Ep. 19 Grieving an Abuser: The Key to Healing?

What happens when the person you're grieving also hurt you?In this episode of Full-Time Grievers, Selysa shares her deeply personal experience navigating grief after ending abusive relationships—including with her parents—and the emotional complexity of mourning people who caused harm. Together with co-host Nathan, they explore what Selysa calls “forbidden grief,” the kind of mourning our culture denies us because the person we lost was abusive, toxic, or harmful.Selysa speaks candidly about the shame, isolation, and confusion that often accompany this grief—and how giving ourselves permission to feel the full spectrum of emotions is essential to healing and breaking cycles of abuse.This conversation offers validation, guidance, and a new language for survivors, supporters, and anyone confronting the messy intersections of love, loss, harm, and healing.Free Download:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ How to Receive Support While Grieving⁠