Embracing Disapproval: How to Sit with the Discomfort of Not Being Liked

This is the gentle guide for when you've decided to stop people pleasing but that uncomfortable feeling has you frozen. The moment when you realize you no longer want to do backflips for everyone's approval but you're frozen because you don't know how to handle their disappointment without immediately backtracking.Here's what's really happening when disapproval feels threatening: Early conditioning: how childhood taught us that love was conditional on good behavior and performance Social media amplification: why stranger approval online feels life-or-death important The physical response: recognizing tight chest, stomach knots, and shallow breathing as normal reactions The costs of continuing: loss of authenticity, decision paralysis, emotional exhaustion, and diminished boundaries Why successful people inevitably disappoint some people - and that's actually okay The power dynamic shift: how people get upset when they lose their ability to use you Practical strategies: body awareness, questioning assumptions, and practicing your "disapproval muscle" Diversifying approval sources instead of putting all your worth into one person's opinionFrom the person who couldn't make decisions to save their life during narcissistic abuse to recognizing that healthy relationships still involve conflict, this episode exposes why disapproval feels so threatening and gives you tools to sit with the discomfort.Because here's the truth: if someone only likes you when you're bending over backwards for them, that's not a relationship worth keeping. Your health, your peace, and your life are more important than any one person's approval.You don't need to avoid disapproval - you need to learn to survive it.Subscribe. Share. Remember that not everyone will like you anyway - and that's perfectly fine.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What does disapproval feel like in your body? DM me your experiences on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program