Don't Polarize, Synthesize

In this episode Neil responds to a Dad struggling to connect with his two boys and dealing with his wife's criticism of his parenting. Dad thinks the main problem is that Mom is too lax and when he's home, the kids aren't used to following instructions. Neil realizes that both parents are experiencing parental burnout and both need support from each other, but are feeling depleted and alienated. Neil gives this Dad a way to connect in a positive way both with his wife as well as with his boys. He invites the listeners to pay attention to how they're feeling and to be cautious about writing negative stories about their spouse when they're depleted and experiencing PBO. Neil explains that the way to get the support that we want is to offer it to our spouse. That way it opens the support channel in the relationship.