Ep 181: Failure Tolerance

We open this episode on a yacht in San Diego Bay — silky robes, pirate ships, debating whether to jump into very questionable Coronado waters — deep in conversation with a brilliant restaurateur from a small town in Italy. He asked my advice and posed a question: I know I need to collect failures. But I get too much positive feedback. Where am I going wrong?My answer: I don't buy it.From there, this episode becomes a masterclass in what it actually means to put yourself out there — and why if you're not failing, you might not be going far enough.What you'll learn in this episode:Why "I don't see evidence of failure" usually means one of two things — and neither of them is that everything's going greatHow praising kids (and ourselves) for being good at something actually causes us to stop taking risks — straight from the research in MindsetThe real reason we don't recognize our own failures — and why your brain might be actively hiding them from youMy own recent failures: from missing my husband's best friend energy, to a chaotic first three weeks of summer, to courses delayed, a book half-written, health issues from 20 years of athletic yoga, and a friendship changed by necessary boundariesWhy every item on that failure list is there because I’m putting my full heart into my life — and what that means for yoursWhy if you're not failing, you may be depriving the world of something only you can give itThe design thinking concept of failing forward — and how mastering the Gain instead of minding the Gap makes it easier and more funWhy measuring progress against your ideal is a logical fallacy (your vision isn't real yet — it's a steering mechanism, not a measuring stick)Why measuring from where you started kicks you into higher brain function, makes you more creative, and actually makes you statistically more likely to hit your goalThe two questions I leave you with to uncover how YOU can fail bigger, better, faster, MORE. Mentioned in this episode:Mindset by Carol DweckThe Gap and the Gain by Dan SullivanCompassionate Observer (Bloom Your Mind Podcast) Look How Far you’ve come (Bloom Your Mind Podcast) The Moxie Mastermind Monthly Retros — where failures get collected, celebrated, and learned fromThe Moxie Mastermind is enrolling for the September cohort now. Find the application at dothebloom.com.How to connect with Marie:On the Web | The Local BloomInstagram: @the.bloom.coachAll Things Marie on LinkTreeJOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!