E21 - In My Feelings: How To Fall In Love With Taking Care Of Yourself

 Dr. Robin Henderson, Clinical Liaison for Well Being Trust and Providence St. Joseph Health joins Deya for an in-depth and open conversation about the struggles we all face to take care of ourselves.  You'll learn what self-care really is, ways to practice self-care, and the consequences if you don't practice it.  Key Takeaways:   Self Care practices come from past learned behavior:  Comes from a society where self-care in women is not a priority, women learn from a young age that "women" take of others first then self Dr. Robin -"but taking care of ourselves gives us the ability to take care of others"  What happens when your brain is overloaded? Napping and breaks needed are for better retention  We get irritable, short-tempered, say and do things we wouldn't usually do, exhausted, tired, not prepared Negative Self Talk Negative thoughts overpower positive thought  Negative self-talk - cognitive distortion- we hear 5 positive things and one negative and all focus on negativity Negativity comes from insecurity  Most have a lifetime of negativity - like bullies vs. positive interactions Self-affirmations are a vital part of blocking the negativity  Blocks out the repetition of negative self-talk- retrains brain structure How do u know if you need more support?    If negativity interferes with life, missing work, can't get out of bed, sad constantly, cant lift up, never feel worth then the issue is deeper  History of abuse and trauma usually need more like therapy - from family issues to traumatic events like tornadoes/car accident, all events add up Positivity starts within self - you have to do what makes you happy - colors, exercise, food can all be things done to create positivity within oneself and Social media affects the brain emotionally Constant comparison causes depression, breakdowns, loss of skills  PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: It's not just war; it can be child abuse, bullying, a bad relationship, accident or anything that creates a stressor . No one knows your story but you. Use experiences to grow and move on. Part of what makes you, you - gives you strength  Resilience makes the difference - bouncing back from traumatic events.   Emotional intelligence – "where I end and you begin"  Seeing a person who is acting out and thinking deeper about the cause for the action without anger and fear  Is suicide happening more now - or more talked about now? We need more healthy conversations talking about it more  Medicaid expansion - not in every state - but resources there which covers mental health - academic institutions with counseling center - churches - hospitals - clinics – are all resources  This episode was brought to you by Well Being Trust, a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation.   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems.     Don't forget to follow @SuperpowHer and @DeyaDirect on IG!   Enjoy, share, review and comment, we love to hear from you.