DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY: How to hold space and keep your power

Saving You Is Killing Me- The Tap Back Into Your Power Resource, Support and Network!  Has someone else’s problem become your problem? Is loving someone with an addiction leaving you feeling broken, exhausted, and repeatedly disappointed?  It hurts when you love someone who drinks too much or suffers from an addiction. Life is not normal. You may feel alone, but you are not unique in your pain or dilemma. Nor are you isolated in this situation. Saving You Is Killing Me is a helpful guide to light a darkened path. Regardless of the struggle, you are in, loving someone with an addiction is emotionally, psychologically, and physically draining. You must understand that nobody deserves to suffer - you have the right to live a peaceful and fulfilled life that is full of love! You can, and you will find happiness again! Your journey starts by taking back your power and shifting the focus back onto you! With compassion and grace, a positive psychology practitioner and the author of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction, Andrea Seydel offers support by sharing her personal experiences and the knowledge she used to help navigate the wreckage of her struggle. She exposes the tremendous power of how our relationships can both hurt us and allow us to heal. Trauma is a fact of life, and navigating the turmoil from loving someone with an addiction can be extremely challenging. Saving You Is Killing Me offers new hope for reclaiming your life. Seydel offers insight and learning opportunities for self-healing, recovery, and resilience that foster an empowering way of life. For more support, information, or to share your story of strength, head over the website: https://www.andreaseydel.com/savingyouiskillingme Join us in the private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/savingyouiskillingme Grab Your Copy of the Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction Book:  Grab Your FREE Self-Care Starter Kit and Discount Code for my book HERE   IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS: _________________________________________   GRATITUDE: The upward spiral of positive emotions Saving You Is Killing Me- The Tap Back Into Your Power Resource, Support and Network!  Has someone else’s problem become your problem? Is loving someone with an addiction leaving you feeling broken, exhausted, and repeatedly disappointed?  It hurts when you love someone who drinks too much or suffers from an addiction. Life is not normal. You may feel alone, but you are not unique in your pain or dilemma. Nor are you isolated in this situation. Saving You Is Killing Me is a helpful guide to light a darkened path. Regardless of the struggle you are in, loving someone with an addiction is emotionally, psychologically, and physically draining. You must understand that nobody deserves to suffer - you have the right to live a peaceful and fulfilled life that is full of love! You can, and you will find happiness again! Your journey starts by taking back your power and shifting the focus back onto you! With compassion and grace, a positive psychology practitioner and the author of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction, Andrea Seydel offers support by sharing her personal experiences and the knowledge she used to help navigate the wreckage of her struggle. She exposes the tremendous power of how our relationships can both hurt us and allow us to heal. Trauma is a fact of life, and navigating the turmoil from loving someone with an addiction can be extremely challenging. Saving You Is Killing Me offers new hope for reclaiming your life. Seydel offers insight and learning opportunities for self-healing, recovery, and resilience that foster an empowering way of life. For more support, information, or to share your story of strength, head over the website: https://www.andreaseydel.com/savingyouiskillingme Join us in the private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/savingyouiskillingme Grab Your Copy of the Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction Book:  Grab Your FREE Self-Care Starter Kit and Discount Code for my book HERE   IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS: _________________________________________   DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY:  How to hold space and keep your power If you are a family member of someone with a substance problem, you have probably heard suggestions that include distancing yourself, using tough love, or detaching until your loved one bottoms out and decides to change. On one hand, given how awful you feel (e.g., constantly angry, tired, scared), these recommendations can make a lot of sense. On the other hand, the odds are that you really want to help your loved one. As social beings, we define who we are, in part, by and through the relationships we have. There are people with whom we get along quite well and those who may be harder to connect and communicate with, or who may give us an emotional run for our money. We are often dependent upon others for our HAPPINESS, our security (emotionally, financially, and other ways), and sometimes, our safety. We often look to others to fill our needs. When these others are supportive, encouraging, caring, and giving, we may feel fairly satisfied in our life. But when those we are attached to are judgmental and critical, or even aggressive and abusive toward us, we may find ourselves in conflict.  Taking things personally is often a byproduct of this bargain. When we take things personally we are giving certain individuals more power over us than they deserve or should ever be allowed to have.  How can you keep that confusion and fog of emotion from knocking you off your course as you try and help your loved one make changes? LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE!! HUGS Andrea