Ep. 14 | Duane Spires: The Real Game of Success

What happens when the outside looks “successful”… but the inside is falling apart?In Episode 14 of Coffee Time with Carlos, we sit down with Duane Spires (co-founder of Success Team Coaching) for a deep, honest conversation about the kind of leadership that holds up under pressure at home, in business, and in life.Duane has a way of saying the quiet part out loud: “The way you do one thing is the way you do all things.” And from there, we go straight into the real work—integrity, self-leadership, the danger of your default future—that predictable life you drift into if you don’t make intentional changes. We break down what it means to improve by 1%, not just in your academy or business, but in your marriage, your parenting, your health, and your mindset.Duane shares powerful insight from years of coaching school owners—and also shares parts of his own story with real vulnerability. This episode is a raw view of  generational patterns and breaking the chains before they get passed down.The answers of these questions are in this episode:Why the biggest temptation of leadership is isolationThe difference between being “nice” and being kindWhy top leaders have less options… and more freedomHow to build teams and servant leaders who will eventually outperform youWhy not everyone is for you—and why standards protect cultureAnd yes… we even talk about coffee ☕️Timestamps ⏱️00:00 Intro + sponsors 02:10 Why integrity matters: one life, one standard 06:15 Business success vs. personal failure 10:20 Default future & the cost of ignoring problems 15:30 Redefining “the game” of life and leadership 21:10 Transformational work before business strategy 28:40 Breaking generational patterns & forgiveness 36:30 Leadership, circles, and having “less options” 44:20 Nice vs. kind: powerful conversations & boundaries 52:30 Building leaders who outperform you 59:50 Faith, desperation, and Duane’s turning point 1:08:40 What Duane does: summer camps, afterschool & impact 1:15:30 Final reflections + closingSponsors ☕️ Stay Humble Coffee — https://stayhumblecoffee.com/ 👣 Abstract Chimp — https://abstractchimp.com/Follow Duane Spires Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duanespires/ Success Team Coaching: successteamcoaching.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SuccessTeamCoaching🔗 Watch more episodes & updates: https://coffeetimewithcarlos.com/ 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CoffeeTimeWithCarlosMachado 📸 Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coffeetimewithcarlos/ 📸 More from Carlos: https://www.instagram.com/carlosmachadojiujitsu/ 📘 Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coffeetimewithcarlos 📘 Carlos Machado Jiu-Jitsu: https://www.facebook.com/CarlosMachadoBJJ