Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy

Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting IntimacyElana Auerbach, a sensuality guide and educator, discusses her book and “The Sure Thing” love experiment: a simple weekly pleasure practice designed to help couples replace sex struggles and performance pressure with reliable intimacy, desire, and joy.She shares her personal history of dissociation, sexual awakening, and her purpose as a “priestess of love and connection,” explaining how a 12-year desire mismatch with her spouse shifted after they committed in December 2020 to a weekly Saturday practice focused on connection rather than goals or orgasm. The conversation covers redefining sex beyond penetrative acts, addressing shame as “the elephant in the bedroom,” building the ability to ask for what you want, and how regular pleasure practices can improve relationships, family life, and community well-being. She also touches on consent, solo practice, non-monogamy as a choice, and future plans to expand the book’s reach and create audio guided visualizations.00:00 Meet Elana Auerbach00:57 Book Arrival Surprise03:05 Teen Years Awakening06:54 Calling and Priestess Path07:56 Creating Weekly Practice14:30 Why It Works19:50 Redefining Sex and Pleasure26:46 Practical How To Start29:00 Preparing and Rituals32:28 Requests and Knowing Wants34:09 Inviting Partner In34:39 Inviting Your Partner35:54 Solo Pleasure Practice36:46 Shame In The Bedroom38:37 Naming And Healing Shame42:35 When Desire Changes46:46 Ask For What You Want50:00 Pleasure Changes Everything54:38 Designing Your Sure Thing59:17 Monogamy Or Choice01:01:21 Whats Next And ClosingA special gift for listeners to the podcast:A guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire!https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-selfWebsite: https://surethingexperiment.com/FB: facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthorIG: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elana-auerbach-387875b3/