Don’t lose yourself.

💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)Today’s episode is for stepparents who are also parents: the more we lose ourselves in the stepparenting role, the more our kids lose us too.We can’t get so wrapped up in the challenges and drama of stepfamily life that our own kids get lost in the shuffle. I have oh so very many regrets about my first decade of stepmotherhood, but the thing I regret the most is losing myself so much in the stepparenting role that my daughter lost me for a while there too.This is a topic that’s far bigger than I can cover in a daily pep talk, and in fact I wrote an entire blog post about it: PROTECTING OUR BIO KIDS FROM STEPFAMILY DRAMAAnyway. You know how on airplanes they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first? Even before you help your kid, you’re supposed to help yourself? They tell you that because they know you are the most likely person to help your kid, therefore you need to make sure to get your oxygen mask on PRONTO.Stepfamily life, especially in high conflict, can feel an awful lot like an airplane going down in flames. So please: do put your own oxygen mask on first.-- 🧡 Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit blendedfamilyfrappe.substack.com