Already Stressed About the Weekend

    Friday afternoon. You're done with work, ready for the weekend with your kids. Then a text from your soon-to-be ex lands and you fire back while you're still activated.I've been a divorce attorney for 25 years. Those rapid-fire text threads become Exhibit A. They get used against you.This episode covers the 24 Hour Pause: how to stop reacting and start responding tactically.You'll learn why the "emergency" usually isn't one, what to say when you need to buy time, and why their escalating texts actually mean you're winning.  You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  29. 32

    That Angry Text Message Hit Too Close to Home

    You know the moment. You're about to fall asleep, you check your phone one last time, and there it is. A text that lights you up. You respond. It goes badly.Corey shares a story he's not proud of and explains why boundaries aren't about your ex. They're about protecting yourself from your worst impulses when it matters most.Plus one phone setting that puts you back in control. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  30. 31

    You Can't Solve a Problem With Someone Who Needs a Problem

    Some people will spend ten thousand dollars to fight a five-thousand-dollar problem. That's not negotiation. That's punishment. Spot it early so you stop wasting resources. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  31. 30

    The Parent Who Reacts Least Wins Most

    The parent who reacts least wins most. That win is a better life for you and your children.  You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  32. 29

    Your Divorce Just Got More Expensive Here's Why

    Divorce isn't just financial. It's a capacity problem. Most people run out of something other than money first.   You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  33. 28

    Your Divorce Lawyer Can't Help You If You Don't Understand This

    There's an outer game and an inner game in divorce. Your lawyer plays one. You play the other. And yours matters more. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  34. 27

    Start Here 2026: Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind

    Feeling overwhelmed by your divorce? Start here. In this episode, Corey Shapiro shares how to slow down, set boundaries, and think clearly before emotions or bad advice make things worse. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  35. 26

    The Emotionally Savvy Divorce with Katherine Miller

    Key takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is.Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them.Katherine and Corey discuss how to handle anxiety without making reactive decisions you will regret later, why fighting to be "right" often costs you happiness, and how to break out of exhausting conflict loops. She explains the three levels of conflict: positions ("I want the house"), interests ("I need stability"), and meaning ("I am a good parent"), and why most couples argue at the surface level.If you are overwhelmed and want practical ways to negotiate more effectively, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers clear tools and real stories that will help you feel less alone and more strategic about what comes next.Resources mentioned:The Emotionally Savvy Divorce by Katherine Miller  You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  36. 25

    Divorce Isn't Just an Ending. It's a Reckoning

    Season 6 finale. Five truths to carry forward: clarity over control, balance over fairness, time as currency, emotions that pass, and progress over perfection. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  37. 24

    You Don't Need to Earn Rest

    You don't earn rest. You need it to think clearly. Corey explains why self-care isn't optional during divorce and how to start small. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  38. 23

    How Holiday Schedules Actually Work in Divorce

    Holiday schedules override your regular parenting routine. Corey breaks down how to define them precisely, handle the collisions, and stop treating December like a zero-sum game.   You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  39. 22

    Why Some Kids Heal After Divorce and Others Don’t

    Some kids seem to bounce back after divorce while others carry the pain for years. Corey Shapiro explains why that happens and how your healing becomes the key to your child’s emotional recovery. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  40. 21

    Can You Find Happiness After Divorce?

    Divorce can leave you feeling like love and happiness are over. Corey Shapiro shares how to heal, rebuild trust, and take simple steps toward a life that feels good again. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  41. 20

    Why Your Divorce Recovery Isn't Working and How to Fix It

    You’ve done the hard part. The papers are signed, the conflict is over, but you still don’t feel better. In this episode, Corey Shapiro explains why recovery after divorce can stall and what simple steps can help you move forward again. This is not about perfection. It is about rebuilding your energy, your focus, and your peace of mind. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  42. 19

    Are You Accidentally Letting Anxiety Turn into Anger in Your Divorce?

    Are you letting anxiety or anger steer your divorce? In this episode, Corey Shapiro, a New York City divorce attorney, breaks down how strong emotions can cloud judgment and damage credibility in court and co-parenting. Learn the difference between anger that explodes and anxiety that spirals inward, and how to pause before either takes over.Corey shares a real-world example of how worry can snowball into serious accusations, and what to do instead to stay grounded and strategic.If you want to protect your children, your peace of mind, and your case, this episode will help you slow down, think clearly, and act from your wiser side. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  43. 18

    When Your Ex Plays Games with Discovery: How to Protect Yourself

    Corey explains what to do when you hand over your documents and the other side plays games with theirs. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  44. 17

    When Child Support Doesn’t Come In: How to Respond Without Hurting Your Case

    They stopped paying child support, and Corey explains why blocking parenting time will only hurt your case. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  45. 16

    Escape vs. Take a Break: Which Divorce Strategy Works?

    You love your kids, but sometimes you wish you could vanish. Corey breaks down the difference between taking a restorative break and making an escape that leaves lasting scars. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  46. 15

    Court Is a Tool Not a Therapist

    Corey shows you how to distinguish between court-worthy problems and everyday disagreements, enabling you to protect your time, energy, and children. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  47. 14

    The Lawyer You Hire Can Save Your Family or Burn It Down

    Corey explains why “shark” lawyers often leave families in ruins.He breaks down the swarmer, the brawler, the boxer, and the top dog.Corey shares the one question to ask before you hire any attorney. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  48. 13

    How to Respond Wisely When Every Button Is Pushed

    Corey Shapiro breaks down one of the nastiest divorce games: serving papers at work just to humiliate. He shares how to avoid firing off a text you will regret and introduces a new 24-minute pause using AI to help you respond wisely, not wildly. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  49. 12

    How to Stay Calm When Your Ex Knows Exactly How to Get to You

    Your ex knows exactly how to get under your skin, and that is no accident. Corey explains why reacting in the moment can wreck your case and how a simple pause can save your time, money, and peace of mind. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  50. 11

    Why Pausing During Divorce Is a Power Move

    This episode is about why reacting in the heat of the moment can backfire. Corey shares how a simple pause can keep you from making a mistake that hurts your case, your co-parenting, and your peace of mind. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Every time you cooperate, they escalate. Every time you're fair, they take more.This podcast is for the coparent who keeps trying to be reasonable with someone who isn't negotiating. Each episode gives you one concrete tool to stop reacting and start choosing.I'm Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. Based on my book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

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Every time you cooperate, they escalate. Every time you're fair, they take more.This podcast is for the coparent who keeps trying to be reasonable with someone who isn't negotiating. Each episode gives you one concrete tool to stop reacting and start choosing.I'm Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce...

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