Dr. Nadine Macaluso on Trauma Bonds: How to Spot Love-Bombing, Set Boundaries, and Heal

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat happens when the “perfect” relationship is powered by control, confusion, and intermittent kindness?In this powerful conversation, Dr. Nadine Macaluso, somatic psychologist and author of Run Like Hell, breaks down trauma bonds. She explains why love-bombing feels so intoxicating at first, and how to rebuild trust in yourself after leaving a toxic dynamic. We cover red flags, green flags, co-parenting with a difficult ex, and why “boring” can actually mean safe, steady, and good.How do you recognize when love turns into control, and find the courage to walk away from a trauma bond?Escaping toxic cycles isn’t just about leaving the situation. It’s about relearning safety, trusting your own signals, and choosing peace over chaos.(00:26) Origin Story & Reinvention at Any AgeGoing back to school at 39 and finishing a doctorate at 45 proves reinvention is possible at any ageHow early exposure to feelings and psychology sparked Nadine’s pathTherapy as a lifeline when chaos became overwhelming(04:03) Love-Bombing & Early Red FlagsThe intoxicating “soulmate” language and excessive attention of love-bombingWhy mismatched words and actions are an early signal to noticeTuning into your body’s warning signs when something feels off(07:09) What a Trauma Bond Really IsTwo defining conditions: intermittent abuse and a power imbalanceHow Nadine’s Trauma Bonds Assessment and the Big Five test can offer clarityWhy it’s critical to drop self-blame and focus on prevention(11:20) Healing Timeline, Boundaries & Green FlagsWhy healing from a trauma bond takes about two yearsThe relief of “I hear you” as a sign of safetyQuick red flags to avoid: boundary-plowing, sudden rage, and chronic inconsistency(21:50) Co-Parenting, Somatic Tools & Choosing PeaceCo-parenting from authenticity instead of rebellion or people-pleasingHow to track emotions somatically—where feelings live in the bodyReframing “boring” as safe, steady, and priceless for long-term peaceThanks for the support from our partners:Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/thebigsilence and enjoy a special discount on your first month.If you have any questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are licensed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation model, check out this FAQ: https://www.betterhelp.com/your-questions-answered/Guest ResourcesVisit Dr. Nae’s WebsiteFollow her on InstagramRead her book, Run Like Hell