Ep 189: Is Your Need to Overachieve Actually a Trauma Response? | Lena Fein

Welcome back to Flip Your Mindset. Have you ever asked yourself if everything you built was not really about ambition, but about survival? Today I sit down with Lena Fein to discuss exactly that. Lena is the author of “Shattering the Mirror,” a memoir about confronting a traumatic childhood.In this episode, Lena shares her story of being raised by a mother who used power and control to parent. We talk about how she learned to disassociate and hide inside achievements so the shame in her household could not reach her. We look closely at the reality that the things bringing us praise, like promotions and pay raises, are often a trauma response. Lena also explains her path to healing and how she claimed her feminine energy later in life.About Lena Fein* Lena spent 30 years in the tech sector.* She holds a master’s degree in engineering from UC Berkeley.* She founded a nonprofit that funded health and education projects globally.* Now in her late 60s, Lena enjoys painting, singing, dancing, and writing.* She spends her time taking walks by the Bay, hugging her grandbabies, and living between San Francisco and Lisbon.Get Lena’s Book* Shattering the Mirror: Available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Shattering-Mirror-Memoir-Lena-Fein/dp/B0FDX5R89C* Also available on Audible, BookBaby, and Barnes & Noble.Resources Mentioned* Wondering what hidden patterns might be holding you back? Take the free H.U.R.R.T. Assessment to gain clarity on your emotional well-being. Discover your results at: https://flipyourmindset.com/h-u-r-r-tIf this episode spoke to you, please hit that subscribe button and share it with a friend. It helps the algorithm show this content to more people who might need it. Hope to see you on the flip side.Before you go: This episode was brought to you by the HURRT Assessment — a free tool I created to help you uncover the hidden patterns that might be holding you back. Take it at flipyourmindset.com/hurrt. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe