Emotional Healing | Don’t Tell Me How to Heal PERIOD!

In all honesty, the lady probably meant no harm and she clearly thought she was helping her friend; but the reality is when someone is going through a moment of despair the last thing she wants to hear is, “it could be worse.”   

 The fact that it could be worse does not lessen the pain she’s feeling in that moment, does it?

 Of course not! 

She may stop crying and she may even get out of bed, but it’s not because she realizes that it could be worse. 

It’s because she just realized that her friend doesn’t care about her pain – or at least that what’s she’s thinking because her friend (unknowingly) implied that her feelings are not valid.   

So, she’s getting out of bed because now she’s got to prove to her friend that she’s bigger than this  pain she’s experiencing.

Ladies!!! We gotta stop doing this to each other. 

I talk to women everyday who are hurting, broken, struggling to recover from various traumas and tragedies – abuse, rape, rejection, death, break ups – pain that has left them feeling hopeless, worthless and un-loved. As a matter of fact, I used to be one of them. 

…but they can’t get the healing they need because family, friends, society, religion have made them feel like they can’t feel what they’re feeling.

Join Natty and I at the virtual table as we shed some light on how harmful our words can be when we’re not sensitive to the trauma of others.