EP 17: Tantric Dating: How to Move from Performance to Presence in Intimacy

Transform your dating life through the ancient art of Tantra. In this episode, sex and relationship therapist Julie shares how tantric principles can help you break toxic dating patterns and create deeper, more authentic connections.EPISODE TIMELINE:04:22 - Welcome & Julie's Introduction07:34 - Julie's Unique Journey: From Yoga Pioneer to Sex Therapist13:07 - Working with Gopher Football & The Marsh Wellness Center16:52 - The Energy Healing School That Changed Everything19:42 - What is Tantra Really? (It's Not What You Think)23:07 - The Three Stages of Sexual Relationships26:32 - Energy Field Exercises for Couples30:52 - Push, Pull, Stop & Allow: Modulating Sexual Energy33:37 - Solo Tantric Practices for Singles37:02 - Creating Your Personal Tantric Mantra39:42 - The Lens of Love Self-Practice42:32 - Dating Tantrically: Holding the Paradox49:37 - Modern Dating Trends & Screen Addiction52:42 - Moving from Performance to Presence56:32 - The Four-Dimensional Wheel: Body, Mind, Spirit, Emotion59:52 - Why Ghosting is Energetic Violence63:07 - Final Advice: Honesty & Holding ParadoxIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:The true meaning of Tantra beyond sexual misconceptionsHow to practice energy awareness with potential partnersPractical tantric exercises you can do solo or with a partnerWhy vulnerability is actually a superpower in datingThe paradox of being open while staying unattachedSolo tantric practices for single peopleHow to move from performance to presence in intimacy"Healthy intimate relationships are your birthright. When people get aligned in their sexuality, when their sexual life force energy is fully activated and connected to their hearts and spirits, they become the most thriving, unstoppable versions of themselves." - JulieCONNECT WITH JULIE:With over 30 years of experience in the healing arts, Julie Schmit began her journey as a yoga instructor and energy healer, helping to pioneer the yoga scene in the Twin Cities in the early 1990s. She is now a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and a certified couple’s therapist.Julie specializes in helping individuals and couples strengthen relationships, heal from trauma, reclaim pleasure, and build confidence—so they can experience more joy, passion, and intimacy in their lives. She brings a grounded, trauma-informed approach to her work, integrating somatic practices, energy awareness, and a deep respect for sexual diversity and inclusivity.At the heart of Julie’s philosophy is the belief that being truly seen, understood, and accepted is a powerful catalyst for healing. It’s her privilege to walk alongside her clients on their journey toward greater sexual fulfillment and relational aliveness.JULIE'S WEBSITE STAY CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa