ep 06 / a peek inside your therapist's brain (p/s it's messy and human) - with Carmen Yoong

The vibe of this episode is the conversation you will overhear when you’re at a cafe sitting beside two therapists having coffee and matcha!I met Carmen in Melbourne, introduced by a mutual friend and we have not stopped talking since. She is a therapist who specialises in couples and relationships, and she is also one of the few people in my life I feel completely safe with from the very first conversation.Carmen moved back to Malaysia after her Masters in Counselling, and just three weeks before we recorded this, she took the leap and left her corporate job to do client work full time. We talked about the fear that lives alongside big decisions and why waiting for the fear to disappear is the reason so many of us never move.We also dived into the cost of following a life trajectory that was never really ours.And then we spent a long time on something I find super fascinating (and also oftentimes hard to navigate!): what it is like to be a therapist in friendships and in relationshipsOh, and of course, we talk about some money matters and ghosting your therapist hahaha.If you have ever been curious about what therapy is really for, or wondered whether individual/couples therapy is something that could be for you, this one is a really good place to start.IN THIS EPISODEWhat Carmen's first three weeks out of corporate life actually felt like, and what helped her nervous system slowly find its footingWhy the fear doesn't disappear before you take the step, and what it looks like to take the step anywayThe inner critic that says rest is not allowed, where it comes from, and what it looks like to slowly build a kinder relationship with itValues: what they are, how we figure them out, and why small steps towards living more aligned with them changes everythingThe occupational hazard of being a therapist with friends: what we see, what we hold back, and how we decide when to say somethingWhat couples therapy is actually for, and why Carmen wishes more people knew about itThe biggest misconception Carmen sees around couples therapy in Asian culturesOn ghosting your therapist: why it happens so often and what might be a better thing to doFIND CARMENIG: https://instagram.com/clarityandbondtherapyCarmen offers couples therapy, individual therapy, and a free 15-minute consultation. DM her directly.WORK & CONNECT WITH JASMINEPresence coaching programme. Join the waitlist: https://texturedlifewellness.com/coaching1:1 Therapy. Free 15-min consultation: https://tidycal.com/texturedlifewellness/free15IG: https://instagram.com/jasmineteo.jiaminWebsite: https://texturedlifewellness.com