Ep 04: (Part 1): A Skydiver, an Ayahuasca Guide, and a 20-Year Best Friendship | Melanie Curtis & Shannon Leigh

It was a short video. Not even two minutes long. Just two friends singing their hearts that made Rachel cry, and question everything about her own friendships. This is the conversation that followed.Scrolling Instagram one night, Rachel Joy Swardson stopped on a video of two women in long coats and sunglasses, belting Starship's "Nothing's Gonna Stop Us" into wooden spoons, with a caption that read: "When you realize every love song is actually about your friendship." It made her laugh. Then it made her cry. Then it left her with a wave of regret, envy, and longing she never saw coming. So she did what The Best Friend Project does best and she invited those two friends on the show to help her understand it.In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Rachel sits down with Melanie Curtis and Shannon Lee, best friends of more than 20 years whose bond is equal parts deep and ridiculous. Melanie is a keynote speaker, world-record skydiver, and peak-performance coach; Shannon is a spiritual ambassador and master plant-medicine facilitator. Together they trace their friendship all the way back to a "love at first sight" moment on a skydiving packing mat in 2005 — and the two decades of high-integrity follow-through that made it last.In This Episode: A "love at first sight" friendship tells how Melanie and Shannon recognized each other instantly on a skydiving mat in 2005, and the 20 years of follow-through that proved it realMelanie on why being ridiculous together is actually an act of service and connectionNature taught Shannon that honesty is the default, and one of the greatest gifts we can give is to stop trying to change the people we loveBoundaries inside unconditional love and how to accept a flaky or difficult friend without abandoning your own limitsThe friendship "template”, or the sticky-note mantra that has guided Melanie and Shannon's bond for two decadesConnect with Melanie and Shannon:Melanie on LinkedinMelanie on Instagram @melaniecurtis11Website MelanieCurtis.comShannon On Instagram @luacheialuminosa and @greatspiritfarmAbout The Best Friend PodcastThe Best Friend Podcast is where original friendship research meets real-life stories. Host Rachel Joy Swardson, founder of The Best Friend Project, investigates how women find, make, lose, and keep the platonic loves of their lives through original data, personal experience, and candid conversations.To learn more, visit The Best Friend Project.co . While you're there, discover your Friendship Archetype by taking the  Friendship Survey We'd also love to stay in touch—come say hello on Instagram  and Facebook (we will follow you back!)  If you need to reach us, you can always email us at [email protected]: 0:00 Love, Hilarity & Becoming Toxic: A Preview1:00 Do Friendships Last Forever — or Grow Apart?2:00 The Instagram Video That Made Me Hiccup Sob3:00 When Every Love Song Is About Your Friendship3:40 The Regret, Envy & Joy I Didn't See Coming4:30 Meet Melanie Curtis & Shannon Lee6:20 Love at First Sight — With a Friend8:00 20 Years of High-Integrity Follow-Through8:40 Love and Hilarity: The Two Most Important Things10:00 What It Was About This Video That Felt Different11:00 Divorce, the Recession & No Time to Be Silly12:40 What It Means to Truly See a Friend14:00 Untapped Potential & Refusing the Corporate Box16:00 Recovering People Pleasers & the Power of Rebellion19:00 What Nature Taught Shannon About Honesty20:00 Loving People As They Are — Without Losing Boundaries22:00 The Friendship "Template" on a Sticky Note24:00 How I Got Unconditional Love Wrong25:00 When Resentment Poisons the Well26:00 Coming Up in Part 2Support the show