E13: Self-Love: A Continuous Process of Integration

There's something to be said about opening ourselves up to life and letting go of the reins. You know, meeting life and our experiences in the here and now. Easy, right? If you're like me and catch yourself holding on to expectations, you may be causing more suffering than necessary. Join me as I interview Integrational Coach, Denise Dryden, about fearlessly showing up and cultivating surprise within ourselves, life, and our relationship with others. She has extensive experience working with parents struggling to integrate new experiences into their parenting strategies, but this episode reminds us why continuous integration is important for all of our lives. How to replace disappointment with surprise How to be uncomfortable with uncertainty (or comfortable with discomfort) Why life is a "continual process of integrating" Denise Dryden's website Transformational Presence Coaching Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking (book) Aria Mae on Fearless Self-Love Podcast Grounded Here 11:49- What is integrational coaching 17:29- Four pillars of coaching: Helping to adjust goals and expectations for flexibility 20:59- Letting go of expectations : Attachments > Disappointment > Relationship Killer 22:04- Presence and why it's important: Listening with your eyes, ears, and body 24:54- How to build trust within our world/life 27:18- How to replace disappointment with surprise: Four pillars 30:55- Spiritual bypassing and how it inhibits our growth 37:09- How to be uncomfortable with uncertainty 44:29- The Yes/No tool for guidance: Tapping into and trusting our intuition 56:53- "Parenting forward": Tools for parenting with presence and curiosity "When we're adhered to an expectation or attachment, the only emotion we can have is disappointment." - Denise Dryden "This is what I want, I might not get it." - Andrea Catherine "Presence is the idea that all of us have shown up and are paying attention." - Denise Dryden "Follow the energy." - Denise Dryden "It's choice- to choose to be." - Denise Dryden "Their emergency can't always be yours." - Denise Dryden "We are constantly reacting to a checklist from outside, rather than choosing how we want to interact with it." - Denise Dryden "Sometimes obstacles are in our way to point us in the right direction." - Andrea Catherine "I can hardly wait to see what today brings." - Denise Dryden Denise Dryden is an Integrational Coach, mother, and adventurer who uses intuitive wisdom to help parents, families, and individuals restore alignment for better living within themselves and their relationships. She is passionate and experienced working with parenting, relationships, lifestyle choice, and metaphysical exploration. Visit her website at https://www.denisedrydencoaching.com for free downloads, video content, podcasts, and more.