Ep# 101: Recover From Punishing Yourself

The previous lesson about Tabitha's story on controlling the outcome when a mistake has already happened. In this lesson, Dr. Kashey talks about how she beat herself badly and went from whipping herself to getting reasonably irritated at herself. One can do some dumb things because they are overloaded with frustration tolerance or is more demanding to themselves since frustration tolerance went down. Dr. Kashey says this happens because more self-aware people punish themselves when they do dumb things and take responsibility. On the other hand, oblivious people tend to punish others when they do dumb things and take less responsibility because others must be able to fix it; therefore, they demand that they fix it. In the lesson, Dr. Kashey shares what smart people do when they experience problems. He also talks about the solutions to these problems and how perfectionism and procrastination tend to criple one from doing anything except waiting until the urge to do something is very high due to pressure. We also learn why intelligent people are exhausted, especially with themselves, and the solutions that TKN presents to such issues. In this episode, we learn that although our upbringing makes us believe that it was a requirement as a child to survive, and we often carry it as an adult, with the help of TKN, we learn how to use our brain to construct a rational and constructive priority instead of impulsive and destructive punishments.