E192: Stop Digging Up The Roots

Send us Fan MailYou know the moment: you set a boundary, send the email, start the hard conversation, then your brain demands immediate proof that it worked. You refresh the inbox, reread texts for tone, scan someone’s mood, and call it “being responsible” while your body feels anything but calm. We’re naming that pattern for what it is: digging up the roots before anything has time to grow.I share a recent coaching story that starts with an employee engagement survey and ends somewhere much deeper. The real issue is not the survey results, it is the hidden belief that we must manage other people’s feelings and protect ourselves from disappointment. From there, we break down one of the most useful distinctions in leadership development and self-trust: care versus control. Care prepares the soil by creating clarity, honesty, compassion, and safety. Control tries to force tomatoes to grow by chasing certainty and needing everyone to leave feeling a specific way.Then we shift into a cleaner, steadier way to lead: agency over responsibility. Agency keeps your focus on what you can control, your integrity, your listening, your contribution, and helps you release what was never yours to hold, like someone else’s reaction or choice. You’ll leave with a simple practice to build the muscle of trust: a 48-hour no-checking window that reduces anxiety, strengthens boundaries, and makes your leadership feel grounded.If this hits home, subscribe, share the episode with a friend who overchecks like you do, and leave a review so more people can find the path from control to self-trust.Support the showPlease rate and review with your honest opinion. Subscribe and share with your colleagues especially if you have worked with me and found value in the work we’ve done together. Connect with me in my favourite places, LinkedIn and Instagram and my website is:  https://www.cynthiajamiesoncoach.ca/Book a FREE Call to Explore CoachingMeet Me On The ArcJoin the Free CommunityJoin the Membership Make it a great week!Cynthia Jamieson 🧡🌱Leadership Coach | Creator of The Self-Trust Arc™ | Intuitive Intelligence® Guide | 🎙️ Host | Helping Leaders Lead From Self-Trust, Presence, and Truth