Dramatically Improve Your Relationships with Susie Miller

On this episode of Rhodes to Success, Jessica Rhodes interviews Susie Miller who is an author, speaker, and known internationally as the Better Relationship Coach. Susie’s goal is to help you create better relationships in thirty days or less, even if you are the only one making the effort. For more than twenty years Susie has helped people reduce stress, improve communication, increase intimacy, and have better relationships with each other, themselves, and God. Susie believes relationships are the currency of today and is the author of Listen, Learn, Love. During the show Susie discusses communication in relationships, business, and as an entrepreneur.   Main Questions Asked: <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       What are the ‘how-to’ steps of being open in your communication with staff? <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Why did you decide to write your book, Listen, Learn and Love?  <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Why are you focusing on people in business when you are talking about relationships? <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Talk about the Listen, Learn, Love skills.   Key Lessons Learned: You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home is in shambles- Zig Ziglar.   Inner Circle Communication <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Everyone needs an inner circle who they can be their raw, real selves with. This will give you a sense of security. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Different people will always fulfill communication needs roles. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Your spouse isn’t necessary the person you tell everything to. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Your husband is not your best girlfriend.   Staff Communication <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Set up expectations from the beginning of how management communication will be delivered. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Be willing to be uncomfortable and give people permission to ask the hard questions and give feedback. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Employees often don’t feel free to give feedback on communication when there is an issue. A great question to ask your staff is, “What are you not telling me?” <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Communication is difficult as it’s not just the words but also the tone and non- verbal expression.   Relationships <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Every relationship can get better quickly. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Relationships are what cause us to get up in the morning. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Our schedule is based around the people in our lives, so if those relationships are going well, then most of our lives go better. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       When relationships are successful, every aspect of your life gets better.    Entrepreneurs <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       You can be in massive action or start up mode and think of your relationships as a ‘drip’ campaign. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Set up an intentional action plan to foster relationships that will produce great rewards. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Entrepreneurs often feel they are in massive action with their business and don’t have any time for their relationships. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       There aren’t a lot of people talking about how to be successful in relationships while you are growing a business. It’s either business advice or relationship advice but not both.   Listen, Learn, Love   Listen <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       We don’t often listen but are actually busy thinking about our response or hoping that the other person will finish sharing. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       When you listen to people, make sure you clarify and validate what they are saying.   Learn <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       Know people and go on a treasure hunt to discover their dreams, struggles, and quirks. This will help you connect more deeply.   Love <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       What does it mean to love well? <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       It’s more about the short-term sacrifice for the long-term game. <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops:list .5in">-       To love well is to put the other person first.   The music in today's episode was written by The Danger Os and produced by Nick Palmer. Check them out at https://www.facebook.com/thedangerosmakemusic    Links to Resources Mentioned Listen, Learn, Love (book) Susie Miller