E 337:You Don’t Have to Fix Your Thoughts to Heal: The Power of Psychological Flexibility Guest Elisabeth Morray

What if healing is not about getting rid of painful thoughts, fixing every feeling, or becoming a completely different person?In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with Dr. Elisabeth Morray, licensed psychologist, acceptance and commitment therapy expert, and VP of Clinical at Alma.Dr. Morray introduces the concept of psychological flexibility—the ability to experience difficult thoughts, emotions, memories, and life circumstances without allowing them to control your choices, identity, or future.For adult children of dysfunction, this conversation is especially important. When you grew up adapting to chaos, people-pleasing, walking on eggshells, or trying to earn safety and love, your survival patterns may still be making decisions for you today.Together, Tammy and Dr. Morray talk about how to:Understand the six core components of psychological flexibilityStop treating every thought as truthCreate distance between “I am a failure” and “I am having the thought that I am a failure”Stay present instead of reacting from childhood survival wiringDiscover your values when you have spent your life being who everyone else needed you to beUnderstand why pain and connection often come togetherStop trying to avoid every hard feelingFind a therapist who makes you feel safe, seen, heard, and acceptedKnow when it is okay to leave a therapist who is not the right fitSet up your environment to support the life you want instead of relying only on motivation and willpowerOne of the biggest takeaways from this episode is simple but powerful:You are not your thoughts. You are the person noticing your thoughts—and you can choose what happens next.Dr. Morray also shares how Alma helps people find therapists and medication prescribers who fit their needs, identities, insurance, and preferred therapy approaches—including ACT, IFS, somatic work, trauma-informed care, and more.If you have ever felt like you have spent years in therapy but still wake up with anxiety, heaviness, or old survival patterns running the show, this episode will remind you that healing is not about never feeling pain again.It is about building the tools to move through pain without abandoning yourself.Connect with Dr. Elisabeth Morray & AlmaLinkedIn: Dr. Elisabeth Morray on LinkedInFind a therapist through AlmaInstagram: @withalmaLinkedIn: Alma on LinkedInBooks Mentioned in This EpisodeGet Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life by Steven C. HayesThe Happiness Trap by Russ HarrisHey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you.Book Your Free Clarity and Calm Call: No Judgement, just a chat https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/clarity-and-calm-callIf you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo if you want to take part in an amazing club, where you can get unlimited scans and free coaching every month, sign up here: $25 ($250 Value) Join For One Month Here https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/JQz3QDrr/checkoutIf you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TammyvincentcoachingTrials To Triumph: An Adult Child's Emotional Freedom Blueprint: Use code THRIVE25 for 75% off today. https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/DSbcgrZZ/checkoutAs an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,🔑 Start Your Healing JourneyFind ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here✈️ Bonus for Travel Lovers!Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.👉 Try the Trip Check: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/trip-check📺 Subscribe to My YouTube Channel👉 Adult Child of Dysfunction on YouTube🌟 Book Me to Speak at Your Event👉 Let’s connect: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/speakers-event-chat🫶 Let’s Connect📩 Email: [email protected]📱 Text: 513-280-3555🌟 If this episode helped you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, and hit follow. Every share helps break generational cycles and brings healing into more lives.