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You want the soft life. You're tired of hustling. I texted my friend this morning: "Girl, I wish I had one job that paid for everything." But who actually gets to have a soft life? And is it even possible for most of us right now?What we're unpacking about soft life vs hustle culture: Trad wife isn't soft life, it's unpaid labor unless you're wealthy enough to hire help for everything Who gets to opt out, successful influencers can slow down, but most of us are working multiple jobs just to make ends meet Economic reality check, gas prices, living expenses increasing, gig work most accessible, we're hustling just to afford lifeInfluencers are finally being honest that there's no such thing as work-life balance. Sometimes work demands everything, sometimes life does. You can't have a perfect 50/50 pie chart. And for most of us right now? Not having a soft life is just a fact of life. But that doesn't mean you can't work toward it, financial baseline, knowing your security number, recalibrating how you hustle.Subscribe. Share. Remember that hustling to make ends meet isn't something to be ashamed of.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Are you in your hustling era or have you found your soft life? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoWe might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call

Life becomes a waiting game. Waiting for texts, commitment, apologies, explanations. Always from someone who isn't really interested in getting back to you. So what does decentering men actually mean, and how do you do it without giving up on wanting love?What decentering men really is: Men stop being the reference point for what you do, look like, where you go, what you tolerate, and prioritize Not outsourcing your worth to male attention or treating relationships as your main source of life success Not shrinking yourself to keep someone else comfortableI also talk about why this feels louder now. Emotional burnout from being the project manager of connection. Information everywhere, we're comparing notes in real time and can't be gaslit as easily. Economic reality where relationships add stress instead of support. And what you actually reclaim: time, money, body autonomy, ambition, deeper friendships, and peace. Single isn't a consolation prize, it's your home base.Subscribe. Share. Remember that you're not behind for being single, not incomplete, and not waiting for life to start.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What are you reclaiming by decentering men? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoWe might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call

Hot girl walks. Pilates. Korean skincare. Wellness trends are everywhere, and they all promise empowerment. But when does a helpful practice stop being about your wellbeing and start being about someone else's bottom line?What we're unpacking about the wellness industrial complex: When aesthetic and gear become more important than the actual practice Paywalling basic things like hydration and movement as luxury Turning missed days into failure when systemic barriers are the real problemI also talk about how wellness trends targeting women are tied to beauty standards. Post-COVID brought thinness back as health. "Good outfit or is she just thin?" Rest is something you earn, not something healthy. Moral virtue gets attached to how "well" you perform wellness.Subscribe. Share. Remember that wellness is a relationship with yourself, not with your gear.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What wellness trend have you questioned lately? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoWe might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call

In this episode of our series 'Stories That Shape Us', my friend Priscilla and I are breaking down Tower of Dawn, the book where the action is mostly physical therapy, political dinners, and a lot of walking (well, rolling). It's one of the most divisive books in the Throne of Glass series, and we get into why.🚨 Major spoiler alert for Tower of Dawn and the entire Throne of Glass series!What we explore in Chaol's healing arc: You can't fix your body without fixing your mental health - physical injury as manifestation of emotional wounds The right person appears after inner work - couldn't show up for Nesryn but could be vulnerable with Yrene Honesty builds foundations that last - Aelin relationship built on lies, Yrene's brutal honesty created real connectionWe also talk about Nesryn's glow-up. She went from accepting a situationship to finding her roots, a supportive prince (Sartaq is perfect boyfriend energy), and saving the day on a giant eagle. Meanwhile, Chaol was down in the city learning to walk. Both needed their separate paths to grow.Subscribe. Share. Remember that sometimes the stories we think are detours are exactly where we need to be.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Are you Team Chaol or did you skip this book? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!About my bestie Priscilla: Priscilla De Lara is originally from California now living in Milan, Italy working in international education. She is a lover of food, traveling, and reading! Fun fact: Priscilla was a college radio DJ. Connect with Priscilla on TikTok @priscillainitaly💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoWe might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call

When I picked up Jillian Turecki's "It Begins with You," I kept thinking: where was this book 12 years ago? I had to learn these dating lessons the hard way - depression, CPTSD, the whole mess. Zero out of 10, do not recommend learning it that way.The book breaks down 9 hard truths about dating and relationships: The mind is a battlefield - limiting beliefs like "my type's not my type" block you from finding someone and showing up fully Knowing theory versus embodying knowledge - revisiting concepts when you're healed (not in crisis) is when they actually sink in Learn from other people's mistakes through client stories and journaling prompts instead of living through the pain yourselfI've been single for a thousand years at this point. I get hit on once every three business years. People have called me intimidating my whole life (I just have resting bitch face). And I feel behind sometimes because I rarely get to practice these relationship skills. But that's exactly why books like this matter - you can learn before you need it.Subscribe. Share. Remember that other people's hard-earned lessons can save you years of heartbreak.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Have you read "It Begins with You"? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!📚 It Begins with You by Jillian Turecki💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoWe might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call

Why is women's anger so often dismissed, suppressed, or even feared? The cool girl who doesn't get mad. The "hysterical" woman. The "spicy Latina." We're taught from childhood to be nice, polite, and agreeable - which actually means don't be angry, don't disrupt.Here's the truth about women and anger: Anger happens because we've been wronged - expressing it means accepting we're worthy of having that injustice corrected Every dismissal creates a feedback loop of "I am not worthy of better" that destroys self-esteem over time Why they fear it: freely expressing your anger makes you ungovernable, uncontrollable for someone else - and that's liberationI know this because I lived it. I suppressed anger in an abusive relationship, and it manifested as depression. Through self-forgiveness meditation, I found all the rage underneath, then had to teach myself to be angry in a healthy way again.Subscribe. Share. Remember that your anger is valid, informative, and just might change everything.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How do you honor your anger? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

The people I know who don't use social media seem lighter than the rest of us. If you can quit, do it. But for those of us who can't - because we use it for work or entertainment or both - it comes down to how we curate our feeds. Because algorithms are exploiting your vulnerabilities, and yes, you are susceptible to propaganda even if you think you're too smart for it.Here's what we're exploring about intentional feed curation: How passive consumption lets algorithms manipulate you (red pill content targeting young men influenced elections) Why everyone is susceptible to propaganda through subtle nudges and emotionally charged fragments over time Growing Pains segment: I was found crying in front of the refrigerator after consuming genocide footage daily The highlight reel problem - comparing your daily reality to everyone's curated perfection destroys self-esteem Practical curation strategies: audit accounts, mute people you know, click "not interested" ruthlessly, reframe as YOU controlling the feedFrom understanding how Facebook board members discussed aligning with far-right parties for power to recognizing that staying informed shouldn't mean consuming trauma constantly, this episode unpacks passive vs intentional consumption. You have power here - use it.Subscribe. Share. Remember that you control your feed, not the other way around.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How are you curating your feed? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - let's talk about taking control!🎧 In case you missed it:Social Media Detoxes: Spring Cleaning Your Relationship With Technology📚 Sources cited:PubMed CentralMedium The Noösphere💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

I have a friend who could live off a flip phone, just calls and texts, barely uses social media. I was so jealous. Because here I am with 10+ hours of screen time, doom scrolling in bed, clicking onto Instagram and immediately seeing buildings exploding. Sometimes I become too informed and need to dissociate for a bit.Here's what we're exploring about digital spring cleaning: How millennials remember when you had to GO to the internet (now there's no leaving it... it's everywhere) The pressure to be constantly available online and that little green bubble showing you're active Growing Pains segment: my screen time is wrecking my eyes and I once had symptoms that could've meant detached retina Why going cold turkey with social media detox usually fails (intentionality over elimination) Practical boundaries that actually work: app audits, phone-free zones, doom scroll on couch not bed, digital wellness settingsFrom understanding how being informed can become overwhelming to recognizing that our work, entertainment, and downtime all require screens now, this episode gets real about digital life. Plus actionable tips you can actually sustain instead of burning out trying to do everything at once.Subscribe. Share. Remember that you don't have to consume every crisis in real-time to be informed.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's your relationship with social media costing you? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - let's talk digital boundaries!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

Let's face it - the American Dream is bullshit now. Or maybe it always was, because it was never supposed to pertain to someone like me anyway. But here's the thing: even the people it WAS designed for can't achieve it anymore. My parents owned a home at 35. I'm celebrating not having roommates.Here's what we're exploring about redefining success: How the American Dream shifted from consumerism (1895) to social mobility (1931) to complete fantasy (2026) The housing reality: $300k in 2012 → $500k in 2022 → $900k+ in California (studios are $2,500 somebody needs jail time) Why "making it" now means no roommates and washer/dryer in-unit (what was a stepping stone is now the goal) Gen Z refusing exploitation not work: the unpaid 7am meeting story and why boundaries aren't laziness New success metrics: community, mental health, work-life balance, experiences over material possessionsFrom understanding that productivity went up while wages stayed flat to recognizing that Gen Z watched millennials burn out in Girl Boss era for nothing, this episode gets real about systemic barriers. Growing Pains segment: I'm searching for housing in LA and it's breaking me.Subscribe. Share. Remember that you're not failing - the system is broken.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's your definition of success now? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - I want to hear how this reality is affecting you!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

The early 2000s beauty standards are back: low-rise jeans, "#SkinnyTok," Ozempic ads everywhere. I get GLP-1 ads every single day. And as someone who lived through the "you must be size zero or you're fat" era, I'm having flashbacks. But here's what's shifted for me: jiu jitsu changed how I relate to my body.Here's what we're exploring about body image and martial arts: How beauty standards are ever-changing (I finally got skinny in 2014 when the standard was 2003) The shift from aesthetics to functionality - what can my body do vs how does it look Why jiu jitsu is different from gym culture (jiu jitsu hair don't care is real) Growing Pains segment: I'm still struggling with body image even as a coach The most empowering shift - appreciating what my body can do instead of just how it looksFrom understanding that women are hyper-aware of how they're perceived everywhere to discovering the freedom of being too focused on not getting choked out to care about your appearance, this episode shares my 15-year jiu jitsu journey. Plus the new 'Growing Pains' segment where I share that I'm not completely healed, I still struggle, and that's okay.Subscribe. Share. Remember that your body's worth isn't determined by shifting beauty standards.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What helped you shift your relationship with your body? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

How many of you are in your 30s rediscovering old hobbies from childhood - things you were into as a kid that now bring you so much joy again? Same here. I think this whole phenomenon is part of a healing arc so many people started in their 30s, and it's about radical self-acceptance.Here's what we're exploring about finding your true self: How we lost ourselves in our 20s (work, hustle culture, Girl Boss era exhaustion) Why your childhood self was uninhibited and freely expressed joy without shame The 30s awakening: realizing what you were doing isn't working anymore How rediscovering childhood hobbies is radical self-acceptance (not regression) Fighting hustle culture by prioritizing joy, play, and things that bring you happinessFrom understanding that as kids we didn't overthink what brought us joy to recognizing that Girl Boss culture left us drained and searching for balance, this episode celebrates the healing journey of coming back to yourself. Your inner child knew your true self all along - you just lost touch with that part of you.Subscribe. Share. Remember that your childhood interests revealed who you really are.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What childhood hobby are you rediscovering? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - I want to hear what brings you joy!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

I read a Threads post asking people to share the romantic thing they've always wanted but never had. I went from "oh that's relatable" to "this got me right in the trauma and I need to stop reading before I cry." We're all apparently just very traumatized from past relationships - and dating after romantic trauma is a mindfuck.Here's what we're exploring about love after trauma: The two paths after a toxic relationship: keep dating or pull back completely (why healing matters either way) Why healthy relationships can feel terrifying (the screaming goat is your trauma) How triggers are information from your body, not nuisances messing up your life Strategies for handling triggers in real-time (texting, dates, and reminding yourself you're safe) Why leaning on your trusted friends is essential when navigating dating againFrom understanding that everything feels triggering when someone is genuinely kind to recognizing that you don't have to respond to texts immediately when you're triggered, this episode validates how tough dating after trauma really is. Your triggers aren't there to mess things up - they're providing information about what you need (slow down, get more info, or leave).Subscribe. Share. Remember that dating after trauma is tough but not hopeless.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How are you navigating dating after trauma? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

You know that friend who's been there longer than any boyfriend? The one you joke with saying "I'll be at your wedding, but he might not be"? That's soul-deep connection - and science says it might be saving your life. This Galentine's Day, let's celebrate the power of female friendship.Here's what we're exploring about women supporting women: The science behind female friendship (oxytocin, stress response, and community-seeking) How women with close friends survive spouse loss without health decline Why "I'll be at your wedding but your boyfriend won't" isn't just a joke - it's staying power Breaking the myth that women are catty (we're each other's lifelines) Different types of friendships worth celebrating (childhood, work, mom friends, long-distance)From understanding that Galentine's Day started on Parks and Rec to discovering that female friendships create soul-deep bonds where you can be 100% yourself, this episode celebrates the relationships that might be your most important ones. Your friendships are literally protecting your health.Subscribe. Share. Remember that your female friendships might be your most profound relationships.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How are you celebrating your Galentines this year? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari and tag your ride or die!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

Everyone wants the benefits of a village, but nobody wants to be a villager. We all want community, support, and deep connections - but we're terrified to actually be vulnerable ourselves. With Valentine's Day and Galentine's Day this week, let's talk about what's really at the foundation of every meaningful relationship: emotional intimacy.Here's what we're exploring about building deeper connections: Why sharing difficult things from your past doesn't always mean you're being vulnerable The village paradox: everyone wants community benefits but nobody wants to be a villager How vulnerability is actually an act of radical self-love (not weakness) The communication pitfalls that destroy emotional intimacy without you realizing Why you need to be choosy about who you practice vulnerability withFrom understanding that emotional intimacy is the ability to share your true self and feel safe doing so, to recognizing the paradox of wanting to be there for others while not believing anyone can be there for you, this episode challenges how you think about vulnerability.Think about your best friend - that person you can call to complain, to process the same thing 20 times, to show up however you are. That's emotional intimacy. And you can have it in all your relationships.Vulnerability is scary, especially when you're unpracticed. But it's the gateway to genuine connection. And it requires you to accept something about yourself before you can share it with someone else.Subscribe. Share. Remember that vulnerability is strength, not weakness.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Who is your safe person for vulnerability? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the very first episode of 2026 - and we're starting the year by stepping into our power. If you have goals you want to reach this year, things you want to change, or you're ready for real growth, this episode is for you.Here's what we're exploring about stepping into your power: Why your definition of power might not actually be yours (and how social media messes with this) The perfectionism trap disguised as preparation - and why it keeps you stuck How to build momentum when you're paralyzed by overthinking The energy audit introverts naturally do (that everyone else should learn) Why "I don't mind being around you" is the highest compliment an introvert can giveFrom recognizing that done is better than perfect to understanding that boundaries aren't selfish, this episode breaks down exactly how to stop playing small in 2026.You can't make powerful moves without stepping into your power first. And that means defining success for yourself, taking imperfect action, and protecting your energy fiercely.If you're thinking "I want to create a powerful 2026 but I need support" - that's exactly what coaching is for. Sometimes we need accountability, clarity, and someone who sees our potential when we can't.Subscribe. Share. Remember that your power is personal. Define it, act on it, protect it.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What does stepping into your power look like for you in 2026? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is your New Year's week book episode to send off 2025 right - wrapping up the year with all the books I read, from the emotional to the adventurous to the absolutely spicy, complete with reading stats and spice levels. If you're looking for book recs to start 2026, this is it.2025 READING STATS: 27 books read (goal was 35, but last year was only 25 total!) 9,954 pages 12 days average per book Top moods: Emotional, Adventurous, Funny Top genres: Fantasy, Romance, ContemporaryMY ONLY 5-STAR READ: The Love Hypothesis by Ali Hazelwood - inhaled in under 24 hours, Adam Carlson is a certified yearner, low spice but exquisite tension4-STAR READS: Hot for Slayer by Ali Hazelwood (vampires! low spice, Buffy vibes) Deep End by Ali Hazelwood (medium spice, steamy, one triggering scene - check warnings) The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins Master of Me by Keke Palmer (audiobook win) All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks Empire of Storms by Sarah J. Maas (my book husband is in this one)HONORABLE MENTION: Knot Falling For You by Winnie Aster (3.75 stars but lives rent-free in my brain) - cozy Omegaverse, my first in the genre, perfect balance of cozy barista life and medium spice with a doting partner who only wants the best for her (life goals), when you get to the spice it's CAP LOCKS BOLD ITALICSFrom discovering that Ali Hazelwood owns my heart to realizing Omegaverse might be my new obsession, this year taught me that books give us the emotional, adventurous, and fun experiences we deserve.We deserve levity. We deserve to do shit just because it brings us joy. These books brought me joy.Subscribe. Share. Remember that reading for pleasure is valid and valuable.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Download the free 2025 reading list! Organized by genre, ratings, and spice level - includes all books through December.Join the conversation! What was your top read of 2025? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - I need recs for next year!Related Episodes: All About Love discussion, Empire of Storms Pt. 1 & 2, Heir of Fire analysis💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is your holiday special of Stories that Shape Us, because sometimes curling up with a good book discussion is exactly what you need.This is part 2 of the Empire of Storms analysis. We break down why Aelin's self-sacrifice is actually tragic, how keeping secrets is a trauma response, and why Rowan's love is the kind we all deserve.🚨 Spoiler Alert 🚨Here's what we're exploring about Aelin's journey in Empire of Storms: Secret-keeping as trauma: Aelin tells half-truths because she's afraid of disappointing people (hide the failure if you fail alone) Self-sacrifice from unworthiness: willing to burn herself out, thinking love and friendship were gifts she didn't deserve Rowan seeing all of her: flaws, destructive power, trauma - and saying "you do not face this alone" SJM characters feeling undeserving: they believe they don't deserve life and good things, so they self-sacrifice The vulnerability of love: Aelin had never let herself be that vulnerable, never felt something so consumingFrom recognizing that secret-keeping makes it look like you're not trying, to understanding that Rowan's respect for Sam shows the love Aelin deserves, this episode explores what Empire of Storms teaches about accepting you're worthy.Aelin has so much love for everyone except herself. She thinks of happiness as borrowed time. That's trauma, not strength. But Rowan doesn't just love her despite her flaws - he sees her completely and chooses to work through it together. He respects her past, her power, her struggles. That's what we all deserve.Subscribe. Share. Remember that self-sacrifice from unworthiness isn't noble - healing means accepting you deserve good things.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Are you Team Rowan or Team Lorcan? Do you relate to Aelin's self-sacrifice? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!🎧 Related Episodes: Stories that Shape Us: Empire of Storms Pt. 1💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the year-end reflection that goes beyond productivity and asks what truly mattered this year. Life isn't just work and achievements - it's the fun moments, the love you experienced, the calm quiet peace you created. This reflection includes all five guided steps with every question to help you honestly assess your year while celebrating the joy and growth that can't be measured by goal completion alone.THE 5-STEP YEAR-END REFLECTION:1️⃣ Step 1: Revisit Your Goals Look at goals from January and midyear. What changed? All progress counts - even dropped goals teach you what aligns with your values.2️⃣ Step 2: Where Are You Now? Assess progress on kept goals. What emotions come up? How can you process them healthily?3️⃣ Step 3: Be Brutally Honest What roadblocks got in your way? No shame, no guilt. Sometimes emotions derail us. We're one person - compartmentalizing isn't always possible.4️⃣ Step 4: What Supported Your Success? What helped you make progress? Inner work? Community? Accountability? Identify what actually worked.5️⃣ Step 5: The Questions That Actually Matter Beyond productivity metrics, these questions reveal what made life worth living: List 3 memories from 2025 that bring you happiness What lessons did you learn this year? What did you learn about yourself? What impact has this had? How much fun did you have this year? How could you make 2026 more fun?Being a sensitive person who feels emotions intensely isn't a flaw. Joy is resistance even when the world feels crazy. You deserve a joyous, beautiful life.If you're realizing 2026 needs to be different - more support, accountability, or joy - that awareness is your first step. Sometimes having someone in your corner makes all the difference.Subscribe. Share. Remember that life is more than productivity.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Download the free Year-End Reflection Cards through the show notes. DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari!Download the free Year-End Reflection Cards to work through all these questions at your own pace!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is why doing nothing is the most revolutionary thing you can do this holiday season - and why you desperately need to reclaim rest.Here's what we're exploring about rest as revolution: The competition problem: 43% say holiday stress interferes with enjoyment, 36% say holidays feel like competition Hustle culture invades holidays: pressure to ace it, attend everything, find perfect gifts, create Instagram moments, make it magical Why rest is revolutionary: in the US we're expected to always be productive - even rest should be "productive" - so just being is radical Practical rest practices: say no, take micro-breaks (5 min in car), create cozy rituals, digital detox (grayscale phone mode) Redefining productivity: measure success by how you feel, not by parties attended or gifts boughtFrom understanding that rest is viewed as laziness to recognizing it's actually radical self-care and boundary setting, this episode challenges you to refuse participation in toxic productivity.About half of people aren't enjoying the holidays because there's so much pressure to perform, get it right, be better than someone else. It doesn't have to be that way.Rest is resistance. When you honor what your body needs over external expectations, you model healthy behavior for others. You lead by example.Subscribe. Share. Remember that rest isn't lazy - it's revolutionary.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's your rest practice this holiday season? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - let's normalize rest!💬 LET'S CONNECT:Instagram | TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the unconventional new year prep you actually need: releasing what no longer serves you before you add anything new.Here's what we're exploring about letting go rituals: What to release: limiting beliefs, toxic relationships, old habits, grudges, past failures - things emotionally tied to your self-concept Burning ceremony ritual: write it down, safely burn it, watch it physically release (turns intangible mental stuff into tangible release) Forgiveness practice: daily meditation releasing anger toward yourself (feminine rage about other stuff can stay) Physical decluttering: releasing emotional baggage attached to items (that post-depression clean energy) Mental release: constant reminders you're not that limiting belief and you're capable of achieving great thingsFrom doing forgiveness meditation daily for months to learning that being introverted isn't something to fix, this episode challenges you to stop focusing only on what to add and start with what to release.These things literally hold you back from reaching goals and feeling joy. Think about how amazing you'll feel once you truly release them. That's what you're stopping yourself from achieving by holding on.Create space for growth, new opportunities, and positive energy by letting go first. Sometimes it's therapy or coaching. Sometimes it's a burning ceremony or decluttering your closet and facing what items represent emotionally.Subscribe. Share. Remember to release before you restart.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What are you releasing before 2025? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - let's do this together!Related Episode: Ep138 - Thankful for Growth (reframing past failures)💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the uncomfortable gratitude practice you need - being thankful for your failures, setbacks, and the hard things that shaped you.Here's what we're exploring about reframing failure: Why looking back at setbacks is difficult but necessary: avoiding them means missing powerful lessons The self-forgiveness journey: facing every moment of self-betrayal through daily meditation (gut-wrenching but fruitful) Reframing the question: instead of "why did this happen to me?" ask "what did this teach me? who did I become?" Growth Inventory exercise: identify three past failures and find at least one skill/insight gained from each Healing holds deeper lessons: sometimes what you learn from the recovery process matters more than the experience itselfFrom doing self-forgiveness meditation daily during depression recovery to recognizing there are reasons you're where you are (many out of your control), this episode challenges you to expand your gratitude practice beyond the good stuff.Nobody loves looking at failures. We'd rather focus on successes and achievements. But when we avoid examining setbacks, we miss out on lessons about resilience, redirection, and what we truly value.Be thankful for the challenges that made you stronger, the losses that taught you what matters, the failures that redirected you toward your purpose. Appreciate how far you've come.Subscribe. Share. Remember that gratitude can include the hard things that shaped who you are.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's one failure you're actually grateful for? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari - I want to hear about your growth!💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is why being single in your 30s isn't the problem everyone makes it out to be - and why it might actually be the best thing for you right now.Here's what we're exploring about being single in your 30s: Why acceptance doesn't mean settling: you can embrace where you are without loving it forever The confidence factor: you're finally secure enough to show up fully yourself in every area of life Knowing what you want: you're not exploring anymore - you know what works and what doesn't (weeding out bad matches is growth) Better communication skills: you can articulate what you want, assess emotions, and relay them effectively Intentional vs serious dating: you can want a relationship and still have fun without treating dating like a grave problem to fixFrom seeing everyone struggle to find someone to understanding that failed dates aren't failures when you know yourself well enough to recognize bad matches, this episode reframes what it means to be single in your 30s.A lot of us have healed from people pleasing. We communicate like badasses. We're confident and secure. Dating in your 30s means you're not wasting time on situations that won't work. That's not picky - that's powerful.The intention is to get to know somebody, have fun, and see who fits. If they don't fit, move on to the next person. Stop making it so serious.Subscribe. Share. Remember that being single in your 30s allows you to date with intention and exit romantic situations gracefully.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Are you single in your 30s? DM me your experiences on Instagram @YourCoachMari - girl, you got this!💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is why reading romance novels isn't just fun - it's actually healing work, especially when you're traumatized and scared to date again.Here's what we're exploring about romance novels and healing: What romance actually is: central love story with satisfying ending - not porn despite misogynistic claims Why the writing is phenomenal: making readers feel emotions deeply takes serious skill How romance raises standards: seeing what's possible in relationships makes you want better for yourself The safe space factor: experiencing love, dating, sex in controlled environments when real dating feels terrifying Teaching your body safety: feeling emotions through predictable tropes trains your nervous system that these feelings are safeFrom discovering paranormal romance and romantasy to understanding that predictability isn't boring when you're healing from trauma, this episode defends the genre that helps us feel safe exploring romance again.A lot of us have been burned in love. Dating feels daunting as fuck. But we still want connection, and romance novels provide safety to explore those feelings. You're feeling emotions, giggling, falling in love - and learning these feelings are safe. That's healing.Subscribe. Share. Remember that raised standards are exactly what romance novels should give you.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's your favorite romance trope? Drop your fated mates recs in my DMs on Instagram @YourCoachMari!Get the Book: 📖 "Audiophile" by Emerie Hart - Get the book here🎧 Related Episode: Romance and Healing - This is the book lover's guide to understanding why solo healing has limits and connection is essential for deeper growth.💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the deeply personal story of why my dog Mochi isn't just a pet - he's the reason I'm still here. The moment when getting an emotional support animal at the height of my depression became the best decision I've ever made in my entire life.Here's what we're exploring about emotional support animals and mental health: What ESAs actually are: animals that provide therapeutic benefit through presence (not service animals), requiring documentation from a licensed mental health professional The University of Toledo study: statistically significant decreases in depression, anxiety, and loneliness in participants paired with shelter animals How they help beyond companionship: consistent comfort, intuitive response during crisis, physical touch combating touch-deprivation, and reducing isolation The Mochi effect: from horrible days with mood in the trash to perfect moments when he curls up next to me - his presence makes everything okay again The reality: ESAs are expensive (Mochi's spinal stroke cost thousands) and require serious responsibility and proper careFrom literally getting Mochi at the deepest point of my depression to understanding that pets somehow sense when you need them (backed by research), this episode breaks down why ESAs are more than just cute animals - they're legitimate therapeutic support.Because here's what matters: in a world where isolation and loneliness are epidemic, having an ESA can genuinely save your mental health. I wouldn't be where I am today without Mochi, and that's just facts.I can be having the absolute worst day - everything feeling wrong - and Mochi will just curl up next to me. And suddenly? Life feels okay again. That's not just my story. That's documented science.Subscribe. Share. Remember that if you're considering an ESA, make sure you can provide proper care - but if you can, it might just change your life.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Does your pet help your mental health? DM me your ESA stories on Instagram @YourCoachMari - I'd love to hear about your companions!If you want to dig deeper into the science behind what I'm sharing, check out: Emotional Support Animals: The Basics Study Finds First Scientific Evidence The power of support from companion animals for people living with mental health problems💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

What if pausing for 30 seconds to notice sunlight through tree leaves could improve your mental health?I've always found beauty in small things—a perfect coffee, golden hour light, watching my dog Mochi exist in his adorable glory. Turns out, these moments of appreciation are powerful acts of gratitude that reshape our brains.Here's what we're exploring about gratitude and daily happiness: The neuroscience: Gratitude activates the medial prefrontal cortex and anterior cingulate cortex - the parts of your brain associated with empathy and pro-social behavior (serotonin is the key player) Rewriting negativity bias: We all have it (I'm right there with you), but gratitude practice can help shift our mindset to see more positive things - though it takes consistent practice Health benefits beyond mental wellness: Reduces depression, lessens anxiety, relieves stress, improves sleep, and even supports heart health Six stupid-simple practices: Morning gratitude ritual, gratitude journal, gratitude jar, expressing appreciation to others, evening reflection, or just pausing to appreciate beautiful moments Avoiding toxic positivity: Having gratitude doesn't mean ignoring real struggles - you can acknowledge life is hard AND find moments of beauty (both are true)From realizing that being "too busy" often means we're not pausing to appreciate what we've created in our lives, to understanding that you can find beauty everywhere if you're paying attention (even in rinky-dink neighborhoods with gorgeous graffiti art), this episode breaks down why gratitude is a muscle that gets stronger with practice.Because here's what matters: gratitude doesn't require a perfect routine or complicated system. It just requires creating space to pause and appreciate the world around you.Pick ONE habit this week and commit to it daily - whether it's listing three things you're grateful for in the morning, keeping a gratitude jar, or simply pausing when you notice something beautiful.Subscribe. Share. Remember that you don't need a perfect routine, you just need to create space to pause and appreciate.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's one beautiful thing you noticed today that made you pause? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari and share your moment of gratitude!If you want to dig deeper into the science behind what I'm sharing, check out: Gratitude and Neuroscience Health benefits of gratitude💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the science-backed case for why creativity isn't just a hobby - it's essential for building confidence and self-esteem. Have you ever felt better about yourself after creating something? There's actually research explaining why that happens.Here's what we're exploring about creativity and confidence: The science: Children who engaged in creative activities daily had significantly higher self-esteem - and ability level didn't matter (consistency is key) Why creativity works: It provides safe emotional processing, judgment-free self-exploration, and that sense of accomplishment we're missing from the endless hamster wheel of life Real examples: From my two high school choirs to using poetry as a teenager to process emotions to Ariana Grande using music to heal from trauma Five practical tips: Establish regular creative practice, celebrate small wins, join creative communities, use creativity as self-care, try different mediums The challenge: Commit to ONE creative thing this week - write, sing, paint, knit, color, dance - and notice how you feel afterwardFrom realizing that high achievers never celebrate wins because goalposts keep moving, to understanding that art isn't about being "good" (it's about process and completion), this episode breaks down why creativity fosters confidence through agency, voice, and accomplishment.Because here's what the research shows: having high but realistic self-esteem is essential to good mental health. And creative expression is one of the most effective tools for building it - whether you're naturally talented or not.Maybe you need to process some experiences or emotions. Maybe you're stuck on that achievement hamster wheel never feeling accomplished. Whatever it is, try turning to art form this week.Subscribe. Share. Remember that creativity isn't about perfection, it's about expression and the confidence that comes from completing something meaningful.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's your creative outlet? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari and let's celebrate your creative practice together!If you want to dig deeper into the science behind what I'm sharing, check out: Healthline: Self-Esteem Arts engagement and self-esteem in children The Power of Creativity in Boosting Mental Health and Self-Esteem

This is the honest preparation guide for what actually happens when you set boundaries with family. With the holiday season approaching, it's time to talk about the outcomes nobody warns you about, including the most painful one: sometimes they just leave.Here's what to expect when you set family boundaries: Best case: They accept the boundary and adjust their behavior (yes, this can actually happen - you know your family best) The offense: They take it personally, want to argue, and get defensive no matter how you word it (have an exit strategy ready) The manipulation: They shift blame and make it your fault they crossed the line (don't fall for it) The abandonment: They exit your life entirely, which nobody expects because "that's what family does - they stick around, right?" (not always) The painful truth: Sometimes people were only around because they liked taking advantage of your people-pleasing waysFrom decades of history and unspoken "don't rock the boat" cultural norms to realizing that boundaries are meant to deepen relationships (not push people away), this episode prepares you emotionally for what might happen when you finally set that boundary.Because here's what you need to know: if someone's response to you wanting a healthier, more loving, more respectful relationship is to leave, then maybe that's exactly where they need to go out the door. It's painful, but accepting that reality is part of healing.You know your family best. You might already have an inkling about who will respond which way. Use that knowledge to prepare yourself emotionally and practice what you'll say.Subscribe. Share. Remember that setting boundaries doesn't make you the bad guy - it makes you someone who values healthy relationships.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Are you setting boundaries with family this holiday season? DM me your experiences on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the grounding conversation we all need when survival mode becomes daily life. The moment when ICE notifications pop up two miles from home and you're left asking: is this paranoia or just what we need to survive?Here's what we're unpacking with Cynthia Magaña, the Chicana Therapist: Understanding "shock and awe" as a military tactic designed to create trauma responses - and why our reactions are normal responses to abnormal events How collective trauma affects us all, even when we're not directly targeted, and why metabolizing anger productively matters more than performing online Finding your role in social change beyond frontline protest (organizers, healers, caregivers, bridge-builders) and asking "who am I keeping safe?" Concrete safety planning: emergency contacts, ICE tracking apps, five-minute family check-ins, and creating parameters that actually work Navigating family with different ideologies during crisis - from opposing Tíos at holidays to that adult "rite of passage" of standing up to eldersFrom getting Ring notifications about ICE trucks nearby to recognizing we don't heal in isolation, this conversation provides psychological frameworks and practical tools for surviving state violence while protecting your mental health.Because here's what Cynthia knows as a therapist: Our bodies respond to keep us safe through fight/flight/freeze/fawn. The key is pausing to metabolize information before reacting, understanding that virtue signaling has real consequences for those without certain privileges, and remembering that showing up for community means decompression gatherings and chosen family too.Guest: Cynthia Magaña. A queer, Latinx clinical social worker specializing in culturally affirming, trauma-informed care for first-generation professionals and cycle breakers healing intergenerational wounds. She's also a yoga teacher and sound bath practitioner who believes healing happens in community, not isolation. Find her @chicanatherapist on Instagram or visit cynmagana.com. Listen to Cynthia's Healing Playlist in Spotify.Subscribe. Share. Remember that we don't go through this alone - community care is how we survive.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How are you staying grounded right now? DM me your stories on Instagram @YourCoachMari🎧 Related Episode: How All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks Predicts Today's Social Issues - Bell Hooks predicted our current loneliness epidemic, reminding us that healing happens in community, not isolation.💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the vulnerable exploration of why others can see your gifts before you can. The moment when you realize you've been your own worst enemy, ignoring clear signs of your capabilities while others saw them all along.Here's what we're unpacking about believing in your potential: Why others recognize your potential while you're stuck in self-doubt (and how imposter syndrome hits first-gen individuals hardest) Root causes of not seeing your potential: lack of skill, experience, knowledge, or confidence How lacking confidence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps you proving yourself wrong Getting to the root of your specific problem instead of generic "build confidence" advice Finding community over hunting for the perfect mentor + delineating your next two concrete stepsFrom the poetry professor who said "don't stop writing" to 15 years of ignoring that wisdom, this episode explores why we prove ourselves wrong when we could be proving ourselves right.Because here's the painful truth: when you don't believe in your potential, you don't take the actions needed to reach it, creating the exact outcome you feared. But when you identify the real barriers - whether it's knowledge, experience, or confidence - you can actually address them.Your imposter syndrome is lying to you. You are incredibly intelligent, skilled, and competent. The only way to get experience is to start doing the thing, even when you don't feel ready.Subscribe. Share. Remember that someone else already sees what you're capable of - now it's time for you to see it too.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Have you ever had someone see potential in you that you couldn't see? DM me your stories on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the poetry celebration that validates our dual identity and mental health struggles. The moment when you find books that perfectly capture being "bad Mexican, bad American" and realize you're not alone in navigating multiple cultural spaces.Here's what we're highlighting for Latine Heritage Month:"Bad Mexican, Bad American" by Jose Hernandez Diaz Slice-of-life poetry exploring dual cultural identity through vignettes Perfect for anyone with "one foot in one culture, one foot in another" Addresses the "pocho" experience and language struggles Set in Los Angeles, captures Mexican-American experience authentically Shows how you're Mexican in America, American in Mexico - never fully fitting either space"Living in Phases" by Leisly Ann Roman Dominican-American poet writing entire collection on mental health journey Crucial representation for Latine community where mental health is stigmatized Shows mental health as "fluctuating, moving, bending thing" - not linear progression Begins and ends with poems for her parents, connecting healing to family roots Incorporates Spanglish and cultural identity throughout mental health narrativeBoth poets create work that reflects our experiences as children of immigrants, validating feelings of cultural displacement while celebrating the beauty of our dual identities. These collections provide representation we desperately need.Get the Books: 📖 "Bad Mexican, Bad American" by Jose Hernandez Diaz 📖 "Living in Phases" by Leisly Ann Roman🎧 Related Episode: The Power and Beauty of Spanglish - Because here's what these poets understand: being Chicana feels like "the one identity that really feels whole" when everything else leaves you straddling two worlds. Poetry helps us process these complex cultural experiences and find home in our authentic selves.Subscribe. Share. Remember that our voices and experiences deserve to be celebrated in literature.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What Latino poets are on your reading list? DM me your recommendations on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching

This is the linguistic celebration that reclaims the power and beauty of how we actually speak. The moment when you realize that Spanglish isn't "broken" language - it's a sophisticated cultural dialect that deserves respect and celebration.Here's what we're diving into for Latine Heritage Month: Defining Spanglish: the linguistic phenomenon of mixing English and Spanish to create its own legitimate dialect Code-switching as a superpower: expertly navigating between two cultural and linguistic identities Chicano identity: decentering the Anglo-American worldview through language and culture How immigrant communities create language: why Spanglish comes from us, the children of immigrants The complexity beyond substitution: how words convey better meaning and nuance in different languages Chicano English as a fully formed dialect: "barely" meaning "just now" and other linguistic features The power dynamics of language: who decides what's "proper" versus what's a "dialect" Why linguistic shame is about control, not correctnessFrom growing up speaking three languages simultaneously (Spanglish, Chicano English, and English) to understanding that being told your natural speech is "wrong" is actually about power dynamics, this episode celebrates the sophisticated linguistic abilities of bilingual communities.Because here's what I need you to know: Spanglish is beautiful. Chicano English is beautiful. Code-switching makes you a fucking badass. Don't ever let anyone talk down to you for how you naturally express yourself.We created this dialect because we navigate two worlds, and our language reflects the complexity and richness of that experience. It's not a lack of proficiency - it's cultural artistry.Sources: PBS: Chicano English Mitu: Chicano English Dialect UC Davis: Spanglish Research LA Times: Chicano Identity YouTube: Language AnalysisSubscribe. Share. Remember that your linguistic heritage is something to celebrate, not hide.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What's your favorite Spanglish phrase or code-switching moment? DM me your linguistic pride stories on Instagram @YourCoachMari.💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the character development deep dive that shows how love calls us into becoming who we're meant to be. The moment when you realize that fictional transformations mirror our own healing journeys and teach us profound truths about breaking free from toxic conditioning.Here's what Empire of Storms teaches us about growth and purpose: Character redemption isn't about becoming someone new - it's about discovering the heart you always had How toxic family conditioning can make us believe we're heartless when we've been showing compassion all along The power of having people see your potential before you recognize it yourself (the 13 saw Manon's heart first) Breaking free from manipulation requires recognizing that cruelty isn't strength - it's learned behavior Ruthlessness as a survival tool versus ruthlessness as your entire identity How love and connection call us into our authentic selves (Manon with Dorian, Elide with Lorcan) The difference between fantasy romance intensity and actual emotional safety in relationships Why some character arcs feel more satisfying than others (earned growth versus told growth)From Manon's transformation from "evil" witch to beloved character showing us how to reclaim our authentic selves, to Elide and Lorcan demonstrating what emotional care looks like in relationships, this episode explores how the best fantasy mirrors real psychological growth.Major spoiler alert: We discuss plot points from Empire of Storms and reference the entire Throne of Glass series.Content note: This episode includes discussion of adult themes and fantasy violence.Get the Book: 📖 Empire of Storms by Sarah J. MaasBecause here's what we learned: the characters who resonate most deeply are those whose growth reflects our own journey of breaking cycles, healing from conditioning, and being called into purpose through love and authentic connection.This is part one of our Empire of Storms analysis - part two coming next month!About my bestie Priscilla:Priscilla De Lara is originally from California now living in Milan, Italy working in international education. She is a lover of food, traveling, and reading! Fun fact: Priscilla was a college radio DJ.Connect with Priscilla on TikTok @priscillainitalySubscribe. Share. Remember that character development mirrors personal development.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Which fictional character's transformation has taught you the most about your own healing journey? DM me your insights on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call

This is the book lover's guide to understanding why solo healing has limits and connection is essential for deeper growth. The moment when you realize that fiction isn't just entertainment - it's medicine that shows us what healthy healing relationships actually look like.Content note: This episode discusses themes of trauma and healing. The book contains content warnings for depression, stalking, sexual assault, forced pregnancy, miscarriage, and infant loss.Here's what "Audiophile" by Emerie Hart teaches us about healing through connection: People pleasing is a learned behavior - through modeling (watching parents handle conflict), direct teaching ("don't make waves," "what will people think?"), and emotional reinforcement (conditional love based on good behavior) Trauma manifests similarly: isolation, pushing people away, avoidance, escapism, hopelessness about dreams and improvement How two hurt people can create healing space for each other without waiting to be "perfect" first What healthy partnership looks like: encouraging without pushing, respecting boundaries, enthusiastic consent, seeing each other as whole people Reed helps Petra come back to life by showing her windows of possibility and respecting her healing pace Petra helps Reed trust again by seeing him as a person (not just his persona) and consistently respecting his boundaries The beautiful truth that we are meant to heal in community, not isolation - there's a limit to solo healingFrom characters who moved back home and gave up on dreams to those running from abusers with strict rules to keep everyone away, this book shows how genuine interest, boundary respect, and creating space for authentic expression can transform lives.Because here's what I'm convinced of: we cannot fully heal without connection to others. We can heal to a certain extent by ourselves, but eventually we need relationships that call us into deeper growth. Fiction shows us templates for what that looks like.Get the Book: 📖 "Audiophile" by Emerie Hart - Get the book hereSubscribe. Share. Remember that stories have the power to teach us about real healing.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What fiction book taught you something profound about healing or relationships? DM me your book recommendations on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the hard truth about how your healing journey doesn't just change your life - it rewrites your family's entire story. The moment when you realize that the validation-seeking patterns causing you pain right now are the same ones you might be unconsciously teaching the next generation.Here's what's really happening with intergenerational people pleasing: People pleasing is learned behavior - through modeling (watching parents handle conflict), direct teaching ("don't make waves," "what will people think?"), and emotional reinforcement (conditional love based on good behavior) Children absorb relationship templates from what they observe, creating emotional inheritance that intensifies with each generation Identity formation struggles when kids are constantly told to put others first instead of developing a strong sense of self Ineffective decision-making patterns where major life choices get deferred to others instead of considering your own needs The ripple effect: how your healing work impacts not just you but generations to come Practical strategies: modeling healthy boundaries, validating authentic expression even when inconvenient, normalizing disagreement, and making repair visible The beautiful truth that when you break these patterns, you create a completely different legacyFrom buying my dog a $150 ice blanket while I don't have one (learned from watching my mom always put our needs first) to recognizing how cultural messages like "quieter equals prettier" shaped generations of women, this episode exposes how family patterns repeat until someone decides to break the cycle.Because here's what I know: you can't model healthy behavior without embodying it yourself. But when you do the inner work to heal your own relationship with validation, the ramifications are wonderful and lasting.The work you're doing today doesn't just benefit you - it benefits the children you may have, their children, and so many generations to come.🎧 Related Episode: Embracing Disapproval - This is the gentle guide for when you've decided to stop people pleasing but that uncomfortable feeling has you frozen.Subscribe. Share. Remember that breaking generational patterns starts with your own healing.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What people pleasing patterns do you see in your family across generations? DM me your reflections on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the gentle guide for when you've decided to stop people pleasing but that uncomfortable feeling has you frozen. The moment when you realize you no longer want to do backflips for everyone's approval but you're frozen because you don't know how to handle their disappointment without immediately backtracking.Here's what's really happening when disapproval feels threatening: Early conditioning: how childhood taught us that love was conditional on good behavior and performance Social media amplification: why stranger approval online feels life-or-death important The physical response: recognizing tight chest, stomach knots, and shallow breathing as normal reactions The costs of continuing: loss of authenticity, decision paralysis, emotional exhaustion, and diminished boundaries Why successful people inevitably disappoint some people - and that's actually okay The power dynamic shift: how people get upset when they lose their ability to use you Practical strategies: body awareness, questioning assumptions, and practicing your "disapproval muscle" Diversifying approval sources instead of putting all your worth into one person's opinionFrom the person who couldn't make decisions to save their life during narcissistic abuse to recognizing that healthy relationships still involve conflict, this episode exposes why disapproval feels so threatening and gives you tools to sit with the discomfort.Because here's the truth: if someone only likes you when you're bending over backwards for them, that's not a relationship worth keeping. Your health, your peace, and your life are more important than any one person's approval.You don't need to avoid disapproval - you need to learn to survive it.Subscribe. Share. Remember that not everyone will like you anyway - and that's perfectly fine.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! What does disapproval feel like in your body? DM me your experiences on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the identity wake-up call that shows you exactly how people pleasing is erasing who you really are. The moment when you stop thinking shape-shifting to fit in is harmless and start understanding how the chameleon effect is slowly making you unrecognizable to yourself.Here's the real cost of being a social chameleon: Opinion shifting: how being agreeable erodes your actual beliefs until you don't know what you really think Decision paralysis: why you can't make choices without consulting others first (because you need to know what's "acceptable") The exhaustion effect: feeling drained after social interactions from constant self-monitoring and performance Identity fragmentation: becoming a different person with different groups until you lose track of who's real Validation addiction: that dopamine hit when your performance gets accepted by the in-group Relationship emptiness: why connections built on personas feel hollow even when you're surrounded by people How to reclaim your authentic self through small moments of genuine expressionFrom picking up accents while traveling (harmless) to twisting your values to meet others' expectations (identity-erasing), this episode exposes the difference between natural social mirroring and destructive shape-shifting.Because here's the truth: when you build relationships based on performance instead of authenticity, you'll always feel like there's a metaphorical film between you and everyone else.The people who love the real you are worth the temporary anxiety of potential disapproval.Subscribe. Share. Remember that your authentic self is worth keeping - flaws and all.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! Do you feel like a different person with different groups? DM me your stories on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the people-pleasing wake-up call that shows you exactly what saying yes is actually costing you. The moment when you stop thinking "just because I don't have plans doesn't mean I'm available" is just a nice idea and start understanding the real personal, professional, and emotional prices you pay when you can't say no.Here's what nobody talks about when it comes to people pleasing: The personal cost: time bankruptcy, physical exhaustion, and identity dilution from constantly prioritizing others The professional cost: diminished work quality, reputation damage, and career stagnation from overcommitment The emotional cost: resentment, validation addiction, and the depression that comes from living in an authenticity gap Why saying no to others is actually saying yes to yourself and your priorities Practical strategies: the pause technique, value alignment checks, and graceful ways to say no How to reframe boundaries as necessary, not selfishFrom the client whose people-pleasing contributed to depressive episodes to women who become their boyfriend's manager instead of pursuing their own careers, this episode exposes the hidden costs that no one talks about.Because here's the truth: every time you betray yourself by saying yes when you want to say no, you're not just giving away time - you're giving away pieces of your life.No is a complete sentence, but yes to yourself is a complete life.🎧 Related Episode: Why Your Friend Group is Shrinking: The Burnout and Relationship Connection - Here's what nobody talks about when it comes to burnout - it's why your relationships suffer too. Three strategies for staying connected when you're barely surviving. Subscribe. Share. Remember that boundaries aren't selfish - they're necessary for sustainable relationships.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! 🌱Join the conversation! What's the hidden cost of saying yes that you've experienced? DM me your stories on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the self-love reality check for anyone who thinks it's "cliche" to talk about. The moment when you stop believing that harsh self-criticism equals motivation and start understanding why loving yourself is actually the hardest work you'll ever do. In this episode, I break down exactly why self-love feels impossible and give you practical tools to build self-compassion from the ground up.We're getting real about: Why cultural conditioning taught us that being hard on ourselves equals progress How our brains are literally wired for negativity after years of self-criticism The perfectionism trap that makes you believe worthiness must be earned through achievement Why comparison culture and fear of complacency keep you stuck in self-attack mode The discomfort with positive feelings that makes you push away joy My practical strategies: self-compassion pause, reframing techniques, boundary setting, and mindfulness practices How to implement these tools into morning and evening routines that actually stickFrom writing affirmations on bathroom mirrors to asking "would I let someone talk to my friend this way?" - this episode covers the daily practices that slowly rewire decades of negative self-talk.Because here's the truth: if you've been practicing negativity for years, your brain has gotten really good at it. But you can train it to be just as good at self-compassion.Self-love isn't selfish - it's necessary.Subscribe. Share. Challenge yourself to respond to your inner critic like you would defend a friend. You deserve that protection too.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How has your inner critic been showing up lately? DM me your experiences on Instagram @YourCoachMari.💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the burnout reality check that explains why your relationships are suffering. The moment when you stop wondering why you can't show up for friends and start understanding how exhaustion actually works. In this episode, I break down the real connection between burnout and relationship breakdown - plus three practical ways to maintain connections when you're running on empty.We're getting real about: Why burnout isn't just work stress (it's parenting, activism, economic hardship, and political chaos too) The signs you're burned out: exhaustion, irritability, apathy, and hopelessness How we're one system - you can't leave work stress at work Why your friend group keeps shrinking (hint: it might be burnout) The "three business months" response time we all joke about but actually experience How relationships provide the support, joy, and levity you desperately need right now And my three effective strategies for maintaining connections when you barely have energy to surviveI share my own burnout story from last year - how a minor podcast issue had me in tears because I was so maxed out, and share practical ways relationships actually support recovery - from emotional support to community financial help.This isn't about forcing yourself to be social when you're depleted. This is about strategic connection that actually helps your recovery instead of draining you further.Connection is the antidote to burnout.Subscribe. Share. Show up for your people even when you don't feel like it. They need you and you need them.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Join the conversation! How has burnout affected your relationships? DM me your experiences on Instagram @YourCoachMari.💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the judgment-free midyear check-in you actually need. The moment when you stop beating yourself up about unmet goals and start making strategic moves for the rest of 2025. In this episode, I break down exactly how to assess your progress without the judgment and give you permission to pivot like the evolved human you are.We're covering all the good stuff: The judgment-free goal assessment that actually helps (no shame, just facts) Why I'm 40% through my reading goal when we're 50% through the year (and why that's actually fine) How to identify your real roadblocks vs the stories you tell yourself The sunk cost fallacy trap that keeps you stuck in goals that no longer serve you Why some goals deserve to be dropped and others just need better strategies The art of recalibrating timelines without calling yourself a failure And the radical permission to let priorities shift as you growThis isn't about forcing yourself to stick with January's version of success. This is about honoring where you are now, working with your reality instead of against it, and making the second half of 2025 actually work for you.Your goals should evolve as you do. Full stop.Subscribe. Share. Give yourself permission to pivot. Growth isn't linear.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! 🌱Join the conversation! How are your 2025 goals going? What's working and what needs to shift? DM me your midyear reflections on Instagram @YourCoachMari💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is your pocket guide to healing in 2025. As we move through this year, I wanted to share some of the most powerful healing insights from our conversations this past year.Think of this as your roadmap for putting yourself first when everything feels overwhelming.In this special compilation episode, I'm pulling together the wisdom that's transformed my clients' lives and will transform yours too.We're covering all the good stuff: Why asking for help is actually the strongest thing you can do The one-thing-at-a-time approach that prevents burnout and overwhelm How to build habits that actually stick (without the all-or-nothing mentality) Simple ways to nourish your soul when you're running on empty Why movement is medicine for breaking negative thought cycles How to protect your energy on social media without feeling guilty The self-care you're already doing (but not giving yourself credit for)This isn't just a tips episode. This is a love letter to every woman who's tired of people-pleasing, exhausted from putting everyone else first, and ready to remember that small steps create the biggest changes. These insights came from my lowest moments and biggest breakthroughs - the real stuff that actually works when you're struggling.If you're feeling overwhelmed by self-improvement culture or think healing has to be this huge dramatic thing, this episode will shift everything for you.Subscribe. Share. Take one small step today. Your healing matters.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the friendship reality check every woman needs to hear. The moment when you stop taking friendship changes personally and start understanding the beautiful evolution that happens when life shifts. In this conversation, Mitzy Diaz and I break down the truth about how motherhood transforms friendships – and why that's not always a bad thing.We're covering all the good stuff: Why becoming a mom during COVID created the perfect storm for friendship challenges How postpartum depression complicated communication in ways no one talks about The difference between friendships with strong foundations and those built on convenience Why some friends will consistently invite you despite schedule changes (and others won't) How to navigate the guilt of not being the "available" friend anymore The wisdom in accepting that some friendships serve specific seasons of life And the beautiful examples of friends who love you through every life transitionThis isn't about mourning lost friendships. This is about recognizing which relationships have the foundation to grow stronger, learning to communicate your needs without shame, and understanding that priorities shifting doesn't mean love decreasing.Mitzy's vulnerability about struggling as an introvert new mom while dealing with friendship changes will validate every feeling you've had about this transition.Meet Mitzy: Maritza Alarcon Diaz is a 35-year-old Latina living in Southern California. She is a mom, wife, traveler, and a professional in the tech industry. While her favorite role is being a mother, her journey to motherhood wasn't easy. To share her experiences, she launched her blog, MitzyDays.com, which focuses on lifestyle, travel, mental health, and motherhood.Connect with Mitzy:WebsiteInstagramTikTokYouTube BlogSubscribe. Share. Choose friendships that choose you back. You deserve relationships that evolve with you.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the book that will shatter everything you thought you knew about love. The moment when a 160-page book from 1999 becomes your roadmap for understanding why dating feels impossible and society feels broken in 2025. In this soul-stirring episode, I break down bell hooks' prophetic "All About Love" and show you how her warnings became our reality.We're covering all the good stuff: Why hooks predicted today's dating app hellscape with terrifying accuracy The real definition of love (spoiler: it's not just feelings) How patriarchy created the toxic dynamic where women give love and men take it Why the loneliness epidemic is actually a "lovelessness epidemic" What "soul murder" means and how it explains online cruelty Why "focus only on yourself" wellness culture is missing the point And how community healing trumps individual healing every single timeThis isn't just a book review. This is a mirror for everything broken in our society and a blueprint for healing it. hooks was observing in the 90s what we're living through now – the cynicism, the fear of emotional investment, the epidemic of people seeking intimacy without risk.Reading this book healed something in me, and I know it will for you too.Subscribe. Share. Choose love over lovelessness. The world depends on it.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨Book referenced in this episode: All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the long-distance friendship survival guide you desperately needed. The moment when you stop letting miles dictate the depth of your connections and start building bonds that transcend geography. In this heartfelt episode, I share the exact strategies that have kept my closest friendships alive across oceans, time zones, and life changes.We're covering all the good stuff: Why long-distance friendships are more common than ever (and why that's actually beautiful) The real challenges beyond just missing coffee dates – emotional distance, time zones, and feeling one step behind My multi-platform communication strategy that keeps connections alive without pressure How to stay emotionally invested when you can't just show up with wine and a hug The vulnerable conversations about money that actually strengthen your bond Creative ways to hang out virtually that don't feel forced or awkward And why that misconception about distance dooming friendships is complete BSThis isn't about settling for less meaningful connections because of miles. This is about proving that love transcends geography when you're willing to show up consistently, vulnerably, and creatively. Every strategy comes from my real experience maintaining deep friendships across continents.Your people are your people, no matter where they live.Subscribe. Share. Show up. Distance is just a number.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the friendship roadmap you've been desperately searching for. The moment when you stop scrolling through social media feeling lonely and start building the community you deserve. In this soul-shifting episode, I break down the harsh truth about adult friendship and give you the exact blueprint to create meaningful connections that actually last.Let's break down: Why American individualism has made us lonelier than ever (and it's not your fault) The simple group activity strategy that transforms strangers into genuine friends How to master the follow-up without overthinking every text message Why consistency trumps chemistry when it comes to building lasting bonds The power of third spaces and why your gym might not be the answer And the mindset shifts that turn awkward small talk into authentic connectionThis isn't just another "put yourself out there" pep talk. This is a practical system for creating the friendships that will support you through life's highs and lows. Every strategy I share comes from real experience – both my own journey and what I've seen work for my clients.Stop accepting loneliness as inevitable. Your people are out there waiting to meet you.Subscribe. Share. Show up. Your future friendships depend on it.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨** Recording note: You'll hear my dog Mochi making guest appearances throughout this episode - apparently they had some strong opinions about today's topic!💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

This is the character development deep dive you didn't know you needed. The moment when fictional growth becomes your personal roadmap. In this episode of the Growing with Sol podcast, Priscilla and I deliver a breakdown of Queen of Shadows Part 2, where the men's journeys mirror your own struggles with change, trauma, and stepping into your power.We dive deep into: Why Chaol's stubborn resistance to change reflects your own fear of the unknown How Dorian's fight to maintain his identity while under attack shows you what real resilience looks like What self-inflicted loneliness teaches you about self-punishment and healing The toxic dynamics that keep you stuck and how to break free from them Why showing up for community requires you to face your own triggers And the heartbreaking beauty of characters who choose growth even when it's inconvenient This isn't just book talk. It's a mirror for your own transformation journey. Every character struggle, every moment of growth, every painful lesson – it's all here to guide you toward your own evolution.🚨 SPOILER WARNING 🚨I'm covering the entire Throne of Glass series with no holds barred.Subscribe. Share. Step into your power. These stories are waiting to shape you.Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨About my bestie Priscilla:Priscilla De Lara is originally from California now living in Milan, Italy working in international education. She is a lover of food, traveling, and reading! Fun fact: Priscilla was a college radio DJ.Connect with Priscilla on TikTok @priscillainitaly➡️ TikTok video by @V discussing the Chaol and Aelin dynamic as mirrors for each other💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program

In this episode of the Growing with Sol podcast, I dive deep into one of the most pressing issues of our time: the loneliness epidemic and how to create meaningful community in 2025. If you've been feeling disconnected, struggling to make friends, or finding dating impossibly difficult, this episode speaks directly to your experience.I explore how the concept of community has completely transformed since the 90s and early 2000s. We've shifted from deep connections with neighbors, coworkers, and local communities to predominantly online interactions with people we may never meet in person. While these digital connections can be valuable, many of us are missing the inconvenient but essential work of showing up for each other in real life.From the current state of dating (where basic conversational skills seem to have vanished) to friendships that lack consistency and depth, I break down why so many of us feel isolated despite being more "connected" than ever. I share personal stories about what real friendship looks like.This isn't just about diagnosing the problem... it's about solutions. I guide you through practical steps to build the community you crave: defining who your community actually is, honestly assessing how you show up for others, and creating opportunities for deeper connections. Because here's the truth: meaningful community isn't convenient, but it's absolutely essential for our wellbeing.Join the conversation! How do you define community in 2025? Share your thoughts in the comments or DM me on Instagram or TikTok @YourCoachMari.See you in the next episode! ✨💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program🎧 DON'T FORGET TO: Subscribe and leave a review to help more listeners find the podcast!

In this episode of the Growing with Sol podcast, I talk the often overwhelming concept of self-care by breaking it down into something actually achievable. If you've ever felt intimidated by those 20-step morning routines or elaborate self-care rituals you see online, this episode is your permission to simplify.I explore why traditional self-care routines can feel impossible when you're dealing with depression, burnout, executive dysfunction, or you're simply exhausted. Rather than adding more to your plate, I show you how to build a self-care practice that requires minimal physical and mental energy while still nourishing your wellbeing.Learn how to identify what's already working in your routine (yes, brushing your teeth counts as self-care!), how to add just ONE thing that will make a difference, and why consistency with small actions trumps sporadic elaborate routines. I dive into the specific challenges of executive dysfunction and offer practical strategies for overcoming barriers to self-care.This episode is about honoring where you are right now and creating a routine that fits your life – not the other way around. Sometimes the most radical form of self-care is lowering the bar to make it actually happen.Join the conversation! What's one small self-care habit you've managed to maintain? Share in the comments or DM me on Instagram or TikTok @YourCoachMari.See you in the next episode! ✨💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program🎧 DON'T FORGET TO: Subscribe and leave a review to help more listeners find the podcast! Share this episode with fellow bookworms and anyone on their healing journey. Schedule a discovery call if you're looking for support 

In this episode of the Growing with Sol podcast, I dive into the crucial relationship between sleep and mental health. Continuing our wellness series, we explore how quality sleep directly impacts our emotional regulation, anxiety, and depression.I break down what your circadian rhythm actually is and how it influences not just your sleep patterns, but also your hormones, digestion, and body temperature. Learn why sleep deprivation amplifies negative emotions while dampening positive ones - a combination that can seriously worsen anxiety and depression.Research shows that poor sleep quality isn't just a symptom of mental health struggles - it can actually contribute to their onset and make existing conditions worse. The good news? Creating better sleep habits can help. I share practical tips for developing a healthy bedtime routine, including nutrition considerations, screen management, and environment optimization.Whether you're struggling with falling asleep or staying asleep, this episode offers science-backed strategies to improve both your sleep quality and mental wellbeing. Remember, most adults need 7-9 hours of quality sleep for optimal health - and I'll help you get there!Join the conversation! What's your biggest sleep challenge? Share in the comments or DM me on Instagram or TikTok @YourCoachMari.See you in the next episode! ✨Resources referred to in this chapter::Book: Eat Smarter by Shawn Stevenson Circadian RhythmEmotion, emotion regulation and sleep: An intimate relationshipSleep deprivation makes us less happy, more anxiousHow Sleep Deprivation Impacts Mental HealthSleep tips: 6 steps to better sleepBedtime Routines for Adults💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program🎧 DON'T FORGET TO: Subscribe & leave a review to support the pod Schedule a discovery call if you're looking for support

In this episode of the Growing with Sol podcast, I dive into the powerful connection between physical activity and mental wellbeing. I share how exercise became a lifeline during my own struggles with depression and anxiety, and explore the science behind why movement matters for our mental health.Research confirms that regular physical activity significantly improves mood and depressive symptoms for people of all ages. Whether it's martial arts like my beloved jiu-jitsu or simply daily walks with my dog Mochi, finding movement that works for you can interrupt negative thought patterns and create space for healing.Beyond the physical benefits, sports and group activities combat the loneliness epidemic by helping us build community. If you're feeling overwhelmed or anxious, even a 20-minute daily walk contributes to the recommended 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week that health experts suggest.What physical activity helps your mental wellbeing? DM me or share your thoughts on socials!If you're looking for support in building self-esteem and confidence, I'm currently accepting clients. Click the link in the show notes to schedule your discovery call!See you in the next episode! ✨Articles referred to in this chapter:Mind-body connection is built into brain, by WashU MedicineRole of Physical Activity on Mental Health and Well-Being: A Review, by PubMed CentralDepression and anxiety: Exercise eases symptoms, by Mayo ClinicThe impact of sports participation on mental health and social outcomes in adults, by PubMed Central💬 LET'S CONNECT:My InstaMy TikTokGrowing with Sol PodcastBuy Me a CafecitoSend in questions: contact+[email protected] might just have the same taste in books. Check out my Book List.(Bookshop affiliate)🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER→ Schedule your discovery call→ 1:1 Life Coaching Coaching→ The Transformation Program→ The Evolution Program🎧 DON'T FORGET TO: Subscribe and leave a review to help more listeners find the podcast! Join the Conversation! What's your favorite way to incorporate movement into your daily routine? Let's chat! Follow along on IG, TikTok & Threads: @YourCoachMari Drop your thoughts in the comments—how has movement helped your mental health?