Ep. 235 - You Can't Hate Yourself into Lasting Positive Change with Dr. Emilia Thompson

I'm honored to share today's guest with you, Dr. Emilia Thompson.  Dr. Emilia Thompson is a Registered Nutritionist, coach, mentor, and meditation teacher. She has a Bachelor's of Scheince in Sports Biomedicine, Master's of Science in Sport and Exercise Nutrition, PhD in Exercise Physiology Emilia runs a team of coaches that support people to improve their relationship with food and their bodies and co-owns EIQ Nutrition, an online compassionate approach to evidence-based nutrition for personal trainers. In today's IMPACTFUL AF conversation, Emilia and I discuss a wide range of topics, yet, somehow she manges to provide an unparalleled level of depth on each. These topics include emotional regulation and dysregulation (and the role it plays in our ability to keep the weight off for good), food rules and body image challenges (thanks, diet industry), mindfulness, and why you cannot hate yourself into positive change. This is a must-listen episode. Start listening! Connect with and Learn from Dr. Emilia Thompson: Connect with Emilia on Instagram - emiliathompsonphd Learn from EIQ Nutrition on Instagram - eiq_nutrition Work with Emilia - click here Thank you for being here. If you found today's episode valuable, please share it with a friend or family member who would benefit from hearing today's message. Follow me on Instagram - @paulsaltercoaching  Join The 5% Community. Episode Key Highlights, Quotes, and Questions: Discover how your relationship with food and disordered eating behaviors starts and ends with your emotional awareness and regulation. Learn why trying to hate yourself into lasting positive change is a recipe for short-term results and long-term regression. Understand how procrastination is yet another common self-sabotaging behavior that we all battle and how to recognize it so you can begin to implement positive changes. Discover the definition of "self-compassion" and how to mindfully begin practicing more of it on a daily basis! Questions I asked Emilia include: You yourself dealt with disordered eating patterns as a way to cope with emotional dysregulation - tell us more about that: what is emotional dysregulation?  How do we begin to learn how to get in touch with and better manage our emotions? What role has mindfulness played in helping you change your relationship with food and your relationship with your body?  What does this look like in terms of daily practices? You're a firm believer that "hating yourself into change doesn't work." What does this look like, why doesn't it work, and what's a better alternative approach for making long-lasting changes? (why is leaner better article) You wrote a great article about the desire many women have, which is to become leaner. Tell us more about the socially conditioned diet and what you've observed women want more than that. I'd like to get your perspective on the power - and downfall of self-awareness and potentially having too much of it. Talk to us about the interconnection between our relationships with ourselves, body, and food - how and why are they connected and how do we begin healing each? For someone listening who is struggling with the temptation of eating their favorite foods too often, what suggestions would you provide as a means to begin reducing this frequency and dependency on food as a coping mechanism? Based on your extensive experience working with so many people, what do you feel is the single biggest missing piece preventing people from achieving sustainable weight loss? How I Can Help You: I help women over 30 lose weight and rebuild limitless confidence so that they never have to diet again.  To date, I've personally coached more than 1,500 women and helped them to collectively lose 10,000+ pounds of body fat and keep it off for good, while simultaneously empowering them with the education, strategies, and accountability needed to feel and look their best.  Click here to learn more about how I can help you. Follow me on Instagram - @paulsaltercoaching