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Feb 16, 2026 19 min

Ep 152. Why You Feel Guilty for Having Needs (And How to Stop)

from Unfckwithable Confidence Hosted by Lonnie Mitchell

As someone who used to pretend I have no needs, I'm just chill and easy going....all that lands you is resentment and feeling burnt out. Maybe you feel guilty for saying no, for needing rest, or simply taking up space and you ALWAYS move out of the way if someone is walking toward you. We're breaking down why guilt shows up in the first place (hint: it's not a personality flaw), how it's tied to your childhood conditioning and nervous system, and the exact steps to start releasing it so you can set boundaries without apology, ask for what you need without explanation, and finally trust yourself to choose you. Because guilt isn't keeping you safe — it's keeping you small. What you'll learn: Why guilt is a survival response, not a character trait How childhood conditioning taught you to abandon your needs The nervous system connection to people-pleasing and over-apologizing Practical tools to release guilt and build nervous system safety How to reframe self-care so it stops feeling selfish ⁠Apply to work with Lonnie⁠ ⁠Connect with Lonnie on Instagram⁠ ⁠Free Energy Audit If you’re loving the podcast, tap those 5 stars and share it to your stories. Tag @lonniemitchell_ and tell me what landed for you—because your voice matters here. Every rating and share expands this movement and helps more women step into their unf*ckwithable confidence. Disclaimer This podcast and all related content [published or distributed by or on behalf of Lonnie Mitchell or lulubellalifestyle.com] is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended as professional, medical, legal, or financial advice, and may not be suitable for your personal situation. Any opinions expressed by Lonnie Mitchell, guest experts, or hosts are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Company. Lonnie Mitchell and the Company are not responsible for any results, consequences, or actions you may take based on the content. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.

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